Author:
Peter Berry
Date Of Creation:
20 February 2021
Update Date:
25 June 2024
Content
You want to know if someone is bisexual because you want to invite them out, or want to be a friend who supports them. You can't predict it by appearance, but you can pay attention to the other person's actions and words. However, it is still best to talk to them. If you want to date, invite your target to hang out or befriend them first. In addition, remember that sexual orientation is private, do not invade their privacy or pressure them into publicity.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Observe actions and words
Examine past relationships and loved ones. If the other party is bisexual, they will definitely date or like people of both sexes. Listen to what they say about their lover or their crush. Also, pay attention to what they share about people they are interested in dating.
- For example, if you have a friend who is dating a guy, but she used to have a seemingly romantic relationship with a girl before. Your friend may be bisexual, but not 100%.
- Likewise, you might know that this guy is a regular dating female, but he also mentioned how cool it would be to have a male friend. That guy could be bisexual.
Pay attention to how the person talks about the attractiveness of others. Bisexual people can feel the beauty of both sexes, although that does not mean that they see everyone likes it. To see if your partner is bisexual, listen to how they perceive someone else's body. Or you can comment on others and see how they react.- For example, you two are going to the beach. A bisexual guy can say things like "That girl's fine", as well as compliment "That guy's abs make me fall in love".
- Remember that this also does not 100% confirm that the other party is bisexual. Because some people are very comfortable when it comes to the human body.
Pay attention to whether the other person uses the term "last name" when talking about your lover and your dream person. Bisexual and non-bisexual people may not want you to know the sex of your spouse. So instead of using "he", "she", the opponent will use "they", "that person" when mentioning. Listen carefully if they tend to use that expression.- For example, the other person might talk like “The other day I accidentally met my ex. They are fine, but I'm still glad they broke up ”.
- Subjects may use "last name" because their lover wants it or they think the gender nomenclature is out of date. Don't automatically conclude that they're bisexual.
Notice if they refuse to talk about their love life. Bisexual people often dislike talking about the person they are dating for fear of revealing too much. Consider if the subject never mentions their situation even if you ask. Then, tell them your love story and see how they responded.- You might say, “Today's dating story is really hard. Last week I had my first appointment, but it wasn't going very well ”. Wait to see if they share anything again.
- Don't pressure the other person to speak if they are not ready. Also don't conclude that someone is bisexual just because they aren't open to you. Maybe they're just quiet people.
Avoid assuming a person is bisexual based on appearance or speech. Sometimes the media portrays images of bisexual people with a bisexual appearance, both male and female, or too sexual. However, both of these images are misrepresented. Don't judge others by dress, hair, walking, or speech.
- For example, do not assume that girls with short hair cut, manly clothes must be lesbian or bisexual.
Method 2 of 3: Chat with them about sexual orientation
Be aware that there are many sexual orientations out there. It is a complicated topic with a lot of gray areas, so you cannot conclude that a person is bisexual even if they are attracted to more than one gender. In addition to gay, lesbian, bisexual, and straight, they may also fall under the following trends:
- Full-attachment, that is, you are attracted to anyone regardless of gender or gender identity.
- Sexual orientation is flexible, meaning that their sexual orientation is changeable.
- Bisexual, meaning that you are attracted to both sexes and the term is also used as a substitute for bisexuality.
- Asexual, it means that you are not sexually attracted to anyone.
Discuss your sexual orientation to initiate the topic. Being open about your sexuality, whatever it is, will make the person feel comfortable and open to you. Poke on the topic of sexual orientation to see if your partner wants to talk about it. If they seem comfortable, tell them about your sexual orientation.
- You can say “I just watched this TV show show a very good image of homosexuality and bisexuality. What do you think of the characters? ”. If the subject responds positively to the story, you can add "I'm bisexual, so I like the way they don't stereotype that".
