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There is no limit to friendship, especially when finding someone with similar interests and passions. Friends can differ in shape, personality and IQ - intelligence. No matter what your IQ is, if you work hard to strengthen friendships and overcome potential difficulties in social contact with extremely intelligent people, you can still have a close friendship with someone with a high IQ or even a genius.

Steps

Part 1 of 2: Tightening friendships

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   Focus on people, not their wits. If someone is very smart, chances are that the people around them will usually just revolve around their intelligence. Remember that your friend is just a friend after all. The person is not a brain. Pay attention to yourself and every aspect of you, your inner personality will help you enjoy each other and deepen your relationship.
   • Be aware that individuals with a high IQ tend to have fewer friends and more social anxiety. Therefore, you may want to focus on them to some extent, by doing something together, just the two.
   • Remember that it is perfectly acceptable to note your friend's intelligence. Just don't make it the centerpiece every time you spend time together. Instead, do something about it and talk about things you both enjoy.
   • Don't attach your smart friend to certain stereotypes. She may not be as lively and energetic as other friends, but that doesn't mean she looks like the smart, rigid character in a TV show.
   • Try not to forget that you are also smart yourself and even though your smart friend might beat you completely in some areas, she is still just a human being. Outside of her field, like you, she is also capable of making stupid, confused mistakes and needing some guidance - after all, she's just a human being. And who wouldn't need the help of a good friend at one time or another.

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   There are meaningful exchanges. Chat is an important part of any friendship. It can help a person feel recognized, valued, and supported. Smart people are no exception. Keep talking and talking to a smart friend and combine topics you both like or either might be experiencing.
   • Make sure you listen attentively to what the person you say or want to talk about. This lets the person know that you are genuinely interested in and interested in important matters in their life.
   • Make sure your conversation is always a combination of serious and light, happy topics. They can also be intellectual or completely absurd. No one can take a serious conversation or an intellectual all the time, and friendship can be a great doorway for the person to show their more dumb, dull side. For example, if she mentions a funny TV show, ask for more and think about other programs that could be compared with.
   • Remember to follow up with any statement or statement of your friend with a question or comment to show that you are really paying attention and caring for them.

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   Direction of focus away from their wits. When someone is very smart or has a high IQ, they may feel that other people are only paying attention to that part of their personality or people. Remember that humans have many faces and behind any other outstanding intelligence or traits, there are many other things. Instead of focusing on their mental strength, forget about it. You can turn your attention to other things, such as their great sense of humor or the activities you both do. This not only helps maintain a dialogue between the two of you, but shows that your excitement lies not only in their wits.
   • Think about your friend's personality before you meet him. Ask yourself what other outstanding traits they themselves have and find ways to focus on them in conversations. For example, you could say: “You really are passionate about adventure! How can you maintain your enthusiasm without getting bored? Any meal and share with me? ".
   • Be frank with the person about focusing too much on their wits.You can say: “Hmm, I really want to talk about knowledge things with you but it started giving me a headache for a while. Have you seen the commercial for Nora Ephron's latest romantic comedy? "

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   Compromise to develop common interests. Be sure to mention your own interests when talking with your ex. It can direct the conversation and help the person realize you're not just interested in their brain. Plus, it can teach you both to make compromises in order to develop a friendship.
   • Based on your interests or comments, mention your own. For example, if the person says they want to watch the latest episode of Star Wars, take advantage of it to say: “I'm not really interested in science fiction, but I love comedy. romantic. But I also want to try Star Wars and maybe I'll change my mind ”. You can also say, "I like Vietnamese cuisine too, but if we go there tonight, can we try that other Korean restaurant next time?"

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   Build a common experience. Whatever your interests are, try and do as many different things as friends. Maybe you'll find a new adventure, have a great time together and strengthen your friendship in the process.
   • Join the activities you both love. Allowing this leads to shared experiences where the two of you can go through it together and, at the same time, help deepen your friendship. For example, suggest trying a new restaurant or recipe together. You can also go hiking or sightseeing.
   • Consider combining serious and cheerful activities. For example, your friend might be an extremely intelligent scientist. A visit to a local science museum can be a good way to learn more about a person's talents, allowing them to shine and, even, arouse interest in you. This may also help you and the person to overcome the difference in the group positively.
   • Consider vacations or day trips together. Relaxing together can strengthen your friendship and keep both of you from worrying about the person's intelligence. Don't forget to create a moment for each person, which can be very important to smart people.

