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There are many reasons why people feel lonely, such as social clumsy and intentional isolation. Some people even fall into loneliness even though there are many other people around them, and the reason is that they lack a meaningful connection with these people. Sometimes, each of us experiences loneliness, and it is certain that the feeling is never pleasant. To overcome loneliness, it takes a variety of steps, such as meeting new friends, learning to appreciate time alone, and reconnecting with your family. To learn more about how to get out of loneliness, take a moment to look at the tips below.

Steps

Method 1 of 4: Understand Your Feelings of Loneliness

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   Find out why you feel lonely. For a positive change that can help, take time to find out why you feel lonely. For example, you may feel lonely because you have few friends around. If that's the case, go out and start making friends. However, after making many new friends, you will still feel lonely if that loneliness comes from you having too many friends but there is no spiritual or meaningful bond between them. . The following questions can help you find the true root cause:
   • When do you feel that you are the most lonely?
   • Are there certain people that make you feel more alone around them?
   • How often do you get this feeling?
   • When you are lonely, what do you usually want to do?

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   Keep a journal to capture your inner thoughts and feelings. Journaling can help you better understand feelings of loneliness and can also be seen as a great way to relieve stress. To start your journey of taking notes, choose somewhere quiet and comfortable and plan to spend about 20 minutes a day writing. Write down your own feelings or thoughts. Or you can use the content prompt. Some suggestions for reminders to consider include:
   • "I feel lonely when ..."
   • "I feel lonely because ..."
   • When did you start feeling lonely? How often do you get this feeling?

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   Practice meditation. Some studies have shown that meditating can help alleviate feelings of loneliness and depression. Meditation is also a great way to better understand the loneliness lurking in your soul as well as help you know where they come from. Meditation takes a lot of time, practice, and guidance. Therefore, it is best to find a meditation class around your area. If there are no classes around there, you should invest in buying a CD showing how to calm your mind.
   • Before you start doing the exercises, find a quiet place and relax your body. You can sit on a chair or a cushion on the floor while your legs are crossed. Close your eyes and focus on your breathing. When focusing on your breathing, don't be distracted by other stray thoughts. Ignore everything around.
   • While closing your eyes, imagine the world around you. Don't forget to pay attention to your feelings. What do you hear, smell what scent? How do you feel physically and mentally?

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   Consider talking to your doctor about how you are feeling. It's hard to express why you feel lonely and how you get over it. Experienced psychologists can help you understand and overcome loneliness. This may indicate that you are in decline or that your inner mental health is not stable. Talking frankly and talking to a therapist can help you learn what's going on and take effective action to get rid of it.

   

   
   
   Chloe Carmichael, PhD
   

   Experts say: If you want to know why you are lonely, then finding a mental health professional is the smartest option. You can join clubs, go out socially to meet people, and make a list of people you need to keep in touch with, but if this doesn't work and you seem stuck then the therapist can help you overcome those thoughts and feelings.

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Method 2 of 4: Making Yourself Comfortable

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   Realize that you are not alone. Loneliness is merely part of being human, but it can also make you feel like you're out of the ordinary. Meet and talk to a close friend or family member about how you are feeling. When you fully express your feelings for them, you can also ask if they've ever felt the same way. The process of meeting and sharing your feelings with someone will help you realize that you're not as lonely as you might think.
   • Try saying something like, "Recently, I feel lonely and I want to know if you have never felt like that."
   • If you don't have a close friend or someone in your family to share with, talk to your teacher, psychologist, or even priest.

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   Forward. Instead of focusing on how lonely you feel, do something to keep your mind off of this. Take a walk, ride a bike around, or read a book. Spend more time exploring your activities and interests, and don't be afraid to try something new. The experience will give you the foundation to confidently speak in social situations (giving you the opportunity to chat with more people) and open up stories that interest others.
   • Keep busy. Free time is the reason that makes you feel lonely. So, don't forget to plunge into work or extracurricular activities.

