Content

• Steps
• Part 1 of 3: Watch Your Communication
• Part 2 of 3: Pay attention to your friend's behavior
• Part 3 of 3: Solve the problem

Sometimes friends find themselves in a position where envy takes over. If a friend is jealous of you, then this can be seen in different ways. Monitor the nature of the communication and analyze, perhaps, she neglects you or is distant. Also pay attention to the general nature of the friend's behavior. Pessimists tend to be more jealous than others. If your friend is jealous of you, then discuss the problem and find a mutually beneficial solution. Strong friendships are quite capable of surviving jealousy.

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Watch Your Communication

1. 1 Questionable compliments. An envious friend may try to impersonate a caring person by complimenting her. That said, jealousy can become apparent if the compliments are insincere or inappropriate. Paying attention to some compliments, you can notice passive-aggressive reproaches in them. Compliments like these can be signs of jealousy.
   • For example, a friend might say this as a compliment but actually insult you. Let's say you find a new job. Doubtful compliments are usually read between the lines: "That's great. They usually don't take people with no experience, but you're in luck."
2. 2 Attempts to belittle your accomplishments. An envious friend probably has a low opinion of herself. Consequently, she will try to belittle the achievements of the people around her. If you hear good news, your friend may find negative aspects in it or arrange everything as if you are not worthy of what happened.
   • For example, let's say you got an A for a test. An envious friend might tell you something like: "Don't get ahead of yourself. There is still a whole semester ahead, so I wouldn't be in a hurry to rejoice."
3. 3 Lack of support. Good friends rejoice at each other's successes. While other friends congratulate you on your successful outcome, the reaction of an envious friend will be different. She can briefly say, "I see. Great." Such words do not sound like a sincere or emotional congratulation.
4. 4 Trying to avoid you. An envious friend may start to avoid you. In the case of envy, your successes will reflect what she doesn't have. You may notice that the jealous friend has begun to avoid your company.
   • For example, you used to see each other often, but now she is "very busy" and finds new excuses.
   • She may find time for other people in your social circle, but not for you.
5. 5 Your friend is not listening to you. An envious friend will get tired of hearing about your successes. She may not show interest when you start talking about your work, school, or new relationship. Perhaps she is looking away, distracted by the phone, does not respond in any way or does not ask questions.

Part 2 of 3: Pay attention to your friend's behavior

1. 1 Pessimism. Jealous people tend to have a negative outlook on the world. They believe that others are easily successful, while their path is the most difficult. If a friend is jealous of you, then in conversations with her you can notice a pessimistic mood.
   • Pessimists generally react negatively to your new hobbies. For example, if you want to learn something new, then an envious friend will give you a dozen reasons why you do not need it.
   • An envious friend is also pessimistic about herself. If you propose a solution to her problem, she will immediately figure out why it turns out to be ineffective.
2. 2 A friend imitates you. Jealousy often manifests itself in imitation. If a friend is jealous of you, then she may try to repeat after you in order to live a similar life. For example, she dresses like you, imitates your tastes and manners, talks and jokes about the same topics as you.
   • At the same time, in attempts to imitate, the friend may try to surpass you. For example, if you start running for 20 minutes a day, she will try to run for 30 minutes.
3. 3 Thirst for attention. Jealous people often lack attention. Pay attention to how your friend behaves around others. An envious person always tries to be the center of attention.
   • Perhaps a friend is trying to present herself in a favorable light on social networks. For example, she posts overly happy news or photos. She may be trying to befriend your other friends in order to get approval from people close to you.
   • A jealous girlfriend often needs crowd attention. She may tell jokes louder than others or try to find the funniest jokes. Also, jealous people are able to easily interrupt someone else's story with their strange story.
4. 4 Behavior in society. An envious friend may shy away from communicating with you. You may notice that she spends time with anyone but you. For example, she will stop inviting you to parties without explanation. Also, your friend may ignore you. She will complain about a lot of housework, and she will spend the evening with other people.

Part 3 of 3: Solve the problem

1. 1 Put yourself in the shoes of your friend. Think about why she feels jealous and try to understand her emotions. If she has problems, then they can provoke envy. Perhaps, without realizing it, you constantly talk about yourself and your achievements, thereby partially contributing to envy. If this is the case, try changing your relationship with your friend. The point is to understand the reasons for envy and find an effective solution to the problem in a conversation with a friend.
   • Perhaps now in a friend's life is a difficult moment. Has she talked to you about her recent problems? Difficulty at work or in a romantic relationship can also lead to jealousy.
   • Consider how you can contribute to envy with your behavior. Everything is fine between you, as long as your friend is in a good mood, but it is difficult for her to openly rejoice at your successes if trouble has happened to her. You may be overly focusing on yourself and your accomplishments.
2. 2 Discuss the problem. After looking at the situation through the eyes of a friend, talk about the problem. Wait for the right moment and offer to talk. Say, "It seems to me that lately you are jealous of me. I highly value our friendship and want to solve this problem."
   • Try to act with an open mind. Despite the seemingly unfounded jealousy, your friend may also voice claims about you. You may not have noticed your own indifference to your friend's problems.
   • Share your feelings, then let your friend express her point of view.
3. 3 Find a joint solution. If you want to keep the relationship, then you need to find a mutually beneficial solution. Tell your friend what you are not comfortable with, and prepare to change your behavior.
   • For example, agree to ask first if it is appropriate now to share the good news. At some points, the friend may not be in the best mood.
   • Make sure your friend talks about things that might make her jealous so you don't overdo it in your success stories.
4. 4 Move away from your friend. If your friend continues to be jealous, try taking a break from the relationship. You can gradually reduce the communication or say everything directly. So, you can say: "I think that given your envy, we'd better take a little break from each other. I hope you understand everything." Losing a friend is not easy, but her jealousy will poison your life. If this is better, then try to distance yourself from such a person.