Author:
Carl Weaver
Date Of Creation:
24 February 2021
Update Date:
1 July 2024
Content
After losing his beloved to his pride, country singer Hylo Brown hums: "Foolish pride, I will never forgive you in this life." ... How can you form a meaningful and functional relationship with a proud person?
Steps
1 Don't be aggressive. Proud people can often be irritable or even downright aggressive. These are the barriers they put up to insulate themselves from vulnerability. Recognize this character trait and resist the urge to justify this person's behavior, as this will only backfire. If the person has already proven that they are not responding to constructive dialogue, sometimes it is better to agree with their refusal at the moment. 
2 Come with relevant suggestions. A little sugar never hurts anyone! The next time you see this person, you can bring something that will lift your spirits and make you happy - perhaps a cup of coffee, lemon and candied ginger muffin, or a funny story to appreciate. A gesture of generosity, even if not always justified, can help make a difference. Sometimes, this person may not ask for help, but will accept it (or offers), even if he did not ask for it. 
3 Be intuitive. While it's best not to poke your nose, you can still observe and understand negative behavior in order to identify its "triggers". Get to the point where you can intuitively recognize when tension might arise and then find a quick way to defuse the tension. These articles can help with redirects: - How to defuse an argument
- How to avoid inconvenience when talking about religion
- How to deal with a domineering person in law
4 Don't take this behavior personally. You are not the reason for this, so see how not to take this behavior personally. 
5 Focus on general topics. Perhaps it's a job, a general opinion of a TV show or musician, or a love of overlap eating. If you want to reach a consensus, find a way to move on from the point of contention and redirect your energy towards that task. If you are in a social or family relationship with this person, find ways to develop these similarities. Go for a whipping fishing trip or gift a magazine subscription as a gift. 
6 Know your own limits. This is a popular phrase used in yoga, but it can also help you well in your relationship with a proud person. While understanding your friend's behavior, it is also important to understand what you can handle from that behavior. For example, if someone is too aggressive, try to politely find a way out. Maybe you have urgent things to do on another project, or you promised to help someone move the couch or pick up groceries. Protect yourself by creating a border. 
7 Recognize territorial and confrontational behavior. You don't have to respond to another person's stubbornness in the same way. Give in to move on. If your point of view is the best, then sooner or later it will become clear. 
8 Communicate clearly, logically, without judgment or emotion. Remain everyone with their own opinion. Also see the article "Dealing with Your Emotions". 
9 Rely on self-esteem or goodwill. Overcome frustration when a proud person cannot acknowledge your efforts or express gratitude for your help. This person is most likely grateful, he just is not able to express it in the way you expect or understand. 
10 Understand that all of your relationships with a particular person are unique and require different roles and strategies from you. In order to maintain good relations with people, whether the person is proud or not, you should show prudence, flexibility and generosity. If someone keeps this in mind, then it will be much easier and easier to relate to people, even to those with whom it is especially difficult to communicate. 
11 Ask them for help. Proud people like to be in control and maintain their autonomy. Whatever the situation, ask the person for their opinion. Consider his voice as a sign of respect. Everyone responds well to this!
