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How to perform a lap dance for your man? It's sexy, it's fun, it's harmless, it's liberating, and your partner will love it!

Attention:this article is intended for persons over 18 years of age.

Steps

1. 1 Establish some ground rules.
   • During the entire dance, never let your partner touch you. You can touch him, lick him, rub and caress him whatever you want without letting him cool down. Slow seduction is a surefire way to dance well. The whole point of a private dance is to drive a man crazy with impatience and desire.
   • You are in charge. Take your time, take control and have fun teasing him.
   • If he reaches in your direction or starts to open his arms, hit him on the wrist, and let him know that if he does it again, the dance will be over for him, no exceptions.
2. 2 To enjoy your lap dance, you need to feel comfortable. You won't look sexy if you don't feel sexy. Accept your body as it is and enjoy, no matter your shape or size. Any woman can do a striptease or a lap dance, regardless of whether she is shy or thinks that she has imperfect forms. Not all lap dancers are supermodels, they just act like supermodels. Now is your time to cherish, release your sensual spirit, and be seductive. Leave inhibitions and prejudices aside.You are a sexy goddess.
3. 3 Choose clothes that make you feel hot and sexy, and the rest will follow. There is a huge selection of clothes! These are bras, panties, garters, belts, stockings, shirts, robes, stuffed animals, swimwear, clubwear, fetish clothes with oversized buttons at the top of the shirt and much more. The bottom line is to wear something that is easy to take off. Go for it! That being said, you will be teasing the man, so it is important to open up a little flesh.
   • Start by choosing your underwear, as this will be the last thing left on you. A sexy bra, thongs, stockings (these are easier to work with) and possibly suspenders.
   • The panties should accentuate your buttocks, while the back of the panties should be as high as possible. Try high base panties, thongs sticking out of your shorts to see which works best for you. Panties that leave marks on the body after removal will have to be removed - they are probably too tight and should be avoided.
   • High thigh stockings or no garters are a sexy addition to almost any outfit. Try a pair that is easy for you to move in. If you do not plan to take off your stockings and garters throughout the dance, put your panties on the outside so that they can be removed without undoing the garters.
   • For the top layer, try small shorts, an innocent thin robe, a sexy high school teacher / student uniform, something vamp, desperate housewives, or something else like a classic red or black evening gown with retro lingerie underneath.
   • Avoid corsets or clothing that is too tight and difficult to slip out of. Also, avoid clothes with back zippers or lots of belts that will take a long time to remove.
   • Shoes with high heels are usually the most suitable for any outfit. It makes the legs matte, smoother and longer. Even if you are a little uncomfortable, try it - you won't have to walk in heels for a long time. Otherwise, wear whatever is comfortable for you. As a last resort, dance barefoot.
   • Take off as many things as you like. You can choose to be fully nude, topless, sexy lingerie, lace dress, or fully clothed. However, your loved one must remain fully clothed.
   • If you choose shoes with buckles, consider how you will take off your clothes without taking off your shoes. Stretch clothes or light dresses can be removed with shoes, but you should make sure of this in advance. No shoe options fit? Dance barefoot and turn your man on as strong as possible.
   • If you do this in heels, do not take them off (unless you take off your stockings, or better yet, keep your stockings on). You may need to put on your shoes again after removing the stockings. Shoes without webbing and straps are easier to remove than shoes with belts or buckles.
   • If you have chosen something that can be easily removed over your head, sliding seductively, pull the clothes from the bottom to the sides, while standing straight and not stooping.
   • A button-up shirt can be a very sexy piece of clothing when taken off. With the last button open, play with bare shoulders on each side, then let the shirt slide slowly to the floor.
   • Skinny pants or jeans will take a long time to take off. The pencil skirt can be easily unbuttoned and pushed down. Do this during a slight bend, and when it subsides, "get out" of it. Skirts can be removed without removing shoes or stockings.
   • Practice taking off your stockings ahead of time. For extra balance (and teasing), place your toes between your legs or on the armrests of your chair as you remove each stocking and slowly roll or roll them along the length of your leg.
