Content

• Steps
• Part 1 of 5: The Basis for Success
• Part 2 of 5: Finding reasons to talk
• Part 3 of 5: Speaking it Right
• Part 4 of 5: Reading Her Signals
• Part 5 of 5: Get Extra Support
• Tips
• Warnings

Notice how flirting phrases don't lead anywhere? Not sure how to strike up a conversation with the girl you see in the supermarket every week? Whatever problem you have, wikiHow will help you not only start a conversation with a woman, but also achieve overwhelming success. To get started, just see step 1.

Steps

Part 1 of 5: The Basis for Success

1. 1 Practice talking to strangers. There is no great mystery in conversations with women. Women are the same people, and it is most convenient for them if you talk to them, as with everyone else, and, accordingly, they will also perceive you more complacently. By simply practicing and learning to talk to strangers in general, you will learn almost all the skills you need to successfully approach and talk to women.
   • Many guys (and even some women) come up with the idea that special phrases, evasions or manipulative tricks are needed in order to talk and achieve a woman. But such tricks only attract the attention of strange women with whom you would not want to deal anyway.
2. 2 Put some effort into your appearance and smell. Now we are not talking about making ourselves attractive in the traditional sense. The problem is that when you wear clothes that do not fit well on you, do not take a shower or use deodorant, do not take care of your body, then you communicate with those people (especially women!) you will not need to make special efforts and worries. And if you don't think you are worthy of love, then why should girls think differently?
   • Smell has a special role to play. A guy who smells bad will immediately make the wrong impression. Use a good deodorant, wear clean clothes, and add quite a bit of mild cologne or body spray.
3. 3 Observe the woman before you approach her. If you want to increase your chances of having a successful conversation with her, it's a good idea to look at her a bit and analyze how you should or shouldn't talk to her. Just looking at it, you can understand some things.
   • Is she wearing something especially beautiful or something that looks like a hand-made one? This can be a good source of compliments. Is she dressed very conservatively? She's probably trying to reduce the likelihood of flirting with her, so be more delicate in your approach.
   • As soon as she notices that you are looking at her, you will be either “confident” or “weird”, so gather your confidence and walk up to her, find a way to buy her some time without looking weird. If she sees you, but you're not ready to approach yet, smile at her (or even wink) and shyly look away. This will help her know that you think she is pretty, but she won't think you are weird.
4. 4 Choose your environment carefully. Some situations will simply not be favorable in order to interest a woman in themselves (a serious setting, like a business meeting). Under some circumstances, you will immediately appear inappropriately clingy (like on public transport). Choose places that are as open and visible as possible. If a lady is too busy or feels cornered, into a trap, then she will not accept your spell favorably.
5. 5 Come without a helper friend. Some moments directly shout: “I will pick up any woman I want,” and this is just about such an assistant. If a woman feels that you are ready to catch any fish that gets hooked, she will not be interested because she will not feel special. Go yourself. With such a courageous act, you will show that you are interested enough specifically in her to take the risk and endure yourself.
   • Do not be intimidated by the girl who went out to chat with her friends. If you are pleasant and talkative in dealing with her friends, but are clearly interested in her, she will only be flattered. You want to date a girl who has good friends, and good friends want to see her with a great guy.

Part 2 of 5: Finding reasons to talk

1. 1 Talk about what's going on. Chances are, the most natural way to start a conversation with a girl is to comment on what's going on around you. See how someone does something good for someone else? "Yes, you don't often see this in our time." Someone on the dance floor fooling around? "That's why I don't dance." Be friendly and natural. As simple as that.
2. 2 Ask her a question. Another good way to start a conversation with a girl is to ask her a question. Avoid the cliché “Can you tell me what time it is?”, Because the girls understand why you are saying this, and you will seem like a slippery type. Again, treat this like starting a conversation with any other person.
   • If you're in a restaurant: "I just can't think of what to eat for dinner, so I'll leave it to fate: what would you recommend?"
   • If you are on a street where music is playing: “Do you know what this song is? I don’t usually listen to this kind of music, but I really liked this song. ”
   • If you are at school: "Do you know where the ______ building is?"
3. 3 Compliment her...but not for what she expects... If she's even remotely attractive, then guys are likely to pester her every time she goes out somewhere. You will become just another weirdo that you want to avoid, unless you somehow stand out. Don't compliment her appearance. But if you notice something unusual, she will appreciate it.
   • If she has buttons on her bag, and clearly handmade, or in her hands a book that you read and you liked it, these are the best sources for compliments, because you praise something that is unique. her, and not what can be said to some other girl, how about hair or eyes.
4. 4 "Remember" or "know" her. Let her catch your slightly confused look. After a minute or so, walk up to her and say something like, “Sorry, but I can't remember your name. I know we've met before, but I can't figure out where. I don’t want to look rude so that you think I’m ignoring you. ” Act like you just wanted to say hello quickly, maybe play a short game where you might have met before, and then pretend you're ready to take your leave. Use this opportunity to start another conversation (something about your surroundings will be the easiest to discuss).
5. 5 Be straightforward. There is some value in just walking up to her and saying, “You’re probably used to this, but I’m still new to this area, so this: We don’t know, but I like you. I consider you beautiful ... and who doesn't want more beauty in their life? " Some women like that kind of honesty.

