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• Steps
• Advice
• Warning

Losing a friend is as difficult as breaking up with a partner, but breaking up is essential when there are many problems you cannot solve. If your friendship is more negative than positive, then it's time to let go. Friendship changes and ends. You must cut that bond, but at least stop gently and humbly.

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Should I Terminate?

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   Stop if you don't stop arguing. Do you think your anger will subside or will a real friendship come to an end? Arguing friends are still friends and you cannot always expect perfection from them. But if the two of you argue more than you feel close enough to be together, then it's time to let go. Who wants to be with the people who always argue with me? Ask yourself the following questions to better understand the situation:
   • Does disagreement only happen once or keep going away? If disagreement cannot be resolved, friendship should not exist.
   • Is that even bigger than friendship? Voting for different candidates is one thing, but if someone harshly disagrees with your beliefs, then you should decide to break up.
   • Has something to hurt or despise happened where neither of you apologizes to the other? Do you feel proud / sad when you can't say “I'm sorry” and go on with your life?

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   Stop if the two of you are getting further and further apart, and no one wants to try to solve the problem between you two. Sometimes a friendship won't end because of an argument, but because of the cold. It's been a long time since you didn't want to call your friend to talk? Do you find yourself having a reason for not hanging out together? If you are in that situation, ask yourself if you or a friend can do something to preserve the relationship, or if I want to do it. Everyone will change — it's a cruel, yet true, truth. Never argue when there is no reason to argue.
   • If you two are old friends, give one more chance. Everyone goes through a lot of hardships and it's not worth giving up and turning your back just because things haven't been so enjoyable for a few weeks.
   • Being apart doesn't mean the two will never get along again. The two of you just haven't been together for a while - that's it.

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   Compare a life "without" your friend and a life your friend "appears less" with you. Moving from "best friend" to "I'll never see them again" is negative and childish. Is meeting less still able to achieve the same goal? Do you feel sad imagining life without them, do you feel comfortable? If you're not sure if you want to end with them, try meeting them less. It will be easy, not corny, and more mature than completely making them disappear from your life.
   • Ask yourself if you are still willing to dedicate yourself to preserving this relationship? If the answer is no, go ahead with your life and end the friendship here.
   • If you know that you will feel happy, not fall into the emotions, boredom or other negative feelings like when you are with them, then letting go is a good idea. Don't be mindful of mutual friends, activities or other nonsense. If they don't do you any good, stop.
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Part 2 of 3: Real Termination

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   Gradually put an end to that negative friendship. If your friend just makes you feel tired, breaks social norms, put an end to that friendship immediately. If your friend is sly / hurtful or you fear they will react negatively when you end the friendship, take it easy. You don't have to talk to them. Stop calling and texting, unfriending on Facebook, not being in places where you know they might be.
   • If you are in danger, notify the competent authority (administrator, school officials, police) immediately. It is no longer a friendship you can deal with on your own.

2. 

   Don't hang out together until your friendship has naturally faded. Friends will then go to different schools, move to another town, engage in different activities and start playing with new friends. It's a quick, easy process, and usually both of you will. To end the friendship gently without causing grief (let it go on its own, if the ending sounds too harsh), you should:
   • Chat with them within safe limits. Keep your thoughts and personal feelings not shared with them.
   • Keep your distance from them. Try not to call or text. Do not answer phone or text messages. Of course, don't completely end. But if you are no longer friends, you don't need to contact them as soon as something happens.
   • Decline the invitation to make room. As the distance between you grows, stop spending time with them. In the end, they won't call you again once they understand what you mean.

3. 

   End the friendship directly if you think you need to end it quickly. Want a quick result? Be straightforward first. Don't let your friend guess why you're not talking to them anymore, take some time to talk to them. If you simply don't like hanging out with someone, it's just a little negative. But if the relationship only brought about negative things in your life, old friends, or ruined your life, then you need to make a decision and tell them directly.

4. 

   Choose a quiet place to talk but should be a public place. Places like these help you leave quickly when you're done talking, or in case things get harsh (maybe they don't behave properly ...). Coffee shops and other public places are good options.

5. 

   Let them politely, sure, and quickly understand your thoughts. Getting straight to the point - "I think we shouldn't be friends" is the most blunt and very effective way of saying it.

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   Let the conversation focus on your issues. Don't blame or defame them. For example, instead of accusing them of being alcoholics, say "I need a lot of time to focus on studying and less partying."