Tell them you support the LGBTQ + community. Making your sexuality public can be scary when you don't know what other people think of LGBTQ +. Showing your support to the community will make them see you as an ally without ever mentioning their sexuality. Be open about your position and let them know that you are always with your LGBTQ + friends.
- You can say “I think if I love it, I just love it, I support the LGBTQ + community”, or “I started to wonder about my sexual orientation before puberty, and last year I identified myself as gay. female. So now I'm trying to support my friends, LGBTQ + people ”.
Ask the other person about their sexual orientation if they are comfortable with it. The only way to be sure a person is bisexual is to ask them directly. If you think they'll be comfortable sharing, just ask them. If the other person refuses to respond, change the subject and respect their privacy.
- Say things like "Do you ever question your sexuality?", Or "Do you think you're bisexual?".
- If they don't want to reply, say “Never mind. How was your week? ”
Let them decide whether to go public or not. Maybe you mean well, but it's important to remember that they don't have to be honest with you. A person's sexual orientation is private, so don't force them to tell you when you're not ready. Give them the time and space they need to come out to you. Also, don't reveal their story if the other person will come out to you.
- If your partner says they're bisexual, keep it private. If someone else asks you about them, say, "If you want to know then ask yourself."
Don't discuss other people's sexual orientation. You may be afraid to talk to someone about their sexuality, that's understandable. However, don't gossip and make up rumors that hurt others. Keep thinking and wondering about your partner's sexuality until you are ready to ask them in person.
- For example, don't say “I heard rumors An and Linh kissed last night. Do you think those two are bisexual? ”.
Method 3 of 3: Invite them out on a date
Invite your partner out on a date if they openly tell you they're bisexual. Once you know they can date both sexes, try inviting them out. Tell them you're looking forward to a romantic meeting, then suggest activities you both enjoy.
- Say “I want to hang out with friends and I think we can be more than friendship. Would you like to go bowling with me this Friday as your first date? ”
Tip: Remember that being bisexual doesn't mean they're automatically attracted to everyone. They still may not be interested in a romantic relationship.
Invite them out as friends if you're not sure they're bisexual. It's hard to just be on a friendship level with someone you secretly like, but developing a friendship with your crush can help you find out if they're willing to date you. Consider your mutual interests, and choose an activity you both enjoy. Invite them to join as friends.
- For example, you both like a band. You might say “Wild Salmon has a show this Friday. Would you like to come with me? "
Spend time with your partner so that they can feel comfortable opening up to you. Invite them out to deepen your friendship. Also, text them every day to keep in touch. This will help them feel more comfortable with you and may even open up about their sexuality.
- Be open about your sexuality so that the other person can talk about yourself.
- You can say, “I still remember the first time I secretly liked a girl. Has this ever happened to you? ”
Flirt if you think your crush likes you too. First, compliment a little on the opponent's appearance. Then try to comment on their bodies. If they accept that, call them a nickname to see how they react. When ready, gently touch your partner to break an intimate barrier.
- Take it easy, so you both get comfortable with what's going on.
- You can compliment "Wow, your shirt is so flattering", or "Your butt looks so good wearing these jeans".
Attention: If the opponent seems uncomfortable, retreat immediately. Respect their boundaries.
Face the rejection by spending time with your friends. Dating can be difficult, and sometimes you will experience rejection. This may sound bad, but being rejected doesn't think you have anything wrong. It's just that, that's not the person for you. To feel better, hang out with your friends to remind them that you are loved.
- You can also write a list of good things about yourself to help you build your confidence.
Advice
- Remember that bisexual friends don't have to be interested in dating you just because they might be attracted to people of the same sex. Don't force yourself to change your behavior around them.
- If the person is open to you they are bisexual, don't tell anyone else unless they allow it. Maybe they just want to come out to people they trust.
- They may still be questioning about their sexual orientation and that is perfectly fine. Don't try to put a sticker on if the other person isn't ready yet.
Warning
- Don't harass or bully someone just because of their sexual orientation. If you witness someone being bullied, contact the authorized person immediately.
