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The potentially dangerous images with the "ideal" body styles are attacking you. It can make it hard to accept, love and be confident with your own body, which is extremely important. Equally important is to know what your body can do and feel comfortable with those abilities. According to philosopher Baruch Spinoza, people "do not know what the body can do", meaning that no one can know exactly what their body really is capable of, at least before testing. Psychologists note that there is a difference between the way people feel their bodies and how their bodies act. In order to accept your body, it is essential that you connect both of these sides of your body to its terms.

Steps

Part 1 of 5: Proper evaluation of your unique and unique body

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   Know what is really fun for you. List the happiest moments you have ever had. Write down as many details as possible, like who was by your side, what you were doing, where, etc. Reflect on what those memories have in common. Are these the people around you? How much excitement did the event generate? Or is it simply the setting of a situation, like if you are in the middle of nature or in a big city? Once you find out that situations in the past make you happiest, try to maximize the amount of time you spend in similar situations later.
   • Everyone has a unique and unique body, which means you'll have to experiment and find out what makes you happy. Research shows that less than half of Americans say they are truly happy in their current conditions, partly because they are not entirely sure what makes them happy. Start by simply reviewing all the moments that you can describe as happiness.

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   Know what your gift is. Part of accepting the unique structure of the body is accepting the fact that some people are better than others in certain areas. For example, if the maximum height you reach is only 1.58 m then you probably cannot become a world star in the national basketball association. However, you can still be an excellent horse racer. Learning to accept yourself also means learning to accept that your body is good at certain activities as opposed to others. It may take a while to figure out those activities.
   • If you are unsure which activities are right for your body, take some time to experiment with activities you never thought you were interested in. Take a yoga class or do pottery. Take part in an improvisation show. As Spinoza once said, there is no way to know what your body can do until you actually do it.

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   Find things you love about your body and appearance. Even people with extreme body notions have the ability to find something in their body to be proud of. It is important that you learn to love and appreciate all the qualities you have, including your physical traits. Don't let yourself obsess over the things that upset you, just focus on the positive.
   • For example, you are disgusted with your thighs right now - you might think they're big, rough or spindly - but try turning to the positive side. You may wish you had slightly slimmer thighs, but they really do help you to successfully complete the task of climbing that hill. Or you may be upset with thin legs, but you can wear tight jeans that few people can wear.

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   Accept your body as it is. This means you shouldn't try to be someone else or notice features you don't like. Learn to love your body - how you move, feel and move. Do not regret the form you used to have, especially when your body is changing due to pregnancy, childbirth, injury or illness. Treat yourself well to your current image.
   • Do not force yourself to diet unless on the advice of your doctor. Learn to listen to your body and eat what you need. Don't try to fast or blame yourself for overeating.
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Part 2 of 5: Learn to avoid negative thoughts about your body

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   Realize how much time you've spent on negative thoughts. Those thoughts cannot help you improve your image. Take a day or two to reflect on how often you think about your body. How many times have you had negative thoughts or words about your body? How many times do you have positive thoughts? Chances are you are being too harsh on yourself rather than appreciating it.
   • Consider making a collation in a journal or on the phone. Take a handy notebook with you, and note down each time negative thoughts appear, including whether they relate to your appearance. At the end of the day, you may be amazed to see how much more negative thoughts you have in just one day than you thought.

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   Replace negative thoughts with positive ones. It can be difficult at first, but this is an important part of accepting your body. As soon as you find yourself starting to have a negative thought, replace it with something positive about yourself. You need to give yourself time to make a habit of thinking positive.
   • Try starting your day with a few positive thoughts, and throughout the day keep reminding yourself of the positive when you start to feel aversion to yourself. For example, you could say, "I really love the comfort of having this new hairstyle."

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   Limit your exposure to negative images in the media. Try to cut back or stop watching programs on television, movies, magazines, or blogs that contain images that are negatively and unrealistic about the body. Remind yourself that the vast majority of pictures published on the internet and in magazines have been edited to help the models look in line with standard concepts of beauty and seduction.
   • Psychologists worry that with the rise of this trend over the past 20 years, such images are creating an unrealistic ideal of the body. Don't let yourself be haunted by those exaggerated empty portraits that aren't in the real world.