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   Give the person a chance to express an opinion. Make sure they understand your position. It's also important to let them talk about their current situation. However - it should not affect your decision either. You've spent a lot of time thinking about this. Don't change your mind for a moment.

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   Leave when you have said what you want to say. You may need to apologize when you decide to end the friendship. But unless you've done something wrong, you have no reason to apologize when you choose to cut someone off. Just say everything and leave.

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   Set boundaries for the decision to end the friendship. No matter how you end your friendship, they will usually try to reach you once or twice. Let them know if you want to talk to them again. If you are not clear about what you want, don't end it until you have made the final decision. If you're still confused, the two of you will soon fall into old habits.
   • If you are willing to stay in touch, tell them how you would like them to contact you. You don't need to be indifferent to someone else's existence just because you don't want to play with them anymore.
   • If you never want to talk to them again, warn them of the consequences if they don't listen.And like any other promise, be sure to follow what you say if they have followed suit.
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Part 3 of 3: Handling Consequences

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   Comfort yourself at the end of the friendship. Sometimes losing a bad friend hurts you the most. Either way, you've had a good time. They are very calm, humorous when they are still friends. Losing them, no matter what bad happens, you will still feel uncomfortable. It can be painful, painful but it's the best option.
   • It may be difficult for your friend to accept that. Either or both of you might burst into tears, begged or leave in anger. But whatever your feelings at the time, they can't erase all the reasons you decided to end everything.
   • You will be able to feel guilty, that's the truth. But remember, whatever your broken relationship might be, feeling responsible for the end of something that was once good is normal. It will fade with time.

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   Control your anger - it's not just good for you, it's good for anyone, for anything. Maybe the anger from your friend is enough for both of you. Gradually hurt feelings will quickly turn into anger, anger will cause you to behave inappropriately. If you feel your anger rising, take a step back and leave quickly. Like the cake on a baking tray, the two of you calm down faster when you are away from each other.
   • If they tend to be jealous when you meet, you should be prepared for harsh words or even physical movements. Finish off in public, go with another friend or write them a letter if you're really worried that something might happen.
   • You will feel angry in an instant if they hurt you. That is common sense. But don't let anger push you into immature, negative things. Once you let your friendship go, let the emotions go along with it.

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   Be prepared to fight the passive conflicts to come. It's almost impossible for you to end up with the person entirely, especially if you still have to see them at school or at work. Passive aggression is a powerful weapon for those who get hurt but it will only hurt you if you allow it to do so. Get ready to tackle these brainstorming tricks months after you've finished everything. The best weapon - completely ignoring those types of attacks.
   • If your old friend is a passive aggressor, he or she may engage in sneaky behavior after you end a friend relationship with them. Try and remember that in the end it is your fault that you ended everything and you should not retaliate.
   • You have completely ended your friendship with them. Don't make things worse by trying to harm or hurt them after you are done with it.

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   Accept friends who are not on your side. Nothing is your own business. It is very difficult to be friends when the two of you are no longer playing. They will slowly aim to be friends with you or with the other because if they play with both of them, they will get into a fight that they never wanted. However, please note that this is the worst consequence. Usually your group of friends will change a little bit and then things will go back to normal.

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   Meet new friends and stop thinking about old ones. Meeting new people will signal to your old friend that you are still having your own life without them. It will calm you down when you think about your end of friendship because you will still have wonderful new friends in your life. New ideas will still come to you - as long as you keep an eye on the same events that happened to your old friend. advertisement

Advice

• You have the right to keep and protect your own "pleasure". If your friend steals that "pleasure", this is not a good friendship.
• Don't allow friends or family to force you into a damaging relationship. Think for yourself first.
• If someone leaves you, let them go, your fate will never be tied to someone who left you. It doesn't mean they're bad, it just means that their role in your story is over.
• Remember to always think about how they will respond as peacefully as possible to the end of this friendship.
• Talk to them about why you no longer want to be friends and don't be afraid to express your feelings.
• End the friendship completely but politely.
• But if they had only one more month to live, don't terminate with them. Stay by their side.

Warning

• Don't ignore the signs of a faded friendship. Unless you are saving it, things usually don't go well on their own.
• Avoid getting excited and gossiping about your old friend to others. If you do that, you will probably suffer the same consequences.