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Having a critical or critical mindset can put stress on your work and personal relationships, but it can be difficult to change the way you think. Minimizing judgment or criticism takes time and practice, but there are a few techniques that will help change your perspective. For example, you can teach yourself how to challenge critical thinking, focus on the strengths of others, and learn how to present constructive rather than harsh and destructive criticism. pole. Over time, you may find yourself appreciating and encouraging others more than judging and criticizing them.

Steps

Method 1 of 2: Develop a less critical thinking

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   Pause when you begin to form a judgmental thought. This kind of thought will often come up on its own, so sometimes, you need to learn how to suppress it. Try to pay more attention to your critical thoughts and stop to study them as they emerge.
   • When you realize that you have a critical thought, the first thing you need to do is acknowledge it. For example, if you are thinking, "I can't believe she allowed her children to leave the house like that," stop and admit that you are judging others.

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   Challenge critical thinking. Once you have identified your critical and critical thinking, you need to challenge it. You can do this by thinking about what assumptions you make of others.
   • For example, when you are thinking like "I can't believe she allows her children to leave the house like that", you are assuming the woman is a bad mother or she doesn't care about your baby me. However, the truth may be that the mother has had a busy morning, and she feels embarrassed that her baby is wearing a dirty shirt or their hair is messy.

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   Try to sympathize. After you have considered your assumptions about the situation, you will need to find a way to be sympathetic to the person you are judging. You should try to justify their behavior.
   • For example, you can advocate for a mother with a scandalized baby by telling yourself, “Raising a baby is not easy and sometimes it just doesn't work out as planned. When my child leaves home in a dirty shirt (or when I leave home in a smudged shirt), I know I'm going through a hard time ”.

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   Identify the strengths of others. Focusing on what you like or love about the other person will help you avoid rushing judgments and appreciate the person instead.Try to think about the qualities you admire of people in your life to prevent yourself from criticizing them.
   • For example, you can remind yourself that your coworkers are kind and will listen when you speak. Or, you can remind yourself that your friend is creative and makes you laugh. Focus on the positive rather than the negative.

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   Forget about the things you did for other people. If you feel like people are indebted to you, it will make you more strict with them and make you feel angry. Instead, try to forget when you helped others and just think about what they did for you.
   • For example, you might feel frustrated with a friend because you lent him money but that person has yet to repay you. Instead, try to pay attention to the good deeds your friend has done for you.

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   Find a way to clarify your goals. Sometimes people cannot achieve goals because they are so abstract, and ending judgment and criticism is a pretty big goal. Perhaps you will find it easier to deal with a clear goal than a big one. Try to think about the specific aspects of criticizing and judging the other person you want to change.
   • For example, do you want to praise others more often? Or do you want to find a way to provide constructive criticism? You should make your goals as specific as possible to increase your chances of achieving them.
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Method 2 of 2: Become a helpful critic

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   Wait a moment. Don't criticize other people right after they have taken an action. If you can, praise them first and then give your criticism afterwards. This will give you the opportunity to think about the best way to express your criticism and increase the chance the other person will see it in a good way.
   • You should also only comment when absolutely necessary. For example, if you want to criticize someone who recently finished giving your presentation, share your comment when you have a day or two left to give your next presentation.

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   Raise a criticism with two compliments. This is also known as the "sandwich method" in presenting criticism. To use it, you'll have to say something kind, then give your criticism, and end with another nice comment.
   • For example, you could say, “Your presentation was awesome! Occasionally, I have a little bit of trouble keeping track of the content because the speed is pretty fast, but I think if you can slow down a little during an upcoming presentation, there's nothing better! ”.

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   Use "I" statements instead of "You" statements. Starting your criticism with the word "you" can form the message that you are trying to argue and put the other person on the defensive. Instead of guiding the sentence with the word "you", you should try to use the word "I".
   • For example, instead of saying, "You often interrupt while I'm speaking," change it to "I find it annoying to be interrupted while I'm speaking".

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   Request a change in future behavior. Another good way to criticize others is to present it as a request in the future. It's not as serious as making a statement about something someone else has just done or asking someone else to change their behavior.
   • For example, instead of saying “You throw socks on the floor often!”, You could say something else like “Later, could you please pick up the socks and put them in the crate?”.
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