Author:
Laura McKinney
Date Of Creation:
3 August 2021
Update Date:
1 July 2024
Content
People often say "Words of the wind", but it doesn't seem right. When someone calls you with a name that makes fun of you or demeans you, your emotions will suffer a lot. Therefore, learn to forget difficult words by reducing their strength, increasing your self-esteem, and healing your emotions.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Face hard words
Never mind. The other person's words are their business, not yours. Occasionally, when someone is hurt, they will "be angry at cutting the cutting board" saying bad words to you. Humans will act like that sometimes. This is often done thoughtlessly and the person will regret what he said.
- If someone talks to you in difficult words, try to think that they are probably hurting. Please sympathize with them instead of letting them down.
Recognize someone who hurts you. If the person says something that hurts you, react gently by seeing who they are, not what they say. Whether the person intentionally or unintentionally says something unpleasant, this reaction will calm them down and they may stop and find that their words hurt you.- For example, you could say, "Oh, I was really shocked to hear such a nice person say such a difficult word."
Set a deadline for gnawing on your pain. Instead of chewing on someone else's unpleasant words over and over, set limits on how much pain you can tolerate. That means you are only sad for the scheduled time and then forget everything.- For example, you often spend a few hours or days feeling upset about someone else's negative comments. Now take 10 minutes to think about how you felt when you heard the comment and acknowledge the hurt feelings. When the time is up, let those thoughts go and never repeat them.
Write down hard words on paper, then destroy them. If you're the one who wants things to be clear, you can reduce the effects of hard words by breaking them down. Write those words down on paper. Then, you will tear up the paper, burn or use a pencil or pen to cross out what you wrote.
Replace with a positive comment. Use positive language to undo the effects of negative words. This works because you repel negative thoughts with positive and inspirational language.
- For example, if someone criticizes your appearance, you can replace it by telling yourself "I'm unique so I'm always special and unique".
Method 2 of 3: Reinforce confidence
Stronger through difficult words. What lesson has this situation taught you? Evaluate it and see if you can learn anything for yourself. Ask yourself why the words hurt and what you should do about it.
- For example, if you hear someone say, "You are weak," you may feel sad or angry. However, if you take the initiative to learn to protect yourself or to mentally wind up, you will no longer feel pain when hearing those words.
Use your experience and point of view to help others. Hard words often come from hurt or insecure. Think about what the person is going through and see what you can do or say to help them. You can also increase your confidence by reaching out to and helping others who have been hurt by other people's cruel or thoughtless words.
Prioritize your thoughts. Your confidence often falters when you allow others to control your emotions. Don't put too much emphasis on what others think of you. Instead, put your thoughts first.
- For example, if someone says "You won't be successful", but you don't believe it, remind yourself of your thoughts. You can say to yourself, “That's not true. I believe that I will achieve good things ”.
Get things done to feel more confident. How you feel about yourself and your abilities is closely related to your confidence. You can increase your confidence by taking on more challenges. Think about a goal or mission you want to achieve, and then break those goals down into smaller tasks that you can work on one at a time.
- For example, if you want to be financially independent, look for a job first. After that, you need to find a place to live with a cost that matches your income. Next, you'll create a savings account or stock investment for long-term financial returns.
- Taking each step steadily will help you feel more confident and more confident that you can take on new challenges.
Deep breath and repeat your motivating spell. Deep breathing is a great way to increase relaxation. When combined with a positive reassurance, this exercise can help you build confidence in yourself and your abilities.
- For example, take a deep breath through your nose and whisper, "I'm breathing in belief and confidence." Hold the breath for a few seconds, then exhale and tell yourself, "I am breathing out negative things and doubts."
Method 3 of 3: Emotional healing
Practice loving yourself everyday. When you ignore your feelings, painful feelings will reappear.Resist negative comments or behavior from others by treating yourself with loving kindness. This can be done in many ways, such as making a list of the positive activities that you enjoy most. Then make a commitment to get a few things done every day.
- For example, you might like to cook healthy meals for yourself, take a walk with your dog by the lake or meditate before bed.
Learn from experience. You always learn something from a debate or a painful experience. After you have overcome the grief, take some time to look back at what happened. Some things to think about include:
- What is going on in the person's life or in your relationship and that person makes them speechless?
- Are there any lessons that will benefit you from those words, even though they are spoken bitterly or not constructive at all?
- If someone said the same thing to you in the future, how would you react?
Surround yourself with positive people. Positive people radiate positive energy, and negative people do the opposite. Consider reducing time spent with negative people or malicious people who criticize or demean you. Spend time with people who always stand with you and treasure you.
Do things you enjoy. A good way to heal from an emotional pain is to engage in pleasant activities. Pick a hobby, join a new club or organization, or go back to something you gave up for a long time. Make time every day or week to do things that make you happy.
- It can be the pursuit of a passion for learning or teaching others a skill you master or simply improving your skills in sewing or gardening.
Give more. Heal your emotions quickly by doing lots of good deeds for others. Try to create positive connections with the people in your life or community.
- Interact positively with the people you love by showing their appreciation for them and letting them know the good things you see about them. For example, you would say “Minh, you helped me a lot. I don't know what it would be like without you.
- You can also do this with some kind of nice deeds, such as helping a neighbor with something or inviting someone behind you in the restaurant for a lunch. You can also spread positive energy in your community through volunteer work or charitable donations.
Keep a journal to better understand your feelings. Writing down your thoughts can clarify what's going on in your inner world. Furthermore, when writing down hard comments, the torment lessens. Start a journaling routine by taking a few minutes to write every day.
- You can write about the day's events, follow instructions in the journal app, or write down a few things that you appreciate.