   • Don't forget to tease him. For starters: Take your time to peel off each layer. Pull your skirt or underwear down a few centimeters before removing.Grip the sides of your pants, skirt, or underwear with one or two fingers and gently lower the garment to tease your loved one.
   • Pull the straps of the bra over your shoulders before lowering them. A classic way to remove a bra, which professional strippers resort to, is to turn your back to your man and let the bra fall to the floor, or with your back to him, hold the bra over your head before tossing it to the floor. Then turn, keeping your hand on your chest, and slowly move it across and away from your chest. It will look very sexy.
   • When removing your underwear, try sliding them over your shoes, or when standing straight with bare feet. Do this by bending slightly at the waist and guiding them all the way to the floor, and then step out of them. If this isn't easy for you, try bending your knees or taking off your clothes while lying on your back. Don't squat too low.
   • Do not completely undress until the very end, but when you do undress, tease the man's imagination until his patience runs out.
4. 4 Pick 2-3 sensual songs that both of you enjoy. Think of something cute and seductive. Avoid songs with big vocals. It would be nice to take something from the pop singers and divas of the 60s, at least if you want something romantic. The sensual rhythm will guide you through the entire dance. It's best if you can feel the music and feel comfortable with it. Start with 2-3 songs.
   • The first song is for warm-up. This is your time to lead your partner to a chair, sit down, explain the rules and start seducing him slowly and easily.
5. 5 You don't have to start at the very beginning of the song. Take your time, walk around your beloved, touch him, fingering his hair and feel the rhythm.
6. 6 If you have chosen 2-3 songs, you will not have to worry and finish the dance in a hurry. You are free to choose short sweet songbooks or long and languid ones. You will probably find yourself at the peak of your passion for ending them, so you can safely choose a dozen songs, then the pleasure at the end will be unforgettable.
   • If possible, burn all the songs to a CD or create a playlist on a portable player. Don't stop there, look for new songs and update your CD.
7. 7 Beginners will need to catch the rhythm and take their time in the seduction process. Close your eyes, feel the music, go into a trance and start swinging.
   • Spend 30 minutes the day before trying on clothes, as well as rehearsing poses and movements. Dance on your feet and on the floor. These may be things that you have never done before. Try to slide down the wall and then go up. Walk around at your fingertips.
   • While standing on the floor, try opening and closing your legs or leaning on your knees from one side to the other. Experiment with different angles. Sit in a chair. Caress your thighs, neck, stomach, and legs. Close your legs and then open them with the hand that spreads your thighs. Open up again. Close your eyes if you are shy.
   • If you feel uncomfortable while dancing, think of it as aerobic exercise. Stretch, bend over, sit on the splits. Use your arms, stretching them out to the sides, and pull your arms towards your fingertips. If you have practiced martial arts, yoga or Pilates, apply your knowledge to create your own sexy image.
   • Think of your dance as a tai chi session in the gym. Slow movements and a general sense of well-being are all that are needed for a good dance.
8. 8 Seduce your loved one with passionate glances. Your facial expression will reflect your sexual thoughts and activate the sexual tension in the air. Look at your body, touch it, enjoy it, and then look at your loved one, eye to eye, and notice how he reacts to you and your body.Maintain eye contact at all times. If you have your back to your partner, look over your shoulder.
9. 9 Add some accessories for your daily dance, items that you love to play with. You do this for your own pleasure too.
   • Blindfolds can help keep your partner's feelings tense. He will be intrigued to know what will happen next.
   • A pair of handcuffs or a silk scarf can be used to keep your partner's hands down if they break the rules.
   • Use a soft feather to run it over your partner's body. Sit on a chair and, keeping your body upright, slide the feather along your legs and slowly draw it from your neck to your inner thigh.
   • If you wear button-down shirts, you can use a tie. Tie a noose around his neck to bring him closer to your face, or tie his hands if he breaks the no-touch rule.
   • If you are one of those girls who like to be naughty, use your favorite toy for your pleasure and his "torture".
   • Tease him with a handkerchief or silk cape, or use them to cover up if that makes you more comfortable.
