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Crying is a natural result of emotions and an understandable response to many life experiences, but sometimes you may find yourself in a situation that is not at the right time or in the right place to cry. Or, in another case, you see someone crying and want to calm them down. In any situation, there are physical and mental activities to help you stop crying.

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Method 1 of 5: Prevent Physical Tears

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   Try blinking, or try not to blink. For some people, blinking multiple times quickly disperses and siphons the tears back into the tear glands, preventing the first tears from falling. Conversely, some people find that not blinking and opening their eyes as wide as possible actually prevents tears from forming by tightening the muscles around the eyes. It takes practice to know which group you belong to.

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   Squeeze your nose. Since the tear glands originate from the side of the nose leading to the end of the eyelids, squeezing the bridge of the nose and both sides of the nose while tightly closing the eyes can block the tear path. (This is most effective if done before the tears start to flow.)

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   Smile. Studies show that smiling has positive effects on mental health. Smiles also have a positive impact on other people's views of you. In addition, smiling also counteracts the symptoms of crying, making it easier to hold back your tears.

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   Cool. One way to alleviate stressful and unpleasant emotions is to pat your face with cold water. Not only relax, but this also helps you increase energy and focus .. You can also tap cold water on your wrists and behind the ears. Just below the skin's surface in these areas is the aorta flow through, and cooling the skin can have a soothing effect on the whole body.

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   Drink tea. Research has shown that green tea contains L-Theanine that can help relax and reduce stress, while also increasing alertness and concentration. So if next time you feel overwhelmed and tears are rising, treat yourself to a cup of green tea.

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   Laugh out loud. Laughter is an easy and inexpensive type of therapy that can improve overall health and relieve emotions that cause crying or depression.Find something that makes you laugh and provides the relief you need.

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   Try progressive relaxation techniques. Crying often occurs when there is prolonged stress. This relaxation technique allows the body to loosen its tense muscles and calm the mind. It's also a cognitive activity because it teaches you to recognize how your body feels when it's frustrated and stressed compared to when it's relaxed and calm. Starting with your toes, stretch each muscle group of your body for about 30 seconds, gradually reaching your head. This pose is also beneficial in treating insomnia and restless sleep.

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   Gain control. Research has shown that feelings of helplessness and passivity are often the cause of crying. To stop crying, switch body states from passive to active. This can be as simple as getting up and walking around the room, or opening and holding hands to affect the muscles, while also reminding the body that your actions are voluntary and you are in circle. control..

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   Use pain to distract. Physical pain can make you forget about your emotional pain, making you less likely to cry. You can pinch yourself (for example, between your thumb and index finger or the back of your hand), bite your tongue or put your hand in the pocket of your pants, and pull your leg hair.
   • If you find yourself bruising or injuring yourself, stop this method immediately and try to use one or more other tactics.

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    Step back. Get out of the situation, literally. If the argument makes you about to cry, graciously ask permission to leave for a while. Leaving a situation is not about running away, but about refocusing your emotions and eliminating the risk of impending conflict. During this time, take some other steps to make sure you don't cry when you return to the room and continue the argument. Your goal in this is to bring yourself back into emotional control. advertisement

Method 2 of 5: Stop Tears With Mental Exercises

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   Delayed crying. This is part of controlling your emotional response. When you feel like crying, tell yourself that you can't cry now, but you will allow yourself to cry later. Take a deep breath and focus on suppressing the emotions that make you cry. This can be difficult at first, but consciously recognizing your emotions and allowing your body to respond appropriately at the right time will be a long-term solution to help you cry at the right time. .
   • Note that it's never a good idea to completely control your crying all the time, as suppression can cause lasting emotional damage and increase symptoms of anxiety and depression. . Remember to find an opportunity to express your feelings.

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   Practice meditation. Meditation is an age-old method of relieving stress, fighting depression, and alleviating anxiety. You also don't have to be a yoga practitioner to reap the benefits of meditation. Just find a quiet place, close your eyes, and focus on breathing. Breathe in deeply and exhale slowly, evenly, and you will find that the negative feelings will disappear almost instantly.

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   Find things that distract you. Find something out of your negative emotion and focus on it. Think about something that makes you happy or laugh. Watch funny animal videos on the internet. You can also try to focus on what you are looking forward to. If you are a good problem solver, solve a problem or do a small project. If that doesn't seem to work, imagine a peaceful setting, focusing on details in the place that make you feel happy. This forces the brain to focus on feelings other than sadness, anger, or fear.

