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When children become difficult to talk, parents and caregivers may feel stressed, and children may show signs of sadness, fear or confusion. Dealing with stubborn children takes skills and tactics, but you can guide them to learn better self-control so that you and your child both feel calmer. Remember the problem lies with the child's behavior, not the child's own. Make sure your rebellious child is aware of your love for them and how you see them positively even if they mess with them. You should not hit or hit the child's buttocks, nor should you shake or hit children.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Establish rules for dealing with disturbing behavior

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   Set up family rules. The first priority is setting rules for hostile or potentially dangerous behavior. If you are a regular caregiver, you can set the rules for yourself. If your child spends a lot of time with other caregivers (parent, grandparent or maid), work with them to come up with the rule.
   • Make sure the rule you have outlined is clear and simple. For a child with a contentious problem, for example, the simple rule is "don't fight."

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   Give children alternatives to bad behavior. Children need help replacing unwanted behavior with something new so that they learn to control themselves. Depending on the type of behavior you're dealing with, you might want to try one or a few different alternatives.
   • Stop, think, choose. Stop your child's behavior, consider the problem you are thinking, and consider the consequences you and others should have before choosing to take the next action.
   • Fine sitting in place. Leave the room and let the child calm down after a few minutes before you return.
   • Talk about your thoughts. Tell someone trustworthy about what you are thinking by naming your feelings and the impact they have on you.
   • Deep breath. This will help if you are overly emotional.

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   Identify meaningful rewards and penalties. Give meaningful and timely rewards when children follow the principle. The punishment you choose should be gentle, not hitting or spanking the child.Punishment also needs to be age appropriate.
   • Positive reinforcement of good behavior is very effective. Meaningful rewards don't have to be expensive toys or rides. Spending time playing games that your child enjoys can be a fun bonus. A compliment from you is also a meaningful reward for your child.
   • When you need to use punishment, be gentle. For older kids, cutting down on pocket money or asking for more chores can be effective. For younger children, the penalty of sitting still for a short time (not more than one minute per year) will be more appropriate.

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   Spend time discussing principles with your child. You do not want your child to be confused about the meaning of principles or when "counted" as a violation of the principle. Focus on what you want your child to do instead of the bad behavior.
   • For example, tell your child that instead of hitting someone, you want them to meet you and tell you how angry they are.
   • Role play with your child using real life situations in which he becomes upset and behaves badly.

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   Model the behaviors you want your child to perform. One way to help your child understand manners is by example. If you and your child agree that the best way to avoid hitting others is to spend a few minutes alone to calm down, you can try doing it in front of them.

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   Follow rules immediately and consistently. If the child violates, always use the punishment and act immediately. If you slow down or just follow the rules from time to time, you won't be able to see behavior change in your child. Likewise, when your child follows the rules by engaging in behaviors that you and your child have agreed on, you need to reward them immediately.
   • Parents who do not follow the rule consistently and quickly will not see change in their child.

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   Talk to your caregivers about rules. If your child stays home for the weekend with their parents or with the maid after school, talk to them about the set of rules that apply to your child. The unity between people will help children be more successful. advertisement

Method 2 of 3: Deal with your child's anger

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   Understand the problem. Anger is a normal situation, especially in young children. This behavior can last for several minutes or hours, stressing both children and their caregivers. Infants with rage may scream and cry, lie down and eat, run around the house or punch a wall.
   • Childhood anger can stem from anything from being tired or hungry to being quiet or doing something difficult.

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   Stay calm when your anger begins. When your child has a tantrum, it is important that you stay calm. If you get upset, this will only make the situation worse for both you and your baby. Know that such tantrums are common in children and that they will pass.

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   Don't give in and don't argue or yell. Do not accept to do what children want. Because this will make children understand that anger is effective, meanwhile, what they need is to learn to recognize and express their existing emotions. Arguing and scolding doesn't solve the problem. Although it can be frustrating when a child gets tense, arguing and yelling only create a war of strength. Calm is most effective.

