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• Steps
• Tips
• Warnings

You've heard of chemistry between people or the chemistry of a sports team. Attraction and affection, as much as we are afraid to admit it, do not come from the heart. They come from subconscious feelings. Love is how the other person makes you feel. The point is, love involves non-verbal responses - synaptic (chemical) connections within our brains - despite how unromantic it sounds.

Steps

1. 1 Understand that involuntary reactions and the subconscious mind cause passionate "attraction, sometimes called love," and may be related to the immune system. As humans, we have the advantage of having a diverse gene pool. If this were not the case, one disease could destroy us all. Thus, animals and insects have developed a way to distinguish each other using pheromones and reactions in the immune system. These are scents that can influence our subconscious decision whether we are sexually interested in a person. While you like the smell of a guy, it can sicken your best friend. So if you like the scent of a man, chances are your immune system works a little differently from hers, and you may even have different blood types and different levels of some hormones.
2. 2 See point one - your eye and subconscious visual responses affect "love" in relation to "physical attributes."»Believe it or not, this is perhaps the main argument for whether a person is right for us in the decision or not. Now, in order to understand this, we need to know that, in essence, humans are not so subconsciously different from less rational animals. From a girl's perspective - if a guy has big muscles, you consciously think he looks good. What you don't understand is that you are actually deeper interested in how well he can protect you and your children. Marvelous? A tall man can exercise power over others, which is also a plus.
3. 3 Think and remember. Mental reactions and traits may be subconsciously more important factors for a woman in choosing her spouse than for a man.After all, if the person looks good but grumbles when you ask them to do something for you, you can remember it and know that they are not that good for you. Another woman may react very differently to this strong, silent type.
4. 4 Nice appearance. From the guy's point of view, it all depends on the appearance. Bigger buttocks and hips can make labor easier and increase your success rate. Women can also dress better when they are at their peak of actual fertility.
5. 5 Reaction to emotional stress. It's associated with anxiety, and even stress also has a lot to do with the subconscious brain functions of "love." There is good stress (like attraction) and bad stress (called distress). When you think you have found a promising partner, neurotransmitters are transmitted through your brain to emotionally make a good connection with that person. Have you ever lost a boyfriend / girlfriend to heartache? Chemical, nervous reactions are the reason. Dopamine is thought to be the primary reagent that provides us with strong urges, such as sex drive, over time. Romantic love isn't just an emotion - but rather, a whole motivational system with rewarded attraction to get you to stick with that person. While this is happening, we have a decrease in serotonin, which, if elevated, leads to feelings of obsession or something like addiction ...
6. 6 Feel the influence of your hormones - they have important power over emotions, including "love." If a man is interested or not interested in having a child with a certain woman (at a certain time), his animosity and oxytocin and testosterone may increase or decrease. This is because the body tries to ensure that its genes are passed on to the right person and encourages it to look for “my-type” even if it must find it elsewhere from that person or feeling. This also happens when a woman does not see a man as a person suitable for a long-term relationship, or is not fully interested in this relationship herself. The two neurotransmitters mentioned earlier are also responsible for the disappearance of love. After all, if you've done your job, had sex / raised a child, this chemical reaction is no longer necessary.
7. 7 Stay together. It may be more about family love than sex appeal after a few years. If a man and a woman care about children, family and each other - and the future of everyone concerned - then often (about half of the people) will strive to stay together in "mature love"to help each other and support the home and family long after the" raging hormones "of youth and lowered pheromones.

Tips

• Take this with a grain of salt. Love is an amazing thing. Don't let scientific explanations spoil your love for love: What difference does it make if it's "all in your head?"
• Look for articles scattered all over the internet regarding love, the brain, and neurotransmitters. Your understanding will undoubtedly increase. There is such an article in National Geographic Magazine, February 2006: "Love is a chemical reaction."

Warnings

• Don't let a piece of science convince you to be incredibly ignorant and offensive about whether teenage girls like your scent. You will not be impressed by being a nonentity. This is true no matter how big your muscles are.
• Be careful not to let this information slip into the wrong hands. You would not tell a preschooler about the origin of Santa Claus; you should not tell a teenage girl love is "all in her head" as this information can come as a shock. However, boys seem to take it much better.