Content

• Steps
• Part 1 of 3: Get to Know Your Inner Child
• Part 2 of 3: Take care of your inner child
• Part 3 of 3: Develop Your Sense of Fun
• Tips
• Warnings

The inner child is the source of human vitality and creativity. Developing a relationship with your inner child can also heal emotional problems that have arisen as a result of not honoring that part of yourself. Living in an adult world can extinguish the flame of your inner child, but you can fight the pressures by accepting and re-connecting with your childhood source.

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Get to Know Your Inner Child

1. 1 Reconnect with your childhood. One way to rekindle a relationship with your inner child is to "travel in time" back to childhood. To do this, you need to make a list of things that brought you joy when you were young. Examine these memories and try to remember that miracle of childhood. You can also try doing this activity again. Here are some ideas:
   • Sports, be it football, basketball, volleyball, tennis or something else.
   • Explore nature. A picnic is a great idea for this.
   • Play games. You can change clothes and have a tea party or fight off a gang of pirates.
2. 2 Identify your special inner child. If your relationship with your inner child has deteriorated over the years, try to determine what stage of development your inner child is at right now. This will help you create a map to bring your inner child back into your life. Here are some examples:
   • Abandoned child. This inner child often happens as a result of divorce or over-employment of parents. The main ones here are the fear of being abandoned and the feeling of loneliness or insecurity.
   • Playful child. This child is a healthy, often neglected aspect of maturity. A playful child wants spontaneous fun and a life without guilt or anxiety.
   • Scared child. This child probably heard a lot of criticism in his own direction as a child, he gets anxious when he does not receive enough approval.
3. 3 Write a letter to your inner child. It can be an excuse if you feel like you have neglected your inner child and want to reconnect. It can also be a simple letter that expresses your desire to strengthen your friendship.
   • Tailor the letter to your type of inner child. If he's scared, try to calm him down and allay his fears. If he is worried about being abandoned, let him know that you will do your best to always be there. If he's playful, tell him you want to honor his carefree freedom.
4. 4 Cultivate an open space. Your inner child is a vulnerable person. He may need a safe space before he shows himself. Many people hide or deny the existence of the inner child, because they believe that it makes them look weak. In order for your child to flourish, be kind and gentle, show approval. Approach him gently, like a small animal whose trust you want to gain.
   • Sit in silence and tell your inner child that you want to know more about him, that you want to talk, and that you want him to feel safe. This may sound silly, but you are actually referring to a part of yourself and your subconscious.
5. 5 Listen to your feelings. One important way to get in touch with your inner child is to pay close attention to the feelings you have in your daily life. They are rooted in many wonderful and painful childhood experiences when you were young and impressionable. The fears and insecurities of the inner child, as well as his joys and admiration, often unfold into the emotional patterns of our adult life.
   • Check yourself throughout the day. Ask yourself "how do I feel now?" Try to put these feelings into words.
6. 6 Be attentive to your inner critic. One of the biggest obstacles that can prevent you from giving your inner child the attention and care is the voice of the critic. This voice can tell you that you are too old to have childhood fears or accept the stupidity of childhood.
   • The inner critic begins to develop in childhood. It is a reaction to the suppression of the inner child. Respect your inner critic as part of your inner child who has been bullied or bullied, but don't get caught up in negative self-talk.
   • Answer your inner critic like this: “I understand where you came from. I understand that you are offended and hurt. I'm here to support you. "

Part 2 of 3: Take care of your inner child

1. 1 Take your inner child seriously. You may want to alienate your inner child because their problems will seem out of place in your adult life. However, this is not true, since many of our deepest fears are borne by them. Avoid the temptation to ignore or neglect your inner child. It is impossible to evade it.
   • Listen to it the way you would listen to a real child. He is just as real and his feelings are just as important.
2. 2 Embrace the feelings of your inner child. You may feel frustrated if feelings of fear or insecurity are in full swing somewhere within you. But you need to allow yourself to feel this energy, because this is what your inner child is talking to you.
   • He may throw a tantrum or become discouraged. You can accept these emotions without “succumbing” to them. Recognize them, but then move on without letting them determine your actions.
3. 3 Use reeducation to heal. Reeducation is based on the idea that as an adult you have the knowledge and resources to give your inner child what he needs. If you feel that your inner child needs healing before it can manifest itself in your life at its best, then this approach is worth trying. Based on the painful experiences of his past, you know better than anyone what he needs and how to help him ..
   • For example, if your parents never gave you a birthday party, make yourself one yourself. Invite your friends and tell them that you are making up for this part of your childhood.
   • Another example: praise yourself when you know you've done something you can be proud of. Say, "I am proud of myself and my achievements."
4. 4 Protect your inner child. While you shouldn't let childhood fears hold you back, you need to be sensitive to the needs of your inner child. If you have a certain insecurity that you haven't completely overcome, respect it. For example, you may have a fear of heights that first manifested itself in childhood. Be kind to the part of you that is still unsure about climbing or jumping into a pool from a high jump.
   • Also, avoid provocative situations. If the company of specific people aggravates childhood anxieties, limit contact with those individuals. For example, if you have a brother who teases you and makes you feel unhappy with yourself, don't spend more time with him than necessary.
5. 5 Organize your living space. Make your home more open with the playfulness of childhood. Changing your surroundings will change how you feel, so give your life some childlike spontaneity and creativity. Research shows that even things as simple as different shades can affect mood. Place familiar items such as awards or stuffed animals on the shelves. Dig up old photos of you and your family and place them around the house. Try brightening the color of the walls, either by painting them or by hanging light and fun pictures.

Part 3 of 3: Develop Your Sense of Fun

1. 1 Play hide and seek. If you have children or nephews, play with them. You can also invite your adult friends to participate, it will be fun. There is a whole psychology behind the game of hide and seek that says that it is a life-affirming game of exploration and manifestation of love.
2. 2 Buy a trampoline or use someone else's. You can also rent an inflatable house for a day and invite all your friends. Physical activity can help you relieve stress, and the experience will remind you of how much you enjoyed jumping on the trampoline as a child.
3. 3 Draw or buy a coloring book. Such activities will help you connect to your childish creativity, when the objects that you draw are not just outlines on paper, they are entire open emotional worlds. Research shows that drawing helps children express emotions they may not yet be aware of in the same way that adults can. Drawing and other visual arts will help your inner child express themselves.
4. 4 Throw a dance party. Dancing, like other physical activity, can help relieve stress, and it is also a creative way of expression that reaches different age groups. Everyone loves to dance, from a child to an elderly person. Use dance to connect with your inner child in a way that also honors your adult desires and interests.
   • Don't forget to add songs from your childhood to your playlist!
5. 5 Try free writing or free drawing. This requires letting your conscious mind rest as other parts of you take over. It can be a powerful source of creativity and fun, especially if you intend to let your inner child express how they feel comfortable.
   • Use pencils, markers, or colored paper for more fun.

Tips

• If you have children, try to see the world through their eyes. When you're doing something fun together, embrace their lighthearted attitude.
• Fun can be created anywhere. Enlist the help of your inner child when doing household chores or other responsibilities. Turn them into a game.

Warnings

• Don't go so far into child mode as to neglect your adult responsibilities. Find the balance that works for you.
• Avoid people who think it is silly to act like a child. These people probably have an overly active inner critic and do not understand the importance of the inner child.