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Parents and caregivers will have lots of questions about the best way to help children practice discipline. "Discipline" is different from "punishment" - discipline training for young children includes many activities related to the child's developmental stage and support for children to think for themselves and actively change habits. Today, we know more about children's brain development, emotions and social interactions. Experts recommend that disciplining children, especially young children, should be active activities and help children build self-esteem.

Steps

Method 1 of 2: Avoid deterrence for discipline

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   Arrange furniture in the house to avoid deterring children when children are active. You can create a safe environment for you and your children so you don't have to intimidate them, but only do it when needed. By rearranging the interior of the home to be safe and suitable for children, you will avoid setting a lot of rules or saying "no" too many times throughout the day.
   • Use child safety protection to close the cupboard.
   • Close rooms that are unsafe for children without adult supervision.
   • Use child safety fencing or fence doors to block dangerous places like stairs.

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   Prepare lots of toys for your child. Young children love to play, and it is also important for their healthy development. You don't have to buy expensive toys as your child can have fun with paper boxes, inexpensive toys or pots and pans. Sometimes the simplest thing can spark a child's imagination so if you can't buy expensive toys, don't feel guilty.

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   Bring toys and snacks when taking your baby out. Children may be disobedient when hungry or bored. Therefore, always bring toys that your child likes and delicious, healthy snacks.

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   Talk to your child to come up with age-appropriate rules. 4-year-olds will often like to be active in creating rules. Take the time to talk to your child to come up with the right rules. This will help your child understand your expectations. Because children are involved in making rules, they will obey and you can help them learn to control themselves.

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   Choose your rules carefully, but don't make too many rules. Children at this age will feel pressure if they have to remember too many rules. Children will ignore those rules if they see a lot or become angry and show it every time they have to follow the rules.
   • Talk to your babysitter so they know the rules you and your child have made.
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Method 2 of 2: Practice positive discipline

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   Don't use punishment - especially corporal punishment. In the past, it was common to use punishment when a child disobeyed. Early Childhood Education Specialist - brain research scientist, educator and psychologist agree that today is not the best way for children to learn how to change habits accordingly. . Children develop healthy and happy when they are trained in positive discipline.
   • Scientific justification for applying physical punishment such as spanking or hitting children, including young children, is believed to be ineffective and produces negative effects. Reliable scientific research suggests that spanking or other spanking can alter a child's brain development, lead to mood disturbances in the child's later life and prevent them from learning to check. control your own behavior.

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   Find out why children do not obey. Young children will be unwise when hungry, bored or tired. Or children do not understand the rules you set. In addition, children also behave inappropriately when confused or because they do not want to stop doing something.
   • If your child asks questions about the rule you have, it is a sign that he or she did not understand what you expected. Take the time to help your child understand what you want from them. Use clear and simple language ready to repeat information now or later.

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   Be flexible. You need to be flexible and patient with 4-year-olds. It is normal for children at this age to not comply with the regulations. When children make mistakes, the best strategy is to be empathetic rather than angry. When you make a mistake, turn it into a learning opportunity for you and your child. Explain to your child the lessons from the mistake and why it is important to follow the rules.
   • Be understanding and respectful when children make mistakes. Children at this age cannot do everything perfectly. Children are learning about the rules and how to comply, but making mistakes is normal and an important part of the learning process.
   • If your child makes a mistake - waking up someone who is sleeping in the room, for example, even when it is clear that the person should be allowed to sleep after work is late - understand that he or she cannot comply with everything good. Romance for a loved one will probably overwhelm compliance at this age. Having a patient conversation with your child is the best approach.

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   Strict rules apply. If you allow your baby to do something today but forbid it the next day, the child will be confused. This confusion will lead to behaviors that you think are inadequate, but that is only the child's response to not understanding the situation clearly.
   • If you decide to eat only more fruits or vegetables after a snack at school, then you must explain to your baby why confectionery in the past and take this change seriously. If not, it will make the child confused.
   • Children age 4 when confused with the rules will ignore them. Remember that this is not your child's fault. It is important that you and your child take it seriously so that they understand what adults expect from them.

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   Share stories about rules and habits. 4-year-olds love stories and, importantly, through stories they will learn about themselves, others and the world around them. Reading helps children cope with their own feelings and helps them know that others have had similar experiences. Sharing stories with young children can help them feel like adults understand their feelings.
   • The classic children's book about rules is “Where The Wild Things Are” by Maurice Sendak. The main character, Max, breaks the rules in this book. Children will enjoy discussing the story and bringing Max's situation into real life experience.

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   Guide children to change behavior. When you need intervention to help your child change his or her behavior, start by giving them time to respond. Your voice should be calm and firm, and you should be close to your child and stay behind so you can make eye contact with them. Then, let your child know what to stop and do something else instead.
   • If your child needs to stop doing things he loves, make sure you give them time to prepare for the change. For example, let your child know that she has 5 minutes until bedtime so she has time to switch.

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   Offer age-appropriate "consequences". The most effective way to apply consequences is to combine reasons or explanations for children to understand and relate their actions to the consequences. However, that is not enough. The application of the consequences must be thorough and unchanging in order to have the effect of changing the child's behavior.
   • A "break time" or "penalty chair" is a popular way to help children understand the consequences and to calm them when they behave inappropriately.
     • Choose 4 or 5 rules that, if violating, the child will have to sit still for the "pause" or sit on the "penalty seat". Make sure your child understands the rules that will lead to the break.
     • Every time your child breaks the rules, ask them - calmly and gently - to go to the pause zone.
     • Experts recommend that no pauses exceed one minute per year for every one year old (for example, maximum 4 minutes a year for 4 year olds).
     • When the pause is over, praise your child for successfully getting through the pause.
   • Another "consequence" that some parents use is taking things or stopping activities related to the child's inappropriate behavior. You can temporarily take things away or stop an activity and switch to something else.
   • If you choose to apply the consequences, you must do so as soon as the child is behaving inappropriately. 4-year-olds are unable to self-sense the consequences related to their behavior.

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   Give positive feedback about your child's good deeds. When your child cooperates, remember to always give compliments for it. All children, especially young children, enjoy being praised. This helps children become confident and is also a positive way to help children change their behavior. advertisement

Warning

• When babysitting, do not hit the child. Ask the parent or caregiver how they want you to practice discipline in your child.
• Never hit or hit a child's butt. One big evidence shows that practicing discipline with violent methods has negative effects and is ineffective. Hit or hit a child's buttocks can cause serious physical and emotional harm.
• Do not try to discipline infants. Do not shake or hit your child. When your baby cries, he wants the adult's attention, so come close and see what you can do to make him or her feel more comfortable.