   • Use your hair. While kneeling or sitting, you are stretching your torso, pull back your hair and let it fall again. Use them to seduce.
   • Use an ice cube from a cocktail. Place the cube in your mouth and run it over your lover's body or run it over his nipples.
   • Your lips and eyes are powerful seduction tools. Try pouting or smiling classically. Play with facial expressions.
   • With a little practice, use a hat, scarf, cane, or rider costume to seduce and seduce a man.
10. 10 Create the perfect atmosphere. Subdued light, perfume, lighted candles. You can add the light of a floor lamp or a garland to the candles. The candles add a soft, warm glow to your body. Indirect lighting will be both flattering and more intimate. Avoid fluorescent lights or white LED lights.
    • Make sure the room temperature is comfortable so that it is not too cold or too hot or it will distract you.
    • Turn off all possible distractions - TVs, mobile phones, and so on.
11. 11 Clear the area where you will be dancing so you don't bump into something.
    • Make sure the chair your partner will be sitting on can support both. Sit on him and imagine yourself in his place, and then - as you sit on his lap.
12. 12 Send him a seductive SMS or cryptic email, but make sure he doesn't get it too late. The invitation will intrigue him and make him burn with anticipation all day. Alternatively, do not send anything, but give him a surprise. In any case, you will need time to prepare the "scene" and also to calm yourself down, especially if this is your first time.
13. 13 Turn on the music and guide your loved one to the chair. Let him sit with his legs crossed. Start by looking him straight in the eye with a teasing smile. Move around the man, touch him, fingering his hair and move to the rhythm of the music. Explain the rules and start dancing slowly, easily and seductively.
14. 14 Switch your gaze between him and yourself, touching specific areas of your body. Run your fingers through your hair, then work your way to the back of your head, over your chest, then down to your thighs and along the front of your body. Moving your hands, imagine that these are his hands. Enjoy the touch of your (his) hands on your body. Constantly touch your body and move them from the sides towards the back of the head. Look into his eyes and try to slowly and gently wrap his head around his head (head falls forward and then rises up), letting your hair fall onto his face.
15. 15 Then try moving your hips. Move so that your groin is in the area of ​​his knee, then bend over as if you are about to kiss him, and linger in this position so that he can smell your perfume, and then pull away sharply.
16. 16 Take a few steps in front of your partner. Think sexually and manifest it in your movements. Start moving your hips to the beat of the music in gentle circular motions. Close your eyes for a few seconds and enjoy the moment. There is nothing around you except your partner. Take your time, slowly approach him, putting forward one or the other leg, in a cat style. Get close enough to take your lap dance to the next level.
17. 17 Try to continue the lap dance, swaying between your partner's legs, bumping your body against his groin. Turn around and sit between his legs. Bend over, sit on his knees and move slowly (and gently).
18. 18 Step back and start taking off your clothes. The top must go first. Seductively and gradually remove another item or two items of clothing (perhaps a skirt or shorts) and return again to your partner. Get close enough to practically sit on his lap. Lean on him sensually, and let him feel your hot breath and soft passionate moan. Biting gently on his ear or touching his neck with a brush, inhale the scent of your loved one to show him how pleasant his scent is to you.
19. 19 Try some seductive floor movements. Look him in the eye and caress yourself in different places and from different angles. Try a crawling motion and then return to the starting position again.
20. 20 Throughout the private dance, keep fondling yourself and don't get too close to your partner for too long. Come just for a moment. Remember, eye contact is very important. Let your eyes convey all these sexual thoughts, and remember to smile.
21. 21 If you're in a playful mood, walk up to him again as if you're going to take him with all your passion, but instead kiss him on the cheek, step back and put your clothes back on. Then go to another part of the house or go for a walk. You may have to run.
22. 22 Try it a few times in different costumes, styles and different music and you will soon become an expert in all sexy dances. The possibilities are endless and the results are always great.
23. 23 Finally, take off all your clothes and tell him that your body belongs to him. Your partner will love it!
24. 24 Get ready for sex. Don't forget about contraception!