Part 3 of 5: Speaking it Right

1. 1 Introduce yourself! Introducing yourself is just a courtesy. But do it without shaking hands or other physical contact and so that she doesn't think she needs to reciprocate with you. Say your name and quickly turn the conversation to another topic. So she will feel as if she is the mistress of the situation, she will be comfortable.
2. 2 Differentiate yourself favorably from others. As we said above, if a girl can be called attractive at least at a stretch, guys most likely tell her about it every day. There are probably a lot of men around her trying to flirt with her. If you want to be successful when you approach a girl, you need to stand out with something. Your best bet is to act as natural as possible and flirt as little as possible. Talk about something interesting, not how seductive her neckline looks in this dress.
   • Be sociable, not a predator.A guy who walks into a bar, cuts a few laps, and then finds the courage to approach women one by one, can go home alone. Most women know this type. Be sociable - talk to everyone, have fun - you are not a hungry hunter who craves game.
3. 3 Don't make a threatening impression. Leave the girl some privacy when you approach her. Never stand in her way by blocking her exit. Don't touch her. Maybe even be a little shy. When a woman feels threatened, it doesn't matter how adorable you are. She will be too focused on her safety to enjoy talking to you.
4. 4 Be humble. Boasting, bragging, and talking about yourself all the time does not impress women: it just tells them that you are focused on yourself and that you are probably awful to build a relationship with. Instead, be humble in your conversation with them and don't act like you've condescended to their company. Earn the right to speak to them. Focus your conversation on them, not yourself.
5. 5 Be sincere and honest. You don't want her to think that you are lying to her with your actions, so try to be as sincere and frank as possible. Don't try to act like someone you are not. Just be yourself and be honest about what you think.
6. 6 DO NOT ask her out on a date. It's not a good idea to start asking her out right away, even if you take a straightforward approach. When you invite a girl somewhere without recognizing her, you generally tell her that you are only interested in her appearance. If you don't already know her as a person, how can you get carried away by something more than just a pretty face? Therefore, to build confidence in yourself, invite her to an event that you regularly attend (dance club at your school, Sunday volunteering at a local shelter, at the same time in the same place where you are now, and so on) so that you could see each other again. You can also ask for her phone number, or better yet, her email address. Just give her a sense of choice and the feeling that you want to get to know her better, not just sleep with her faster.

Part 4 of 5: Reading Her Signals

1. 1 Watch her facial expressions and gestures. Observe her body position: open or closed? If she shyly fidgets in the seat and tries to isolate herself from you, then she is frightened. But if she is relaxed and looks at you openly, she is probably taking you well.
2. 2 See where her gaze is focused. If she keeps her eyes on you and flutters her eyelashes flirtatiously, she may have liked you. However, if you notice that she occasionally glances at doors, clocks, or groups of people, she is most likely feeling trapped and looking for opportunities to escape. Release the tension: Apologize for disturbing her and give her some space. She can relax enough to engage in conversation again.
3. 3 Hear what she has to say. If she answers in monosyllables and it seems that the girl is trying to end the conversation, then she is uncomfortable and you most likely will not come to anything. However, if her answers are more lengthy and she even asks you questions, then this girl is probably open to a pleasant conversation.
4. 4 Analyze what she does with her hands. If she flexes her arms, she is probably angry or offended by what you are talking to. If she presses her hands to her body or tenaciously holds her purse, she is, at best, uncomfortable. And when her hands are relaxed and she naturally uses them to gesture, then the girl is more attuned to the conversation.
5. 5 Remember that signals can be mixed. Sometimes a woman who seems supportive, friendly, or even flirty will suddenly become withdrawn and insecure. This is a natural emotional reaction to the course of a conversation and her own analysis of your interaction with her.If she becomes uncomfortable, don't push her. And remember, no matter how friendly or interested she may look, this does not oblige her to give you her phone number or go on a date with you. Don't be angry if she refuses you.

Part 5 of 5: Get Extra Support

1. 1 Become more confident. Self-confidence, as opposed to arrogance, is very important. You need to show her your sympathy and that you consider her a worthy person, while not giving the impression of a narcissistic guy. Build confidence by taking on challenging tasks and giving yourself the opportunity to do things that you can be proud of.
2. 2 Learn to flirt. Sometimes this is not so easy, especially if you are inexperienced in flirting, and she is a beauty who is constantly flirting with. If you learn to compliment the right thing, not to use the phrases of the womanizer, while focusing on her, then you will have a girlfriend faster than you expect.
3. 3 Practice starting a conversation. Starting up conversations with strangers can be challenging. But don't worry: like so many other things, this is an acquired skill. You don't have to be born with it.
4. 4 Meet women who are better than you. Meeting strangers will not introduce you to the delightful world of relationships with women in the best way. If you are tired of an unsatisfactory relationship, try to get to know someone who really suits you.
5. 5 Ask her out on a date! When you're finally ripe to invite her out with you, do it right. Don't say something offensive, rude or creepy, and don't ruin all the hard work you've done!

Tips

• Be confident in yourself. Women feel insecure.
• Practice helps you achieve excellence. You may be “propelled” at first, but don't let this confuse you. Let each failure be another lesson that will teach you something.

Warnings

• Everyone can hit their face in the mud from time to time, do not let this situation destroy your self-confidence.