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   Listening to music. Music has many benefits in managing stress. Soothing music can calm us down, while songs with empathetic lyrics can energize and help us assert ourselves. Choose what works for you and wipe your tears away with a selection of music tracks.

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   Please feel. Focus on yourself in the present moment, the taste of the food, the feeling of the breeze on your skin, the feel of your clothes as you move. When you focus on what is present and really pay attention to your senses, the emotional stress will ease, and you will realize that the problem you are facing is not so serious.

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   Grateful. We often cry when we are overwhelmed by the unfavorable things that happen in life, or by the problems we face. Take a deep breath and think that the problems you are having are not as severe as the problems you may or may have faced. Remind yourself of all the good you are and are grateful for. Keep a journal to remind yourself of your luck and it will help you through challenging times. advertisement

Method 3 of 5: Coping with the Cause of Crying

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   Identify the source of the attack. Is the feeling of wanting to cry with emotions, events, characters or some kind of pressure? Does it stem from something you can limit your exposure or interaction with?
   • If the answer is "yes", find ways to avoid or limit your exposure to the source. This may be as simple as avoiding lengthy conversations with a colleague that hurts your feelings, or avoiding watching sad or violent movies.
   • If the answer is “no,” consider asking a therapist to help you find a coping strategy. This is especially relevant if you have identified the source of the negative emotions that caused you to cry as conflicting with a family member or loved one.

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   Be aware of emotions as they occur. Although when the crying comes at an inappropriate time, distractions can help, but you should also take time to sit alone in a safe place to experience your feelings honestly. Do an internal examination, analyze your feelings, find possible causes and solutions. Ignoring your emotions or trying to suppress your emotions at all times is counterproductive for healing and improving problems. Actually, the problems that exist can still dull in your subconscious and cause the crying to rise.

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   Gather up good things. Develop a habit of controlling negative thoughts and telling yourself about the good things about yourself. Try to maintain a 1: 1 ratio between positive and negative thoughts whenever possible. Not only will you feel happier, but you can also suppress sudden emotions by training your brain that no matter what happens, you are a worthy and valuable person.

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   Keep a journal to understand the source of the episode that makes you cry. If you find it hard to hold your tears or even don't know why you are crying, journaling can help you understand the root of the problem. Journaling can have a positive effect on your health, help you see the benefits of a stressful event and clarify your thoughts and feelings. Writing down your anger and sadness can ease emotional stress, helping you to cry. You will also get to know yourself better, become more confident, and become aware of harmful situations or people and need to be excluded from your life.
   • Try journaling for 20 minutes a day. Practice "free writing", in which you don't need to worry about spelling, punctuation or anything "should be". Write quickly so that you cannot "moderate" yourself. You will be amazed at how much better things you learn and feel.
   • A journal allows you to freely express your feelings without judgment or restraint.
   • If you have ever experienced a traumatic event, journaling can help you process your emotions and actually make you feel more in control. Write about the details of the event and how you went through to get the most out of journaling.

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   Get help. If nothing seems to help you manage your crying and negative emotions, and that impacts your relationship or career, take the first step towards a solution by contacting therapist. Usually the problem is resolved with behavioral therapy; however, if there is a medical cause, your doctor can help you with proper treatment with medication.
   • If you have symptoms of depression, seek help from a counselor or psychiatrist. Symptoms of depression include: persistent or “empty” sad feelings, feelings of hopelessness, guilt and / or worthlessness; have suicidal thoughts; decreased energy, difficulty sleeping or sleeping too much, becoming loss of appetite or appetite and / or changes in weight.
   • If you have suicidal thoughts, get help right away. You can call the hotline on 1800 1567 for advice. If you live in the United States, call the National Suicide Prevention hotline at 1 (800) 273-8255, or visit the IASP website to find the helpline in your country. Or you can call a person you see to express your feelings.

