Content

• Steps
• Part 1 of 4: Set clear boundaries
• Part 2 of 4: Monitor Your Behavior
• Part 3 of 4: Help a loved one get help
• Part 4 of 4: Taking Care of Yourself

Hysterical personality disorder is a disorder in which a person exhibits excessive emotions and tries to attract attention to themselves by their own behavior. Such people tend to be in the spotlight, commit provocative acts, and often experience strong feelings of inadequacy or inferiority. If your loved one suffers from hysterical personality disorder, find out how to help him.

Steps

Part 1 of 4: Set clear boundaries

1. 1 Define a framework. If your loved one suffers from hysterical personality disorder, then you need to set strict boundaries for your relationship. Such a person can at any time commit acts designed to attract attention, manipulate or cause embarrassment, including in relation to you. Be honest and direct about your personal boundaries.
   • For example, say, "If you try to manipulate me, I will leave," or "If you start acting out or humiliated for the sake of attention, then I will leave."
2. 2 Set realistic goals. Hysterical personality disorder is a complex medical condition. Your appropriate behavior is limited by a narrow range of possibilities, so it is better to set realistic goals in wanting to help. Perhaps the person will never heal, and you will have to distance yourself a little.
   • Help your loved one set their own goals. For example, help him dress, what types of sex can be developed, or how many times a day you can act out and act out.
3. 3 Reassure the person that you love them. Relationships with a loved one with HDI can be difficult and stressful. A personality disorder leads to serious problems that can lead to resentment and complicate relationships. For this reason, it is so important for your loved one to know that you love him. Say that your love and care is not limited to the relationship.
   • Say, "I love you and want to be there. However, sometimes I need to be away from you because of your behavior."
4. 4 Know how to distance yourself in time. Often times, there are situations when a loved one tries to manipulate you, is cruel, hurts, embarrasses, or hurts. Such actions can be discouraging. People with HDI are often willing to do anything to get into the spotlight. This means that they will manipulate, act out a drama, or pretend to be a victim. They can behave very defiantly, feign hatred or anger for the sake of attention to themselves. Doing this can have negative consequences for you. It is important to understand that sometimes you need to move away from a loved one in order to protect yourself and your own health.
   • Some people are unable to find common ground with people with IDD due to the nature of the disorder. Sometimes, as a last resort, you need to completely cut off communication.

Part 2 of 4: Monitor Your Behavior

1. 1 Keep calm. The best thing to do for a loved one is to stay calm. A person with hysterical personality disorder tends to chaos and drama. If you begin to react negatively in such situations, then only allow the person to get what they want. Try to control yourself.
   • If you do not react to theatrical actions of a loved one, then he will understand that such behavior will not bring the desired attention.
   • Try deep breathing exercises or move away from your loved one temporarily to pull yourself together.
2. 2 Don't react to attempts to get attention. A loved one may constantly try to act pretense in order to attract attention. In such a situation, it is best to simply ignore this behavior. Try not to fall for this bait and do not show attention, so as not to encourage such behavior.
   • Your loved one has an imbalance in chemical substances, as a result of which he is unable to control his behavior. It is better to ignore actions, rather than quarrel and not indulge.
3. 3 Maintain physical distance between you. People with HDI can easily form close attachments, which can lead to transcending physical boundaries. They are not always able to understand or comply with the established framework. They may hug, touch, or invade you more often than you would like. Individuals with HDI may interpret your actions as threatening or inappropriate. It is for this reason that it is important to maintain a physical distance.
   • For example, sit on a chair if a loved one is sitting on the couch, or sit on the other side of the couch. Stand a few steps away during the conversation.
   • Try not to take actions that can be regarded as inappropriate. Don't let your loved one misinterpret your actions. Try to be mindful of your boundaries.
4. 4 Offer alternatives. One of the main symptoms of HDI is clothing that is sufficiently provocative to attract attention. Such outfits are extremely inappropriate in certain situations (for example, at work). Encourage your loved one to choose different clothes for different situations.
   • Every piece of advice should start with a compliment. People with HDI are extremely sensitive to criticism. Give compliments to get a positive response.
   • For example, say, “I really like this costume. Make sure to wear it to a party with your friends tomorrow! Why don't you wear that black dress to work? It fits you perfectly and looks just gorgeous. ”
5. 5 Ask a loved one to argue their opinion. Very often, people with HDI talk or argue with others just because they want to get attention. They may express a strong opinion and not give any reason. In situations like this, ask your loved one to confirm their opinion.
   • For example, ask: "Why did you decide that?" or "Can you give examples to support this point of view?" You can also say: "Your statement does not seem to be true. Can you confirm this with facts?"
   • If a loved one cannot argue his opinion, then tell him that you should always express only those opinions that are based on real facts. Encourage the person to study the question so that they come to the right conclusions.
6. 6 Invite your loved one to analyze other people's words. Sometimes people with HDI can be very susceptible to other people's words and take them at face value. If you notice that your loved one blindly agrees with people or does as he is told, then try to convince him to think.
   • If a person agrees with others without trying to analyze what he has heard, then try asking questions that will help him appreciate other people's words. For example, your loved one may repeat as fact a political view that he has heard from other people. In such a situation, try asking for evidence to support this opinion. How did the person come to this conclusion? Why did you agree with him?
   • If your loved one commits actions imposed on him, then clarifying questions will help in this situation. For example, a person may change his style of clothing under the influence of someone else's opinion. Ask a loved one if he really likes it? Would he have worn it if he hadn't heard this advice? How would he behave if he did not receive such recommendations?
7. 7 Don't make excuses for the behavior of a loved one. If your loved one suffers from HDI, then often there is a desire to look for excuses for his behavior, cover him up or correct his mistakes. This is not your concern, such an initiative is punishable. Try not to make excuses or correct the situation, so as not to encourage the hysterical behavior of a loved one.
   • His actions can be humiliating to you. It's important to learn to step aside or pull back to take care of yourself.
8. 8 Help your loved one find solutions. Often people with HDI ignore decisions for dramatic effect. Encourage your loved one to seek solutions and focus on problem-solving techniques rather than the problem itself.
   • For example, if a loved one begins to dramatize the situation, then listen to him, and then say: “I see that you have a problem, but if you go in cycles, then this will not make anyone feel better. Let's try to find a solution. ”
9. 9 Explore other questions. Distract the person with other topics so they don't get hung up on trying to get attention and manipulate others. Don't let him get lost in trouble or in the spotlight. Talk about yourself or suggest doing things together.
   • For example, say, “We've been talking about you for an hour. I would like to share my experiences with you. ”
   • Distract the person exactly at the moment when he is trying to manipulate. Change the subject, turn on the TV, or offer to take a walk.
10. 10 Try not to teach the person a lesson. Sometimes close people leave a person with HDI to teach him a lesson. The reason for this act may be excessive manipulation or despair that nothing is helping. Such punishments are not effective for people with HDI, so it is best not to succumb to temptation.
    • Otherwise, your loved one may feel abandoned and make a mock tantrum about this.
    • With such an attempt at manipulation, you are likely to deceive yourself and feel complete helplessness. No need to play games. Speak directly and openly.