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   Find a cognitive-behavioral therapist (CBT). Psychologists may use CBT approaches, which focus on short-term and current goals as therapy. While it is still best to see a cognitive-behavioral therapist, you can also initiate this therapy yourself. Whenever you notice a negative thought about yourself, pause, take a deep breath and try to find evidence for those thoughts. Has anyone actually told you about your defect? If so, is the person intentionally hurting you, or is just making fun of you?
   • Psychologists believe that, in many cases, if you hold up an unrealistic expectation of your appearance, you will have a distorted image of your body. It's important to recognize when those unrealistic expectations arise in your thinking so you can counter those idealistic images with specific information.

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   Respond to negative people around you. You are trying to treat yourself better and focus on the positive aspects of yourself, but you also need to review the people present in your life. Do you hear comments from your friends and family? Do they say that you need to lose weight, change the way you dress or have a hairstyle? If so, it is important to find ways to deal with those negative influences.
   • Remember that you can't cut ties with friends and family the way you stop buying fashion magazines Vogue or stop monitoring the program Vietnamese model on television. But even then, if they make fun of your body or get too harsh on you, you must be willing to speak respectfully but firmly and let them know their words and behavior make you. hurt how.

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   Integration into different walks of life. When experimenting with new activities, talk to people you don't normally care about or shy about. At first you may feel uncomfortable talking to strangers, but the more you practice, the easier and better you will be. Don't forget that, no matter how embarrassing at first, it's even worse to separate yourself from others, which, according to some studies, can lead to long-term harm like status. fat.It is important to become comfortable socializing with new people, especially if the people around you right now do not support your notion of your body image or have a positive influence.
   • Brain research shows that people love who is due to the powerful effects of chemicals in the brain, which means that you do not always fall in love with someone like the type you created yourself. This may also be true in building close friendships. It is important to be with supporters and encourage you to explore yourself. Simply put, the process of accepting your body and fighting off unrealistic images is much easier if you are in the midst of those who accept you and your discoveries.
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Part 3 of 5: Learn to focus on the positives

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   Focus on the compliments you receive. Instead of paying attention to criticism, enjoy the compliments that come to you. Pay attention to the content of people's compliments and keep in mind. Write it down so you can remind yourself later, especially in times of depression.
   • Instead of dismissing other people's compliments or assuming it's just courtesy, accept them and believe they aren't just pleasing you. Looks like people are making sincere comments. Gratefully accept their kind words.

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   Constantly looking for the things you love about yourself. Every time you notice that you are having negative thoughts about your body or a certain point in your body, remind yourself of your favorite points. List at least ten positive things about yourself, eliminating anything related to your looks. Regularly add to the list.
   • This will help you begin to understand and appreciate the wonderful aspects of yourself. You will find that the form is only part of the whole.

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   Reform the relationship between you and the mirror. If you are standing in front of a mirror all day, follow the principle of not saying or thinking anything negative about yourself while looking in the mirror. Instead, look for positives you see in the person in the mirror. If you are still miserable with the mirror then put it away for a while. Studies have shown that people are more likely to focus on their career or relationship than on appearance.
   • Say these affirmations in front of a mirror: Tell yourself "I'm beautiful!", "I'm awesome!", Etc. while looking in the mirror. This may seem reluctant, and at first you may not believe what you say, but experts say the process they call cognitive-behavioral therapy will work over time.
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Part 4 of 5: Setting Goals and Making Change

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   Improve your health and well-being. Part of the journey towards complete acceptance and happiness with your body is to change something. For example, if you are overweight, you may want to lose weight. But don't forget that the number on the scale is only part of your overall health score. Make sure to have a regular checkup so that you will have all of your "numbers" (weight, blood pressure level, blood sugar and cholesterol level, etc.). This way you will get to know your overall health and discuss your health goals with your doctor.
   • You may also need to gain weight or lose weight for your health, but you should also exercise for strength, endurance, and endurance.