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   Do social activities myself. If you can't get someone to hang out all day, don't let that stop you from going out and enjoying yourself. For example, if you want to go out to dinner or watch a movie, do what you want. While it may sound a bit weird to do those things on your own while you can do them with others, don't hesitate. There is nothing strange about being yourself and doing everything you want to do. Once you remember why you did these things in the past, you can do them again much easier!
   • If you go out to eat or drink coffee by yourself, don't forget to bring a book, magazine or diary. At this point, you will have work to do (busy) while wanting to interact with something. Remember that people often go out alone to spend more time with themselves; It's not like when you're sitting alone, people will think you're lonely and don't have any friends.
   • It will take quite a while to get used to feeling going out on your own. But don't give up on this even if you're a little awkward at first.

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   Think about having a pet. If you are making an effort without asking a friend or relative, consider keeping a cat or dog from your local animal shelter. For many generations now, pets are considered as a reliable family companion of humans. Therefore, winning their hearts will give you a valuable experience.
   • Be a responsible employer. Make sure your pets have been spayed and that you should only welcome them to your world when you are ready to take on the responsibility of taking good care of them.
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Method 3 of 4: Reintegrating into Society

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   Actively participate in activities. To make new friends, you have to step out of your shell and integrate into the outside world. Try joining a sports league, signing up for a gifted class, or becoming a volunteer in your community. If you're shy or shy, sign up for a group of members with phobia symptoms, even if it's just an online group. For more ideas on what to do in your area, look for sites like Craigslist, Meetup, or local online sites.
   • Don't focus entirely on making friends and meeting people. Be boldly integrated into society and don't expect too much. You should allow yourself to be amused and comfortable no matter what. Do what you enjoy while joining groups of people like book clubs, church choirs, political campaigns, concerts and art exhibitions.

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   Challenge yourself by volunteering to initiate social relationships. Getting to know new people requires you to start from the very first step and invite others to join you. Don't just sit still and wait for someone else to talk to you. Instead, boldly approach them first. Ask if they want to chat or have coffee with you. It's best to show them how much you care about them before they show interest in you.
   • Be yourself when you are getting to know someone. Don't try to impress a new friend by lying or bragging about yourself. That could put an end to the budding new friendship.
   • Become an understanding listener. Concentrate as much as possible when everyone is talking. It's important to respond to the story your best friend just told her to show her that you have been listening fully. If not, she will assume you don't care what she says.

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   Spend time with family. Your deep and strong relationship with family will help you break free from feeling lonely. Even if you haven't had any sweet memories with a family member in the past, you should improve that relationship with a sincere invitation. For example, you could invite someone in your family that you haven't seen for a long time for lunch or a coffee for a chance to meet and chat.
   • As you work to improve or enhance your relationship with your family, you can use the strategies that you have used to make new friends, such as first inviting, confident. and become a discerning listener.

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   Make sure your presence makes others feel good. Proactively engage someone on your side by showing them that you are an interesting companion. Praise instead of criticizing and criticizing. When you accidentally comment on someone, don't scrutinize their clothes, habits, or hair tips. They don't need you to remind them that their shirt has a slight stain when they have no way to deal with it. What they want to hear here is you either compliment their sweaters for style or you have read through the article they wrote. Do not overdo it. You should simply mention something you enjoy. This is seen as one of the best ways to break the ice around and help build strong trust over time as people will realize that you are not criticizing or disparaging them.

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   Join the online community. Sometimes, communicating with the online community can be easier than communicating in real life. However, keep in mind, the benefits of interacting online cannot be compared with direct contact. Even so, the online community can sometimes become a convenient place for you to share your thoughts and experiences, or to ask questions of someone in the same situation. Online forums also allow you to help other members as well as help yourself.
   • Always be vigilant and secure when online. Not everyone is telling the truth about them. They can be predators seeking and setting up lonely souls.
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Method 4 of 4: Enjoying Loneliness

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   Distinguish the difference between loneliness and loneliness. Loneliness is when you feel unhappy in being alone while loneliness is when you are still happy and know how to enjoy yourself while alone. There is, of course, nothing wrong with loneliness, a desire and the enjoyment of aloneness. Alone moments are really enjoyable and helpful.

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   Learn to be perfect and make yourself happy. Usually, we tend to spend all our time with others, neglecting ourselves. If you are going through a period of loneliness, use this time to do all you want for yourself. This is a wonderful opportunity and you deserve to be happy!

