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• Steps
• Tips
• Warnings

Raising children is a difficult and painstaking business. As with any job, parenting requires skill and skill. Parents who do not resort to physical punishment during parenting may not choose the easiest path, as parenting requires a lot more foresight, planning, time and creativity. Read this article for helpful tips on how to be a successful parent.

Steps

1. 1 Refuse to use physical punishment. This may seem like an overly simple requirement. But believe me, it is very easy to tell yourself and others that you will never spank your children, but it is very difficult to keep that promise.
2. 2 Talk to your family and friends. The best way to eliminate physical punishment is to allow others to observe your child's good behavior. Offer your family members alternative methods of discipline if you see that one of them may raise a hand against the child.
3. 3 Learn more about your child's development (see. link below). Knowing your child's age can help you change your parenting model. Find out what your child is capable of understanding at their age, such as how they process information. This information will help you determine when to discipline and when to simply ignore his behavior.
4. 4 Try different methods. Some may be more effective for you and your child than others.
   • Let your child feel the natural consequences of their actions. The basic concept of this method is this: let nature do its thing when it needs to. Here are some examples: If a child drops a toy, it may get lost or broken. If a child leaves an umbrella at school, they will get wet the next time it rains. If a child has forgotten lunch at home, he will be hungry until he gets home from school.
   • Let your child feel the logical consequences of their actions. The child should feel the logical consequence of his actions when there is no natural consequence (for example, if brother A breaks the toy of brother B, who is younger than him), or when the natural consequence may be too dangerous (for example, if the child tries to run out into the middle of the road). Explain to your child what the consequences of bad behavior can be. If the child has misbehaved, you can make some restrictions on his usual schedule. For example, do not read a fairy tale if your child is still small, or deprive something that is dear to an older child. Such punishment can be worse than the use of physical punishment.
   • Distract your toddler. For infants and toddlers, distraction can be effective. All you have to do is switch the child's attention to another activity. For example, if your child wants to jump on the couch, invite him to go outside and jump on a trampoline or take a walk in the park (you satisfy the child's desire to be physically active), or you can invite the child to do creative work (however, this may be less effective.if the child wants to engage in physical activity). You should try to find alternatives to the child's inappropriate activity. The closer your alternative is to the child's wish, the more likely you are to succeed and be able to shift your child's attention. Your proposed activity should sound as tempting and interesting as possible. By switching attention, the child will very quickly forget what he wanted at first.
   • Positive discipline. Learn to view your child's bad behavior as an opportunity to teach them something new. (After the child has reaped the consequences of his behavior, such as his toy is broken, you could show him how to put things in order.) Also teach by your positive example and offer alternatives. Instead of saying, "Don't do this," say, "Why don't you do this, instead of ...".
   • Reward the child. You can use the reward method in addition to other parenting methods. It all depends on you, praise the child for his good behavior (for example, thank him for his help, be sure to tell him how he was nice and quiet in the last half hour, etc.) Notice when your child is behaving well.
   • Use a point system. Give points for good behavior, and take credit for bad behavior. In some families, balls are exchanged for gifts. In other families, balls are associated with privileges, if the number of balls falls below a certain level, this can lead to the loss of benefits. Be careful that the child does not start doing something just because of the balls, and not because it is the right thing to do.
   • Try these methods, and use your own if they work in your family.
5. 5 Search the Internet for helpful websites. You can find useful information here: www.nospank.net; www.stophitting.com. Be sure to read the article "How to discipline your child."
6. 6 Make it a goal not to resort to physical punishment in raising your child. If you are used to hitting your child, it may take some time to change the course of parenting.
7. 7 Analyze the results. Look at your child's behavior when you are not using physical punishment. Has anything changed? What methods are effective in your case?

Tips

• Speak directly and do not take your eyes off your child's eyes. You have to stay firm and tell your child sternly that they misbehaved. There is no need to shout, just speak firmly and sternly.
• Children learn from their parents. Parents who behave aggressively have children behaving in a similar way. Parents who can handle conflicts tend to teach their children to do the same by example.
• When you feel the need to spank your child, allow yourself to cool down and assess the situation objectively.
• Come up with possible punishments, and increase the punishment for repeated misconduct. What if your child is rude, doesn't listen to you, does something wrong, etc.? Don't try to create rules for every possible situation. You can evaluate all these actions as disobedience.
• If you've hit your toddler before by giving up this parenting method, you may notice a deterioration in behavior before the child gets better. This is normal, as the child is simply testing you to see if you really will not hit him again. Provided you choose the right parenting method, his behavior will improve within a week or so.

Warnings

• Many people mistakenly believe that there is no alternative to flogging. It's a lie.
• Some of your immediate family members (ie, parents, siblings) may not approve of your decision to opt out of physical punishment. Reassure them that you are not really spoiling your child and provide examples of your successful parenting.
• Your spouse must support your decision.If you are not sure about the correctness of the chosen course, you can check it for a month to see how effective it is in your case.
• Avoiding whipping does not mean that you are not raising a child. You must be an active participant in your toddler's discipline. This means that you will not put up with the child's bad behavior, warn him in advance of possible punishment, and stick to your words when the child misbehaves.
• Let others know that you disapprove of physical punishment, and encourage others to follow your example. Be prepared to use multiple methods if needed.