Part 3 of 4: Help a loved one get help

1. 1 Encourage treatment. A person with IDD needs to undergo treatment. Moreover, most often people with IDD refuse treatment or stop it after some time. Convince a loved one to seek help. If he starts treatment, then motivate him not to stop therapy.
   • Say: “I love you, but your behavior is hurting yourself and me. What do you think about the idea of ​​undergoing treatment?” You can also say: “I see that you are already tired of the treatment and even feel better, but similar problems do not dare overnight. I ask you to think about continuing the therapy. "
2. 2 Convince the person to take psychotherapy. Psychotherapy is the most effective treatment for hysterical personality disorder. Among other things, it is necessary to speak with a therapist and discuss different effective therapeutic approaches, such as cognitive behavioral therapy. Many people with IDD stop treatment almost immediately due to loss of interest, perceived improvement, or violent impulsive urges.
   • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy works with problematic behaviors, including impulsive actions, manipulation attempts, and theatrical pretense.
3. 3 Eliminate root causes. Often, people with IPD have other disorders, such as depression. It is usually triggered by feelings of insecurity, failure, and rejection. This problem also needs to be addressed.
   • In this situation, your loved one should take selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), which can improve overall mood, to combat depression. SSRIs are often used in the treatment of depression. These include drugs such as Zoloft, Fluoxetine, and Citalopram.
4. 4 Pay attention to destructive behavior. Hysterical personality disorder is often the cause of self-destruction. People with IDD are often suicidal or self-harm. Sometimes a person simply threatens with such behavior in order to attract attention to himself, so always assess the severity of the threat soberly.
   • Some people with IDD may self-harm and try to commit suicide for attention. Pay attention to this behavior of a loved one.
   • Also, people with HDI can be dangerous to others. Make sure that the loved one does not harm others.

Part 4 of 4: Taking Care of Yourself

1. 1 See a psychotherapist. Talk to a therapist about your difficulties and your feelings about a loved one with hysterical personality disorder. A specialist will help you choose the right mechanisms for overcoming problems, teach you how to effectively communicate with a loved one and control emotions. Professional advice will become good self-care.
2. 2 Ask friends and family for help. Communicating with a person suffering from HDI can lead to emotional exhaustion. It is not uncommon for a person to feel trapped and feel helpless and confused. Do not hesitate to seek support from loved ones. Find an opportunity to be away from the person with HDI and connect with others. This is the only way to get the support you need.
   • Tell friends and family about your difficulties. If the situation becomes too difficult, then seek advice.
3. 3 Don't let your loved one with HDI influence your relationships with others. People with HDI often feel incompetent or inferior, and as a result, throw tantrums or throw scenes when you build relationships and spend time with other people. Don't let them dictate your rules.
   • Your loved one may perceive your friends, partner, or even your child as a threat. Do not allow such situations. Do not fall for provocations and the desire to destroy your relationship. For example, you might say, “I have friends with whom I also need to spend time.It doesn't affect my love for you in any way. ”
   • Your loved one may be jealous or intimidated when it’s not part of your plans for the evening. This is not a reason to devote all your time to him alone.
4. 4 The loved one does not always understand your needs. Individuals with HDI often act selfishly. They often refuse to understand and respect your needs, even if you explicitly state them. They also do not understand that their actions are wrong or offending other people.
   • Accept that your loved one may never treat you the way you deserve. This is why frames and boundaries in relationships are so important.