Content

• Steps
• Method 1 of 4: Explore Your Subconscious Behavior
• Method 2 of 4: Become aware of your emotions
• Method 3 of 4: Determine what you like about this person
• Method 4 of 4: Determine If Feelings Are Mutual
• Tips
• Warnings

Attraction to another person is a wonderful experience and an amazing sensation that generates interest and desire. It can be difficult to determine whether you are attracted to a person, because the human mind itself is complex. How you think and what you value in life often determines the presence or absence of attraction.

Steps

Method 1 of 4: Explore Your Subconscious Behavior

1. 1 Notice how often you think about this person. When we are attracted to someone, we often notice that we think about this person more often than about anyone else, and this happens against our will. When there is no attraction, we remain indifferent to a person.Ask yourself the following questions:
   • "How often do I have a desire to be in the place where you can meet this person?"
   • "Am I frustrated if he doesn't answer my messages and calls?"
2. 2 Pay attention to changes in your attitude towards appearance. If you become more concerned with your appearance, especially if you pay attention to it more often than usual, then most likely this person is attractive to you. This is a sign that you care how he judges your appearance, and most likely, you care how he treats you. Ask yourself the following questions:
   • "Do I often care about how my hair looks?"
   • "Am I spending more time thinking about what to wear now?"
   • "Do I use perfume or eau de toilette more often?"
3. 3 Observe your physical reaction. Sometimes it can be very easy to calculate attraction to a person, because in his presence there is an instant physical reaction that builds up and sometimes manifests itself in a state of mind, body and soul. This is evidenced by the nervousness and the feeling of butterflies in the stomach.
   • Pay attention to your heart rate and the condition of your palms when you think of this person or know that they are around.
   • You may not even be aware of this, but when the person you are attracted to is near, you begin to behave differently. The main reason for this is the desire to impress, which is why we begin to behave somewhat unnatural in such situations.
   • It may sound strange, but whether you believe it or not, we are often attracted to people by their natural smell. Smell can trigger attraction in the same way as physical attraction. In addition, the smell can evoke associations with certain events and pleasant memories of the time spent with this person.

Method 2 of 4: Become aware of your emotions

1. 1 Reflect on how you are feeling. Sometimes a person can cause such strong emotions that overwhelm so much that you immediately understand that something special is happening. When trying to figure out if you are attracted to a person, ask yourself if you feel joyful when meeting them. This can be an indicator of attraction.
   • If you laugh at all of this person's jokes, then that can also be an indicator of attraction.
   • If you smile at this person a lot, it could also indicate attraction.
2. 2 Explore your preferences for other people's appearance. Be honest with yourself and consider if you have a preference for other people's appearance. If you prefer tall people, then most likely you will not be attracted to those who are short. List your preferences.
   • Physical attraction is a subjective concept, and what attracts one person may not like others. You should evaluate the overall appearance of the person to see if you like what you see.
   • Physical attractiveness can relate to certain facial features (eyes, nose, lips, cheeks), hygiene, hairstyle, style, and anything that creates the overall appearance.
   • It is impossible to unfoundedly say what exactly you prefer, because then you may develop a strong attraction to a person who is the complete opposite of your preferences. However, sometimes personal preference can be the underlying factor.
3. 3 Determine what might be stopping you. For example, some people do not find smokers attractive. Even though this is not a physical characteristic, this habit often interferes with attraction.

Method 3 of 4: Determine what you like about this person

1. 1 Analyze the character of the person. Think about what positive qualities you like about him, such as a sense of humor, loyalty, compassion, or creativity.Consider specific examples as they can provide you with a clue of what your relationship might be like in the future.
   • Pay attention to how trustworthy this person is.
   • Pay attention to whether this person is happy for you when something good happens in your life.
2. 2 Think how altruistic this person is. How he interacts with other people and how kind he is are all important. Most people find these traits attractive, because if someone is kind to others, then most likely they will be kind to you.
   • Examples of altruism include volunteering to help those in more difficult situations, and willingness to help friends.
3. 3 Spend quality time together. By participating in any activities together, you can determine for yourself how much you like a person and what exactly you like about him.
   • Listen actively to the person and ask them open-ended questions that encourage them to speak and share. For example, you might ask, "Tell me about your childhood and how you became who you are."
4. 4 Strengthen the bond between you. Participation in a stressful project together is known to strengthen relationships. Consider organizing a volunteer project or doing something new and inspiring for yourself, such as mountain climbing or rafting.
   • Relationships between people who go through difficult situations and tense moments together tend to become stronger, but if the event turned out to be too difficult, then the opposite effect is possible.

Method 4 of 4: Determine If Feelings Are Mutual

1. 1 Explore the indirect signs of attraction. Both men and women show hidden signs of attraction to another person. Important signs are dilated pupils, raised shoulders, and toes facing you.
   • Women, when they are attracted to someone, often play with their fingers with their hair, shake their heads or show shyness.
   • Men sometimes smile, sway, straighten, or from time to time cast a furtive glance in the direction of an attractive woman.
2. 2 Share your feelings. Sometimes it's best to be honest and confess to the person what attracts you to them.
   • Be prepared for rejection and don't take it personally if the attraction is not mutual. As we discussed earlier, there are many factors that affect attraction, and you are bound to meet someone who finds you attractive.
3. 3 Strive to build healthy relationships. For a relationship to be stable and healthy, partners need to value each other. Of course, it's great when the attraction is mutual, but if it is not, then try to switch to someone else as soon as possible, before you get too carried away by the person.

Tips

• Realize that attractiveness isn't always about looks. You can be attracted to someone for an infinite number of reasons, no matter how they look.
• Analyze if you tend to fall in love with the wrong people. If this is the case, try to get to the root of the problem in order to build more successful relationships in the future.

Warnings

• Don't ignore red flags such as lying, insulting, or self-destructive behavior, even if you are very attracted to the person.
• Do not force yourself to build a relationship if you do not like the person - such a relationship will not last long anyway.