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   Maintain your independence. In some cases, you may feel inferior to a friend with a high IQ and think that all their decisions are correct and reasonable. However, it is very important to continue to be yourself and to be confident with your own outlook and opinion. It shows you respect yourself and at the same time, will also respect their independence.
   • Don't forget to give your friend some space. Many smart people build solid friendships with a person when they don't have to be around them continuously. This gives you the opportunity to make friends with others, making you more mature and intelligent in social interactions.
   • Be confident and have confidence in your own opinions and opinions. This could set the stage for more meaningful exchanges between you and the person. If they are a true friend, they will appreciate your opinion and give you the opportunity to express it without teasing or making you feel stupid.

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   Let your friends know they're important. Everyone wants to be something special and appreciated by friends, family, and people of the same age. Smart people too. Make sure the person knows you value every aspect of who they are and want to spend time with them when the opportunity arises.
   • Show happiness with the person's accomplishments, even if the achievement caused you harm. The mark of a true friend is the ability to be sincerely happy, no matter what. You can say in person or send a text message: "Good job" or "I'm happy for you!".
   • Be ready for their needs. There will be times when others may mock or make your friend feel pressured to show off by their IQ. Listen to the person's concerns, find solutions, and try to make them happy again.

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   Ask the person to meet other friends. One of the best ways to get to know a new friend is through meeting your friends. Consider inviting your friend with a high IQ to meet a few other friends, which might give her some new and different perspectives. Remember that a lot of people don't get comfortable with large groups. So you'll probably want to start with a group that can handle three to four people.
   • Keep the air as light as possible and don't mention your IQ to other friends. This may lead them to focus solely on how smart she is and not see her as a multidimensional individual.
   • Ask your friend if she is interested in meeting other friends before meeting the group. She may feel more comfortable with just the two of you. But at the same time, she may also be more than happy to meet some of your other friends.
   • Make sure others know that you genuinely like this smart friend, even if she does badly on a date. Explain that she was feeling overwhelmed, a little insecure about being with such excited people, and pulled out her mind to deal with the situation.
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Part 2 of 2: Overcoming potential difficulties

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   Accept both the positive and the negative sides. Nobody is one-way. Instead, each person is a multidimensional individual. Part of being a good friend is accepting every part of their personality. Accept the ups and downs of a friendship as they arise - they can forge a better, stronger friendship.
   • Understanding the differences can come with an intelligent friend. Remember that maybe she is very smart about math but is bad at relationships, communicating with other people. For example, when she feels threatened, she can use her intelligence to increase her confidence. As long as you don't harm anyone else, let it go.
   • Understand every time your friend is in a bad mood, a bad day or difficult in a social situation. You can always explain to others: “Normally she is really funny and easygoing. But now, she is very stressed out and sometimes, it makes her a little insecure and irritable. I really hope everyone will have a chance to meet her at a better time ”.

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   Remember why you two became friends. Whether it stems from sharing the playing field or becoming acquainted through university research, there must have been the spark that sparked this friendship. Think about what holds you together when you have a relationship difficulty or you can't connect anymore.
   • Think about what you have in common. Have you been passionate about World of Warcraft or have a love of football that made your friendship grow? Were both of them very competitive in the English language competition or United Nations Simulation Conference (VNMUN) at school? Or did you both work together at a fast food store? Whatever you have shared in the past, use common interests and interests to maintain a strong friendship.
   • Think about who she is and who she is with all its depths and dimensions. Is that smart friend also sensitive and kind or has the ability to read other people's minds? Focus on the qualities that make the person special and, at the same time, not disturb you.

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   Accept and value the person who is unique to them. Very intelligent or talented people who can exhibit unique, unusual personalities, such as being extremely creative and passionate about certain things. A smart friend can also approach a problem or situation differently - that's what makes them who they are and what's so special about them. Instead of being annoyed or even embarrassed by the friend's personality, remember that intelligence and its bizarre traits are part of her, as are so many other traits. This can help strengthen the friendship between the two of you.
   • Ask or remind if the person is acting weird. You can do it in a funny way like: "Are you always being so good?" or "Could it be me just how can you think so quickly?"
   • Remember that every friend you have, regardless of their level of intelligence, is an individual and has unique and unique personalities that accompany each person.

