Content

• To step
• Tips
• Warnings
• Necessities

A broken relationship can have a significant impact on someone's life. The transition from sharing everything with the other to realizing that you should stop calling the other person is painful. The feelings of depression that can arise after a relationship ends can be so hard and difficult that no one else understands what you're going through. However, there are ways you can deal with this feeling without the sniffling over a tub of ice cream. In this article, you will learn how to deal with feelings of depression after your relationship has ended.

To step

1. Understand that this will take time. It can be a difficult and probably long process, especially if the two of you have been together for a long time. Accept this fact, and give yourself as much time as you think you need to recover and work through the breakup.
2. See that the emotions you are going through are normal and embrace them. Don't blame yourself, your feelings of anger, frustration and sadness are part of a natural process and are normal.
   • Feel free to cry if you feel like it. Let your tears flow, grab a box of tissues, and feel miserable for a while. But in the end you have to pick yourself up and pick up the thread again. Life goes on, and believe it or not, your life is no exception!
3. Put away all the things you can't look at at the moment because it is simply too painful. Collect everything that reminds you of your ex (photos, letters, presents) and put it in a box. Then store the box in a cupboard somewhere out of sight. Don't throw things away right away, you may regret it later. Put the items away, and do not constantly pick them up to look at them again as this will only hurt. Remove the items from view and allow yourself time to process the event.
4. Try to stick to a regular schedule as much as possible. This may be difficult at first, but you need to commit to eating and sleeping at regular times. This too will take time, but try to be patient.
5. Try to provide a distraction. Go out and do something that you enjoy, such as a hobby. Think of cycling, karate, drawing, playing the guitar, etc. Make sure that you fully focus on the activity and the pleasure that it brings about, this will distract yourself.
6. Spend time with people who still care about you. Try to spend a lot of time with friends, girlfriends and your family during this difficult time. These people offer you support when you are struggling with the aftermath of the breakup. Did you see these people a lot during your relationship? If the relationship was long and intense, there is a chance that you have not seen some friends, girlfriends or even family members for a long time. Try to reconnect with all these people and spend a lot of time with them. Go do fun things together.
   • Make sure your friends and family know what happened and ask them to be there for you so they can support you during this difficult time.
7. Accept the fact that the relationship is over. Remember that the relationship has not been in vain and it is not a wasted part of your life. You may have learned a valuable lesson that will help you in your next relationship and marriage. Maybe it's just a temporary breakup and you will eventually be back together. Either way, your life goes on and you need to pick up the thread again.

Tips

• Do not call or message the person. Give the other person space, he or she will probably see what they are missing and want to repair the break. You want to avoid appearing desperate by constantly calling / messaging. This will only increase the distance that has arisen between you.
• It may take quite some time before you may be ready to date again. Do not start a relationship with the first cute boy / girl you meet, as you will likely experience a relapse, which is not healthy for both you and the new person. Give yourself time to recover and process what happened.
• It's possible your ex may call or message you and want you back, perhaps out of loneliness. Ask yourself if you want to be with the person again or if you are ready for a healthier or even better relationship.
• Regardless of what you think now, at some point you too will meet someone new. A lid fits every jar and you just haven't found the right one yet. You may be doubting this at the moment, but there are so many other people who are a good fit for you. You too will at some point run into someone who is exciting, fun, and amazing, and believe it or not, your relationship with your ex will be nothing but a vague memory from the past.
• Just because you're going through a breakup doesn't mean you're a bad person or that you've done something wrong (or that the other person is a bad person). You just don't fit together well.
• Grabbing junk food (ice cream, cookies, etc.) sometimes helps (especially for girls), but do it in moderation. Avoid gaining weight, it's not worth it!
• In time, you may want to consider moving on as friends with your ex. It can sometimes take months or years before this is possible, and it is often only possible after both of you have settled on the fracture and processed the event.
• Try to leave the past behind as much as possible. Bad memories of the past will only provoke feelings of depression. Focus on the future and try to leave behind the bad memories of the past.
• If you're the one who broke up, then you've had a reason for it. It was your decision and you simply did not want to continue with the other. Remember that when one relationship ends and others can blossom sooner or later.

Warnings

• Don't plunge into bed with someone / start a relationship with someone just because you feel lonely. Invite a friend and go do something fun together, something that makes you happy and enjoyable. The consequences outweigh the brief sense of pleasure, and you will likely end up feeling even more lonely. Instead, do something positive.

Necessities

• A box of tissues (or just let those tears flow)
• A hobby or something you enjoy doing, where you can focus all your energy and attention during this difficult period
• An empty box where you can store all the photos and memorabilia (don't look at the items in the box, but don't throw them away either)