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All parents want to protect their children from abusers, but how do you keep your kids safe when you can't identify them? Anyone can be a child molester, so identifying an abuser is not easy - especially since the majority of child molesters initially wins the child's trust. Read on to find out what behaviors and traits are red flags, what situations to avoid, and how to stop a child molester from targeting your child.

Remember, however, that not all pedophiles are child molesters, and thinking about a child is not the same as abusing a child. Furthermore, a person interactes with children better than with adults not necessarily is a sweetheart. Unjustly convicting someone as a pedophile can cause severe depression and social anxiety.

Steps

Part 1 of 2: Know the portrait of a child molester

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   Understand that any adult can be a child molester. Child molesters do not share any physical traits, appearance, profession or personality type. They can be of any gender or race. Their religion, profession and interests are as rich as everyone else. Child molesters can have a charming, lovable, and kind appearance when they attempt bad intentions and are very good at hiding them. That means you should not rush to exclude any objects.

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   Know that most child molesters are usually people who know a child they are abusing. 30% of children are sexually abused by family members, and 60% are abused by someone they know. Thus, only 10% of children who are sexually abused are victims of complete strangers.
   • In most cases, the child molester turns out to be someone he or she knows at school or through other activities, such as a neighbor, teacher, coach, spiritual practitioner, or music teacher. Babysister.
   • Family members such as fathers, mothers, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, step-parents, etc., can all be pedophiles.

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   Know the common characteristics of a child molester. Although anyone can be a child molester, the majority of them are men, even though their victims may be girls or boys. Many sexual assailants have a history of physical or sexual abuse.
   • Some child molesters have mental illness, such as a personality or mood disorder.
   • The pedophile capacity of homosexual and heterosexual people is equal. The idea that homosexuals are more likely to be pedophile than heterosexuals is completely mythical.
   • Female child molesters are more likely to abuse boys than girls.

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   Recognize common behaviors of pedophiles. Child molesters are more likely to show concern for children than to adults. They may be in careers with children or they may consider other ways to reach children, such as acting as a coach, babysitter or a good neighbor who is willing to help.
   • Child molesters often talk and treat children as though they were adults. They may talk about a child like they talk about an adult friend or their lover.
   • Child molesters often say that they love all children or feel like children.

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   Look for "polish" signs. The word "polish" here refers to the process by which a child molester takes the trust of a child and sometimes to his or her parents. Over a period of months or even years, a child molester will gradually become a close friend of the family, helping to babysit, take the child out or go shopping, play with the child in other forms. . Many child molesters will not abuse a child until trusted. Some may take advantage of the good comments of those around them to win people's trust and lead them to shop.
   • Child molesters often find children who are easily trapped by lack of affection or due to the lack of attention from their family, or they will convince the child's parents that they will ensure the child's safety and will not go. where far away. A child molester will try to act as a "parent" to the child.
   • Some child molesters target the children of single parents who do not have adequate supervision, or they cause the child's parents to believe that they are kind and unattended.
   • A child molester often uses a variety of activities, games, tips and words to gain trust and / or deceive a child. These tricks include: keeping secrets (children always like secrets, prefer to be considered "adults" and have some power), erotic games, cuddling, kissing, touching Cheating, engaging in sexual behavior, showing children pornography, coercing, bribing, flattering, and worst of all, love. Understand that the ultimate purpose of such tactics is to isolate and deceive the child.
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Part 2 of 2: Protect your child from intruders

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   Find out if sex offenders live in your neighborhood. If in the United States, you can use the US Department of Justice data on national sex offenses (at http://www.nsopw.gov/en-US) to find out which sex offenders are listed on. the list lives in your area. Simply type in the zip code and do a search and you will find out where a child molester may live.
   • You can also search for personal names to see if someone is a sex offender.
   • It's good to be aware of potential abusers, but understand that it is illegal to take any action against locally listed sex offenders.

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   Supervise the child's extracurricular activities. Taking full care of your child's life is the best way to protect a child from child molesters. They often target vulnerable children who do not receive the proper attention from their parents, or they lead the child's parents to believe they are not a danger to the child. Take part in games, practice sessions and drills, adult accompanied field trips or picnics, and spend some time getting to know the adults who interact with your child. Make it clear that you are a caring and available parent.
   • If you cannot accompany your child on field trips, make sure that at least two adults are supervised.
   • Don't leave your child alone with adults you don't know well. Even relatives can be a danger. It is important to be present if possible.

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   Install surveillance cameras if you hire a babysitter. There are times when you cannot be present, so use other means to ensure your child's safety. Install a hidden camera in your home to detect improper behavior. Even if you think you know someone well, you still need to take care to ensure your child's safety.