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   Know when you are suffering. Grief is a natural response to loss; It could be the death of a family member, loss of a relationship, job, health or any other loss. Suffering is unique - there is no "right" way to express suffering, nor is there any time to mourn. It can take weeks or years, and you will experience many ups and downs of emotion.
   • Seek support from friends and family. Loss sharing is one of the most important factors in recovering from loss. A grief support group or counselor can also help.
   • Over time, these painful feelings will subside. If you do not see any improvement and, on the contrary, it seems to be getting worse, your grief may have developed into severe depression or complex grief. Contact a therapist or grieving counselor for help.
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Method 4 of 5: Comforting Babies and Children to Hold Your Cry

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   Know what causes babies to cry. Remember that crying is the only form of communication an infant can use to express his needs. Put yourself in their shoes and think about what upsets them. Some of the reasons that babies cry are:
   • Hunger: Usually a baby needs food every two or three hours.
   • The need to breastfeed: Infants have a natural instinct to suck on their breast and suck because they are raised that way.
   • Loneliness: Babies need to interact with people to grow up to be healthy, happy babies, and they often cry when they want to be cuddled.
   • Tired. Newborn babies need plenty of sleep, sometimes sleeping up to 16 hours a day.
   • Discomfort: Think about the situation when the baby cries and the feelings the child may be experiencing to guess the child's normal needs and wants. .
   • Excessive Stimulation: Too much stimulation of noise, movement or pictures can overwhelm and cry a newborn.
   • Illness: Usually the first sign when a child is sick, allergic or injured is crying or not responding to cuddling.

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   Ask older children questions. Unlike the guessing games we play with babies, older children have more complex forms of communication, and we can ask them, "How?" However, children are not always able to express them as adults, so it is important that you ask simple questions and be guesswork when children cannot describe problems in detail.

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   Pay attention to whether the child is injured. Young children in turmoil can be difficult to answer, so it is important for parents and caregivers to be aware of their child's circumstances and physical condition when crying.

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   Distract children. If your child is hurt or upset, you can help by distracting them until the pain subsides. Try to direct your child's attention to something he likes. Determine where your child might be injured, but ask about all other parts of his or her body except pain really. This way, the child will focus on other parts without thinking about the pain.

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   Reassure the child. Children often cry in response to punishment or after a negative interaction with an adult or with other children. When this happens, determine whether to make arrangements (e.g. punishing a child for sitting still) but always remind them that the child is safe and loved, no matter what. out of conflict.

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   Let the child sit alone. Every child sometimes doesn't behave well. However, if a child uses crying, anger or yelling to ask for what he wants, it is important to prevent the connection between bad behavior and satisfaction.
   • If your toddler or toddler has a rage, take him into a quiet room and let him sit there until his anger is over. Bring your child back into the social environment when the anger has calmed down.
   • If the angry child is old enough to walk and follow orders, ask him to go to his room, and tell him when he is calm he can come back to tell you what he wants and why. why are you angry? It also teaches your child how to effectively cope with feelings of anger and frustration, while still making sure he or she feels your love and respect.
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Method 5 of 5: comforting a Crying Adult

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   Ask if they need help. Unlike infants and young children, adults have the power to determine their own condition and whether help is needed. Before you go ahead and try to help, you need to ask if they need your help. If the person is emotionally hurt, they may need time and space to process their emotions before they need to share it with another person. Sometimes just showing the will to help is enough to help a person cope with grief.
   • If the situation is not too serious and the crying person accepts a change of direction, tell a joke or something funny. Comment on something funny or unusual that you read online. If they are strangers or are just a few, ask them cautious questions about what they like.

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   Determine the cause of your pain. Is it physical or mental pain? Was the person experiencing a shock or was the victim in some way? Ask questions, but also observe the situation and the surrounding situation to find clues.
   • If the person is crying and seems to need medical help, call the emergency number 115 (If in the US, call 911) right away. Stay by their side until help comes. If the person is in an unsafe location, take them to a safer place nearby if possible.

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   Show proper physical contact. If the person is a friend or relative, perhaps a hug or holding hands may help. Even an arm around the shoulder can be a source of support and comfort. However, different situations require different ways of contacting the body. If you are not sure if the person is comfortable with this kind of help, always ask them.

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   Focus on the positive. It is not necessary to change the subject, but try to focus on the positive aspects of the very problem that caused the grief. For example, if they lose a loved one, mention the happy times they shared with that person and their lovely things. If possible, recall happy memories that could spark a smile or laugh if you can. When there is the ability to laugh, one will control the rising crying, and at the same time improve mood.

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   Let them cry. Crying is a natural response to suffering. Except in some inappropriate or untimely circumstances, letting a person cry is completely the safest and most helpful option, as long as it doesn't hurt anyone. advertisement

Advice

• If you suspect that someone or yourself is depressed or find that cries accompany self-harm, seek immediate help by calling your doctor or visiting a contacting page. suicide help line to seek help.