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   Make sure your child is not in pain. When children, especially young children, get angry, they can put themselves in danger. Make sure your child doesn't hurt themselves during these times. Watch your child very carefully.
   • Make sure no one is hurt by the angry behavior, like another child nearby.

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   Try talking calmly with your child. If your child is old enough to understand, approach them and calmly explain that you want them to stop doing so and take action to replace the negative behavior.

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   Take the child to another safe and quiet place. If your child cannot stop, take him to a quiet place and ask him to be quiet for a minute. When your child complies, stop that punishment.

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   Show your baby's love for when his anger is over. It is important that your child feels loved after the flare-up. Stay calm and show love for your child, while complimenting your child for stopping being angry.
   • Get rid of the thing that makes the child angry and give them something else that is easier to do. For example, if your child gets angry for not coloring a complicated picture, put that picture aside and replace it with a picture that is easier to paint.

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   Prevent children from getting angry at home. Find out in situations that make them angry and take time to talk to them about recognizing their emotions. Make sure your child has age-appropriate toys, while at the same time maintaining a regular daily meal and sleep schedule.
   • You can also talk to your child about verbally expressing his feelings or releasing anger in a more positive way.

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   Prevent children from getting angry when not at home. If your child tends to binge while going out, do not let him go out if he is tired. Remember to bring snacks. Involve your child in what you are doing by telling them what is going on. Help your children feel they are actively participating in what you are doing, even just standing in line at the bank. advertisement

Method 3 of 3: Treat another rebellious child

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   Be willing to speak with the child's primary caregiver. Children, especially 5 years of age and younger, are often incapable of controlling emotions or behaviors. Mentally prepare your child for mischievous behaviors and out of control, and talk to their child's primary caregiver (e.g. a parent) about what to avoid, what principles they already know, and how You follow the principle when regular caregivers are not around.
   • It is important that the caregivers, including you, follow the principle with the child consistently. Find out what rules your child has to follow and how their parents want you to deal with a violation.

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   Don't try to be the "parent" of the child. Even if you want to do something a little different from the child's parents, you should stick to their rules. Children need to hear consistent messages about what to expect from them, and they want to see consistent consequences for violating the rule. Otherwise they will be embarrassed and possibly more wrong.
   • “Making concessions” to a child's request, including things like eating too much candy or not going to bed on time, can tire parents and confuse children. Children may react positively to your consent at first, but their behavior will get worse quickly if you don't have reasonable limits based on their parents' instructions.

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   Involve your child in many activities. Depression is a common cause of misconduct, so if you look after other people, be sure to spend time with your child playing something fun and enjoyable. Keep children busy and they will have less chance to play with.
   • If possible, find out in advance what they enjoy doing. Arts and crafts, a favorite game or toy can be activities that engage children.

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   Avoid getting hungry or tired. Hunger and fatigue can also lead to difficult behavior. Make sure you have the right snacks and snacks, and that you know your toddler's meal times. Children behave better when they have enough food and go to bed on time.

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   Stay calm and use discipline in a positive way. If your child is not behaving correctly, it is important that you stay calm and then sit down at the child's height. Calmly tell your child what he did wrong. Then, tell them that you want them to do something else instead. Remember to use the principles and punishment you have discussed with the child's parents.
   • Never raise a voice or hit a child. You should also not shake or hit children.

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   Distract and feel good at an angry child. If your child behaves beyond his tolerance level, distracting and comforting them is your next choice. Hugging, kissing, favorite toys, teddy bears, treats or treats are things you can try to make your child feel better. advertisement

Warning

• Never punish children. Do not shake or hit children.When your baby cries, it is a sign that he or she needs your attention, so get up and see what you can do to calm your baby.
• If you are a babysitter, do not hit or spank your baby. Ask your child's primary caregiver (parent or guardian) if they can teach you how to apply discipline to them.
• There is ample evidence that the whip discipline approach has negative effects and is ineffective. Spanking or spanking a child can cause physical and psychological harm.