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The passing of a grandparent is often a child's first experience of loss and grief. Coping with this loss can be difficult and time consuming. Grief has a different effect on everyone, regardless of age. There is no right or wrong way to overcome the grief of a grandparent's death, but you can use healthy methods to deal with grief.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Find other people

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   Talk to family members about grandparents passing. You can find your parents, siblings or anyone you feel close to. Talk about loss as a way to relieve grief. You can ask about your grandparents' lives, especially if you don't know them well enough. Focusing on the passing of your grandparents is one way for all family members to overcome grief.
   • You can start by asking your parents, "Where did you go?" or "Why did she have to leave?"
   • If you are the one to answer your child's questions about the death of their grandparents, use simple and understandable language. You can respond as follows: “I know she has had cancer for a long time. It is not like when you have a cold, it is very different. Everyone expected her to be well, but she did not survive, and now she has passed away from cancer ”.

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   Don't be shy or embarrassed to cry in front of others. Even if you think crying in front of others is embarrassing, when you express your feelings, you can express your grief and help others to express it. Feel free to cry and express your feelings about your grandparents' passing. You should also support other family members or friends in this grief. Give them a hug or comfort them in some way.
   • Parents when talking to a child about a grandparent's death should be open to expressing their feelings, crying or being naturally upset. Children will take it as a sign to allow themselves to cry or grieve over the loss.

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   Attend grandparents' funerals with family, if possible. While it can be difficult, attending a funeral can help you express your grief and accept that your grandparents are gone forever. Traveling with family can help you feel supported and comforted in that traumatic moment.
   • Parents may ask if the child wants to go to the funeral to say goodbye to their grandparents. Allow your child to make choices about how he or she feels comfortable attending funerals. Usually, children will opt to participate so they can say goodbye to their grandparents.
   • If your child decides to attend a funeral, you should tell them ahead of time what will happen there. Let them know they can line up behind other loved ones and see their grandparents' faces one last time, or they can just stand aside. Explain what a coffin is, and the grandparents they might look like are sleeping inside. You can also tell the funeral server privately that you have a child with you.

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   Share your fear of death with a close friend. If you have close friends who have experienced loss, reach out to them to share your fears and feelings. Talking about your feelings to others will help you process them and feel a little better.
   • Parents should also emphasize that the grandparent's death is not the child's fault but the illness or accident. Children may feel fear and worry about death, and they may even blame themselves or feel afraid that other loved ones will soon leave them. Be patient and explain that the death of their grandparents was due to a specific cause, and it is often more difficult for the elderly to overcome illnesses.
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Method 2 of 3: Remembrance of grandparents

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   Create a memento to honor your grandparents. Sometimes, it helps to have something tangible to remember the deceased. It can be a photo gallery of grandparents or a picture painted and framed by yourself. After that, you can hang them in a special place in your home or room so you can always remember your grandparents.

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   Visit grandparents grave. Take time to visit your grandparents' graves. You can bring flowers or souvenirs to your grandparents' graves to pay homage to them. It also gives you the opportunity to “chat” with your grandparents and share all the feelings you have. Often times, visiting a deceased person's grave is also a form of grief relief.

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   Write letters to grandparents. Another way to remember grandparents is to write a letter or story about them, or perhaps a story dedicated to them. Then, you can keep the letter in a safe place and bring it back to read whenever you feel sad about their death. Expressing your feelings in writing will help ease your grief and accept the loss.

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   Share your grandparents' memories and stories with other loved ones. Another way to show respect to grandparents is to keep the memories alive by sharing them with other family members. It could be a funny childhood story from someone's grandparents told to you by someone else, or a memory you had with your grandparents while they were alive.
   • You can make this a tradition for every grandparent's birthday or death anniversary. Having one or a few fixed days to commemorate your grandparents will help people less likely to miss the deceased.
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Method 3 of 3: Seek professional help

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   Talk to the counselor at the school. If you are young and find it difficult to overcome the passing of your grandparents, you can seek out a counselor at the school. Talking about your feelings and current challenges will help relieve your sadness. Often times, grief can lead to other problems, such as poor schooling or alienation. Sharing your feelings with the counselor will help you to feel less grieving.
   • The counselor can suggest ways to overcome your pain by participating in extracurricular activities that you enjoy. They can also help you identify triggers that trigger sadness or depression.
   • Counselors can also guide positive strategies for turning negative emotions into healthy actions, such as practicing relaxation, communicating with family and friends, getting enough sleep and eating. healthy.

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   Talk to a therapist if you were obsessed with or depressed by the passing of your grandparents. You can also seek the help of a qualified counselor or therapist in dealing with loss. Talk to your parents if you are still young and feel constant grief, or the pain interferes with your daily activities.
   • The therapist may suggest that you write down your feelings in a journal, do role-playing exercises with you, and help you handle any feelings of "unfinished things" with your grandparents, thanks There, you may feel less guilty.

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   Join a support group. There are many groups that can help you through the pain of losing a loved one in your area or online. Look for groups of people who specialize in helping to overcome the death of grandparents or the elderly. Usually, you feel comfortable talking to people who have shared your experiences in a friendly and safe environment. advertisement