Tips

• You already know how to take off your clothes, because you do it every day. So you can safely start practicing striptease - just change your tactics, shoot it in such a way as to remain naked or half naked. Unbutton your shirt with one hand and hold the other on your hips. Take off your jeans slowly so that you can see your underwear first, and then push them slowly downward, swinging your hips from side to side. You can do the same with the skirt, and when it is on the floor, "get out" of it. Roll the tights or stockings gradually down, one leg after the other, until you roll them down at the very feet. Practice removing your bra by holding it over your head. Pull the panties down, then let them fall to the floor, and get out of them. You already know all the movements, you just need to revive your memories a little.
• Always be mindful of your hips. They are the basis of every movement, gesture and suggestion. Keep them moving.
• Wear sexy lingerie more often to make you feel comfortable in it. Wear sexy lingerie under your work clothes or when going to the supermarket, and practice taking it off slowly when you get home. Practice and practice again.
• As you bend over to his side, crossing your arms across your chest, gently squeeze your breasts together to create additional volume. Your chest will become rounder and larger if you apply pressure from your forearm.
• The key to a successful lap dance lies in the ability to move and touch your body before moving on to more intimate caresses, when the "victim" is already helpless.
• You don't have to take off all your clothes. Behave sexy, do everything to make his emotions go wild. You don't have to be completely naked to arouse him. The main thing is that you feel comfortable at the same time.
• If you are dancing barefoot, or once you have taken off your shoes, try dancing on your toes. Dancing on tiptoe will help you achieve the same physical effect as in shoes and make your legs look longer, thinner and more elastic. This will force you to straighten your chest, arch your back, and accentuate your calves as an added bonus.
• The key to a successful erotic dance lies in the multiple layers of clothing and how you strip them one layer at a time.
• As you move your hips from side to side, keep your arms up in the air with your wrists crossed. This will make the breasts more visible. This is a great stretch, among other things.
• Each time you place your hand on your hip, make sure your fingertips point up and your wrist drops so that the arm and wrist form a V. In this position, the shoulders remain straight, the body lengthens and creates a beautiful hourglass effect.
• A slow, hot dance will make you feel sexy. Walk confidently with your hand on your hips and show your body.
• Some classic songs for lap dance:
  • Prince - Cream
  • Prince - Peach
  • Madonna - Justify My Love
  • Gwen Stefani - Luxurious
  • Justin Timberlake - What Goes Around Comes Around / My Love
  • Nine Inch Nails - Closer
  • Timbaland - The Way I Are
  • Beyonce - Freakum Dress
  • Kylie Minogue - Chocolate
  • White Stripes - I just don’t know what to do with myself
  • Goldfrapp - Ooh La La
  • Kyuss - Gloria Lewis
  • Jimi Hendrix - Hey Joe
  • Joe Cocker - You Can Leave Your Hat On
• Imagine that your hands are his hands. Touch yourself where he would like to touch you.
• Use your environment. Lean your back against the wall, wriggle, slide on your haunches and rise again. Use a spare chair. Move forward and backward or sit to the side of him to remove the stockings with the leg extended in the air, one at a time.
• Stand slightly at an angle and turn your head towards him. The corner profile looks very flattering in soft light. Hollywood movie stars use this technique in films for a reason.
• Remember, you need to feel comfortable.
• Stripper Stance: Bend backward, chest forward, wearing stiletto heels, or standing on tiptoe, gait slowly with outstretched toes whenever your foot is off the floor. Each time you lift your leg, bend it back and up before placing it. While striding, try placing one foot directly in front of the other, like a model on a catwalk, only slowly. Practice walking like this will make you feel taller, more dominant, and sexy.
• After taking four to five steps in one direction, pause, stop with one or two hands on your hips and look into his eyes.
• If you are drinking, take a few sips of wine or cocktail to calm your nerves. Have your partner take a sip too, or as much as you decide to allow him to keep him toned.
• If you're nervous, practice in front of a mirror a few days before the event. Then, when the time comes, just imagine yourself dancing in front of a mirror.
• Start wearing stockings instead of tights. Wear high stockings or garter stockings under your jeans when doing chores, or when you go to the supermarket if you're too shy to wear them with a skirt.