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   Don't forget your own special qualities, too. A friendship requires the participation of two equal individuals. So, remember that like the other person, you are an important part of a friendship. While the person you can happily discuss about electronic mechanics, it is important to remember that you also have unique talents and traits that complement that friendship - which is crucial.
   • Remember the things your friend likes about you. Maybe she appreciates your bad sense of humor or your puzzling ability to see the good things about others. Continuing to nurture and show things like that can strengthen your friendship.
   • Use humor if needed. If your friend starts to obsess over something too difficult, pull them down with the saying: “While you were puffed up up there, I think I just found a cool new thing to do. ! Imagine the scene of us getting drunk together to make pottery! ”.
   • Don't avoid saying anything just because you think the person will: "Think so stupid" or "Make you look like an idiot". Perhaps it wouldn't be that bad and if it were you, that person would think well of you no matter what.

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   Be honest with your doubts. Sincerity is another important basis for a solid friendship, even with someone very intelligent. If you worry that you might not be smart enough for them, remember that the person seeks and appreciates your friendship. Talk openly about relationship fears and uncertainties - you may find that she experiences similar fears as well.
   • Open your words gently, openly. Example: “Sometimes, every time you suddenly turn in a completely different direction, I wonder why you want to be my friend. I don't really understand what you said.
   • Try to focus on your friendship and pay less attention to the question of your intelligence or your lack of ability to use words. Avoid letting yourself feel inferior to the person's intelligence by reminding yourself that there are many things you could do better.

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   A sense of intelligence does not mean good social skills. Think about friends and other smart people you know. You may find that they are not always great in social situations. In fact, many intelligent people suffer from social anxiety - a phenomenon that can involve too much thinking or analyzing situations, making themselves anxious, confused or incapable of handling. Knowing the social barriers your smart friend might encounter can help you better direct your friendship and the interactions between you and others.
   • Help your smart friend communicate with others more effectively by supporting or encouraging their confidence in communication situations. For example, you can turn your attention away from the person by saying, "You know, Trang and I have been friends for 20 years and even though she doesn't claim her, she's a great artist."

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   Interpret your friend to other people. If your girlfriend has never been or is at first meeting with other friends, consider explaining and informing them about your smart friend. Some people may feel attacked, frustrated with their intelligence or reactive in situations and this can help them get to know her better.
   • Talk about smart friends with other people. Example: “I am very excited to introduce you guys to her. We have been friends for a long time and she's really amazing. I just want you to know she's so smart and sometimes, a little bit aloof. Give me a chance to understand her better and I'm sure you will love her just as much as I do ”.
   • Remind friends that being smart sometimes means lack of social capacity. Say, “I'm really sorry she seemed so arrogant. She doesn't always do well in social situations and I guarantee that if she gives her one more chance, people will find her a very kind and pleasant person.

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   Reminder when that friend is going too far. In some cases, smart friends may become a little too arrogant or even rude to you, to people who may not be as smart or talkative. When it does, point out the problem and explain why what the person did over the line is something you should do.
   • If possible, avoid humiliating that intelligent friend. Instead, remind them privately. You can say, “Man, you know, you really acted on Mai and it was completely unnecessary. She can't develop a project as easily as you do and you should know that not everyone likes that about you. You really need to be more delicate and think about others in these situations.
   • Break your tension with a sarcastic expression. For example: "Okay, now that both of them feel really stupid, let's find a way to solve this." Not only can it make the problem less stressful, but it can also inform your friend of your mistakes.
   • Support the person no matter what, even if you disagree or support a situation. For example, if your friend is arrogant about your intelligence toward someone else, you can help her by saying: “I understand why you said that but if it was me, I would say it in a way. more respectful ”.
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Advice

• Remember that you also have special qualities. You can better understand certain topics or do certain things better than your friends.
• Remember, just because the person is smarter doesn't mean they don't like you. When someone is kind to you, be kind again. If someone is mean or arrogant with you, consider ignoring it and making friends with people who appreciate who you are.
• Understand that a high IQ doesn't mean genius in all areas. If he is an artist, he may not have excellent math skills or aspire to be considered a pocket calculator. If you're a mathematician, your eloquence might not be very good either.
• If she becomes quiet and keeps her distance after you say something, it may not be superficial, but simply thinking carefully about it.

Warning

• Avoid teasing a high IQ friend. The person is more likely to have been teased during childhood and this may rekindle sad memories. They may even experience serious bullying as a child.
• Try to avoid believing that your smart friend can simply know everything for himself or solve all scientific and technical problems. Being very smart doesn't mean that she knows everything and being pushed into such a situation can be very embarrassing. Asking is much better than doing it yourself, and don't be surprised by what she doesn't know.