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   Consider joining the gym. Exercising health and taking care of the body is the first thing we put aside when we are too busy with work. If you spend a little time with others, use that time for exercise. When you work out at the gym, you'll have a chance to meet new friends or even meet someone really special in your heart!

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   Learn new skills. Taking the time to explore a new hobby for yourself will help you overcome feeling lonely, even if you do it yourself.You can learn to play an instrument, draw painting, or even learn to dance. These subjects not only help you meet new people, but also give your emotions a creative direction. Turn loneliness into something better!
   • Treat yourself to a delicious dish cooked by your own hands or cook for your friends and neighbors. Cooking is an art worth performing. You can focus on cooking healthy food.
   • Don't be afraid to join a club to share with members who share the same interests as you.

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   Do something great. People often dream of doing something big, but they have thousands of excuses to get rid of it. Have you ever dreamed of writing a book or making a movie? Use these moments of loneliness as an excuse for such wonderful actions. Maybe they will help you out of loneliness, who knows? advertisement

Advice

• For someone you happen to know, don't be in a rush to see them as true best friends and put all your trust in them. Your trust needs to be built slowly and you have to accept who they really are. There's nothing wrong with making new friends because you'll feel comfortable meeting face to face and sharing your story with a certain group of friends, while there will be a group of close friends you trust. to tell all private stories. Think of communication as concentric circles.
• Realize that people can still feel "alone in a crowd." You can have friends, family, and acquaintances but still feel lonely. For some, opening up to the people around can be difficult. In this case, they should seek the help of a psychologist.
• Learn to be content with yourself. When you learn to love yourself, it shows in the outside. People are often attracted to confident and optimistic people.
• Realize that it is not love alone that makes you happy. How hard it can be to see your friends go out and date or feel like it's okay to not know someone. However, you don't have to go on a date to get the feeling that you're part of society, or that you are in the arms of those who care about you. Simply make new friends and only really date when you are ready.
• Remember, the reason you're self-conscious is because everyone is self-aware of what they do. People don't focus on criticizing your mistakes. Instead, they tend to torment themselves more about their mistakes.
• Create an atmosphere and positive personality. Realize that loneliness is a good time to try something new, relax your mind and foster creativity. Lots of famous people take time to be alone.
• Always be yourself! You don't have to be someone else to make someone like or be with you. Each person will have different styles and specialties. Take the time to take care of yourself and learn the good qualities that are hidden inside you. People love you because you are yourself, not someone you try to imitate.
• Sometimes, you are the one who expresses yourself clearly. Don't turn yourself into that person, even if you experience a brief embarrassing moment. Things will be all the better if you spend time outside, meeting other people and not afraid to challenge new things. Love yourself so that others will love you in the same way.
• For people of religious beliefs, consider joining a group of people who believe like you. Most churches have several such groups. If the church where you live does not exist, call for it.
• Taking a break will help you remember everything and calm yourself down.
• Think of a place that makes you happy or want to go.
• Listen to music or read a book with the second person in you because it will make you feel like someone is talking to you.
• If you still feel lonely, consider finding a friend to share a room with or live with your parents. You can have pets, like dogs or cats, if you want!
• If you are quiet and quiet, be confident! People won't be able to recognize you or get to know you better if you don't draw attention.
• Spend time enhancing and perfecting your talents, such as joining a dance club, church choir, music class, ... You will have the opportunity to meet new members with similar interests. !

Warning

• Certain gangs or cult groups will take advantage of your weakness and loneliness to have a negative impact on you. Therefore, you should be alert and listen to advice from others about whatever group you plan to join.
• If loneliness persists, seek medical help. It could be a sign of depression.
• When you feel lonely, temporarily stay away from social media sites like Facebook or Twitter - they won't do any good to your social relationship. Not only do some people have a grudge against these websites, but seeing some of your friends "update their status" with interesting activities also worsens your mood. Instead, do outdoor activities, like hiking, playing with your dog, or going for a walk with your siblings indoors.
• Over-reliance on the online community as a personal social path will cause addiction and complicate things. You should only use them as a tool for meeting like-minded people around your area and making an effort to get to know your online friends. This is considered to be an effective filter to help you recognize similar interests. However, don't expect people to be offline like you while they are online.
• You may run into a few mean people in a negative group. Try to join a positive group and mingle with kind members.