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   Teach your children to stay safe online. Make sure your kids know that malicious intentions often pretend to be your kids' age to trick them online. Supervise the child's internet usage, and set a time limit for "chat". Regularly talk with your child about their friends online.
   • Make sure your kids know never to send pictures or go out to see people they know online.
   • Knowing that children often keep online behavior a secret, especially when prompted by others, you need to be very vigilant and supervise their online activities.

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   Make sure your child feels love and support. Children that are not properly taken care of are especially vulnerable to abusers, so spend a lot of time with them and make sure they feel your support. Talk to your child every day and build a relationship of trust and openness.
   • Child molesters will advise children not to disclose them to their parents.
   • Make sure your child understands that if someone asks them to keep you private, it's not because they will be in trouble, but because that person knows they are doing something wrong with them.
   • Express an interest in all of your child's activities, including learning, extracurricular activities, hobbies and other interests.
   • Let your child know that he or she can talk to you about anything, and that you are ready to talk.

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   Teach children to recognize wrong touch gestures. Many parents use the principle of "good touch, bad touch, secret touch". It is teaching your child that there are normal touches such as back clapping or hand banging; unpleasant or "bad" touches such as hitting or kicking; and there are secret touches, that is touch gestures that the person tells a child not to disclose. Use one way or another to teach your child that certain types of touch are not good, and they need to tell you right away when it happens.
   • Teach your child that no one is allowed to touch his or her private areas. Many parents define private areas as concealed areas when wearing swimsuits. Children should also know that adults should not ask them to touch anyone's private areas or their own.
   • Teach your child to say "no" and walk away if someone tries to touch their genitals.
   • Tell your child to come to you right away if someone has touched your child in the wrong way.

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   Notice when something is out of the ordinary. If you notice that your child is acting strange, try to find out what is wrong. Regularly ask questions about their child's day activities, ask them both about "good", "bad" and "secret" touches to make them talk.Never dismiss it if your child tells you that he or she was hit with bad intentions or doesn't trust an adult. Trust your child first.
   • Do not disprove your child's claims because the person is suspected of having a position in society or seems incapable of doing such things. That is exactly what a child molester wants.
   • Remember that the most important thing you can do to protect your child is to pay attention to them. Knowing your child's needs and wants, talking to them, generally doing your best to be the best parent you can be. In short: if you don't pay attention to your kids, someone will do it.
   • Remember that children up to the age of 12 need sex education and be taught about all kinds of things. This will prevent a teacher or friend child molester from leading and teaching the child to be completely different. Make sure your child knows everything they need to know before they can hear someone say it is okay to kiss / lick the teacher's cheek.
   • If your child is too young or under the age of 14, he or she may not be able to distinguish between a difficult teacher assigning a lot of homework or a teacher whose strange act of wanting him to kiss his cheek before leave class. Both actions are "unpleasant" to the child. So if your child tells stupid stories about a teacher who tells dirty jokes or uses to touch them, or is "annoying" and asks about "private" things, maybe something is up. is fine.
   • As soon as your child talks about a teacher acting weird or asking about private information / pictures or things about his or her siblings, you need to teach your child how to react. You need to be realistic! It is not helpful to have your child scream when the teacher touches his shoulder or yell when he touches his back. Children will not react the same way to the teacher, especially when the teacher has a decent appearance and he said he just wanted to help. You need to tell your child to make it clear to the other person that they told their parents about what happened, and that they don't like it. Or you can give your child an envelope that includes the letter with your own writing: “Stop touching my daughter / son”. Make sure your child gives it to the other person when they touch his or her sensitive parts and doesn't stop when he says to stop. (Remember, however, that this only works if you are absolutely certain that the person will ignore it and are actually going over the line.) An involuntary hand on the shoulder is not the case.) .
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Warning

• Clarification of terms: A pedophile is someone who prefers pre-puberty (a common mistake in the media is that a narcissist is anyone with an interest in underage children. , which expands to the audience like minors, is not correct). Pedophile is interested in children under 14, 15 years old, and teenagers (hebephile) like children 16-19 years old. A child molester is, of course, anyone who abuses a child, regardless of who they are interested in.
• Remember that a child who looks lonely and depressed is more likely to be a target of abuse. You ask about the child's school, get to know their friends. If your child does not have friends, find ways to help. The power of the masses is extremely important in many cases, and can be saved if you are not around.
• Child molestation affects a child's mental health in adulthood with disorders, including post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), boundary personality disorder (BPD), and multiple personality disorder (DID).
• Use caution when leaving children alone with medical staff. It is sometimes normal for doctors to ask the teen to be separated from his or her parents for a separate examination, if the patient is comfortable, but rarely do they require a separate visit with the young child. Use judgment to protect young children from abuse in the medical field.