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   Set positive goals. Instead of focusing on the negativity, emphasize the positives. For example, if you decide to start an exercise regimen, avoid framing your goal on how much weight you should lose. Instead, create some positivity for your goal like "I will train to be able to run 3 km without a break", or "I promise to join the walking practice to get fit for climbing. with dad ”.
   • You have a better chance of success (both in terms of achieving your goals and feeling more self-satisfied) if you think about what you hope to do or do better.

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   Participate in physical activities you enjoy. Choose activities and exercise programs that you find fun and enjoyable, don't just rely on whether it can help you change your physique. Take time to try new activities, choose activities that you really enjoy and that excite. If you love yoga, then go ahead and practice yoga, even if you don't think you look graceful in it due to your oversized body. Almost every exercise program has sections for people of different sizes and shapes.
   • If you find it embarrassing to practice in front of everyone, you might consider enrolling in private lessons, practicing with a close friend or practicing at home. Be careful not to let fear of being judged by others dictate how you live your life.

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   Dress up your own style. Don't choose clothes, makeup, or hairstyles based solely on what you think is "right" for someone like you or on magazine advice that will flatter your look. optimally. Choose clothes you like and feel comfortable wearing. It should be stylish, comfortable and appropriate for your style and activities.
   • Try on many different outfits. If you feel confident and beautiful with something that is said to be the "look for the X body", apply it at all costs, but make sure it is your preference, not your own. think I have to wear that.
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Part 5 of 5: Looking at the big picture

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   Just compare yourself to yourself. This world will be monotonous if everyone looks the same. It makes no sense to compare yourself to others, whether it's a celebrity or a classmate sitting next to you. Instead, compare yourself in your progression over time, and now you've created your realistic goals. For example, you might think that you are prettier now than a few years ago.
   • Remember to be patient and be kind to yourself. Don't be more harsh to yourself than to others.

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   Don't forget that body image is only part of a healthy self-image. It's important to learn to accept and love your body, but equally important to understand that your self-esteem is not determined by your appearance.
   • What qualities come to mind when you think about the people you admire, love and / or respect most? Do you judge others or yourself only by your physical traits or by personality and personality?

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   Know when to get help. Understand that most people struggle to maintain a positive outlook on body image, and it's only natural that the ups and downs of life are natural. However, you should also seriously consider it when you feel that you need to speak to a counselor, doctor or mental health professional. There are some signs that you have a serious problem and need professional help. You might ask yourself the following:
   • Can't tame negative thoughts about yourself? Do you spend hours pondering about the flaws you feel?
   • Are your looks troublesome for your life? For example, do you avoid going out or speaking in public? Are you afraid of going to work because you are afraid of being seen and judged?
   • Do you spend too much time in front of the mirror every day and / or over grooming?
   • Can't you stop comparing yourself to others? You shy away from taking pictures?
     • Understand that you may need help accepting your body if you have to deal with any of these conditions. You may have a condition called a physical defect disorder (BDD), an illness that needs help. If left untreated, BDD can lead to suicidal thoughts and behaviors. Even if you don't have BDD, keep in mind that it's no shame to seek advice and help instead of fighting alone.

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   Find professional support that works for you. You have many options when it comes to seeking professional help.You can see a mental health therapist and / or counselor for one-doctor therapy. Or, you can look for local support groups for a relatively more comfortable experience. There are also online support groups where you can build relationships with people who are suffering from negative thoughts about your body.
   • It is important to seek support from people who are not judgmental about how you feel about yourself. They can also give you helpful advice.
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Advice

• Stick small pieces of paper on the mirror with your good points. You can freely take note of physical features that you appreciate (eg, “I have beautiful cheeks”), but it is also important to keep in mind those that are unrelated to the appearance.
• A strong support system plays an important role, as it can be helpful to get body-image advice from someone you trust. You can consult when negative thoughts arise.
• Be sure to consult your doctor when deciding to start a new diet or exercise program, and be mindful of extreme or sudden changes in your body.
• Everyone is different, regardless of shape and size. Some people think that different shapes and sizes are different. Some people feel awkward about the hairs on their genitals, but don't worry because almost everyone is used to it, and some find it attractive.