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• To step
• Method 1 of 4: Growing the right setting
• Method 2 of 4: Set the right goals
• Method 3 of 4: Do the right things
• Method 4 of 4: Track your progress
• Tips

At some point, we all experience being dissatisfied with part of our life and decide that something will have to change. However, once you get used to a certain way of doing things, it seems almost impossible to change the person you have become, to "teach an old dog new tricks" so to speak. However, with the right mindset and constant diligence, the following steps will help you find that new "self."

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Method 1 of 4: Growing the right setting

1. Identify the problem. You have decided you want to change, but how and why? Getting a clear picture of the problem is the only way it can be solved. What will change lead to?
   • It is best to start on the positive. Make a list of points about yourself that you are satisfied with. If that is difficult, what do others like about you? Knowing your good qualities makes it easier to fall back on them so that you can get rid of unwanted habits.
   • Tell exactly what you want in one sentence. Make sure it's some you want and not what others think you should want. If you don't actually want to change something, it won't.
   • Then make a list of reasons why you want this change. Seeing all of your motivations noted for you - and referring to them later - will keep you on the right track.
2. Prepare your brain. You trained your brain in a certain way and now it is time to train it in a different way. Maintaining the right attitude is absolutely crucial to achieve permanent change.
   • Often times we are not the people we think we are. Certain problems can be addressed simply by changing our way of thinking; it's not just taste that can't be argued about. Thinking about yourself the way you want to be is the first step to believing in it.
   • Get your thinking on the right track. If you long to be more ambitious, make a list of words related to that every morning ("drive," "do," "go," "create," "dedication," "eagerness," etc.), to get your brain in the right mood. You can do this with any topic - what words do you associate with your purpose?
3. Expect disruption. Things happen in life that we could never have foreseen. Your path to change will be riddled with obstacles and people trying to bring you down. Understanding that the pitfalls along the way are just minor setbacks and can be overcome is necessary for success.
   • Staying realistic is the best way to tackle any exhausting topic. Don't blame others for not achieving your goal. Setbacks are normal and will occur.
4. Know that you can expect failure. Change didn't happen overnight. The next few weeks will be accompanied by minor or major failures. This is not your fault.
   • If you fail once, it doesn't mean you have to give up. Just because you found something that doesn't work doesn't mean it's the end of your path. Scribbling up is the part that counts.
5. Be patient. If everything were that easy, it wouldn't be worth anything. You may not see results as quickly as you planned.
   • It is better to expect less and do more than is necessary than to expect the world and fall short. Even the smallest changes are indicators that you are on the right path. Be patient, breathe and relax.

Method 2 of 4: Set the right goals

1. Find out what your goals are. You want to change, sure, but what does that actually mean? Think in affirmations, not negative.
   • If you want to lose weight, how much? Diet, exercise, or both? By clearly identifying which methods you want to use, it will become easier to think clearly about this. A goal like, "I want to lose two pounds a week by limiting myself to 1,300 calories a day and exercising 4 hours a week" is easier to pursue than "I don't want to be fat anymore."
   • If your goal is more abstract (as in, "I want to gain confidence."), Think in concrete examples. Instead of, "I want to gain confidence," set goals like, "I want to be able to start a conversation with someone I don't know," "I want to ask a man / woman for his / her phone number," or "I wants to show my work to the public without nerves. " Be specific and reduce it to what you "really" want.
2. Be realistic. By requiring yourself to lose 10 kg in a month, you can be sure that you are going to fail. Failure to achieve that goal will only make you feel worse about yourself in the end. Set yourself a goal that you think is achievable.
   • Being realistic also means that you are not negative. You are the only one holding you back from changing. It's up to you.
3. Give yourself a time limit. By giving yourself all the time you take away all possible responsibility from yourself. Set a deadline to push yourself into more effective behavior.
   • Create milestones. Giving yourself 8 months to make $ 20,000 doesn't really help. Think shorter - what can you do in a month? You remain more motivated if there is a date on which you must meet certain conditions.
   • Decide how much you want to change. If you need a year, give yourself a year. If you think you can fix the problem in a few weeks, go ahead! Know yourself and know what you are capable of.

Method 3 of 4: Do the right things

1. Start now. Saying you're going to start "tomorrow" is like never starting. Tomorrow is a day that will never come. To be able to change, you will have to make sure that you do not postpone, you will not achieve anything with that.
   • If you are too busy to commit to this, now is not the time. Assess whether or not you are ready for the path to change and move on from there. If you aren't, don't feel guilty. Judge the weather at a different time.
2. Think small. Small is doable and has no room for excuses. Flossing your teeth is a start. If the big changes seem impossible or scary, don't shy away from smaller changes, because even the smallest is the start of an improvement.
   • The beginning is often the hardest. Keep this in mind when you are just starting out - it will only get easier.
3. Reward yourself. By acknowledging your progress with positive expressions and small treats, you will find it easier to keep going. Throw your fists in the air, watch TV for 30 minutes longer or treat yourself to dinner.
   • Don't try to reward yourself with anything that contradicts your progress. If your goal is to lose weight, reward yourself with a new outfit or a mini vacation, not a third serving of ice cream.
4. Tap into your emotions. Instead of letting your emotions determine your behavior, it is better to let your behavior guide your emotions. It is possible to evoke emotions and thus change how you feel. A simple example is to hold your head up and smile. Your emotions take cues from your muscles and your body.
   • Get acting. This will teach you firsthand what it is like to turn into someone else. It may not really suit you, but it forces you to delve deeper into emotions, understand where they come from, and fabricate them lifelike.
5. Get out of your comfort zone. Staying in the same box will always produce the same results. Get out of that comfort zone and develop the habits of that new person you're working on.
   • Feeling uncomfortable is unpleasant; however, it is a means of change. By doing things that make us tense, we create new emotions and thought processes. This in turn leads to new and different possibilities, which will cause things to change.
   • Choose something you can relate to your goal. If you decide to become more self-aware, go to places where you are forced to interact with people. Practice doesn't necessarily lead to perfection, but it does make something a habit. Meeting people will gradually become an everyday thing. If you want to lose weight, try a new method. Go for a run, do yoga or aerobics and you may see results like never before (and gain a valuable new experience).

Method 4 of 4: Track your progress

1. Stay motivated. During the course of this project towards self-change you will experience moments where it is difficult to stay on the right path. Be aware of those moments and handle them appropriately.
   • Make yourself responsible. Show your progress to the rest of the family or friends, or join an online forum.
   • Don't exhaust yourself. You may feel like you can easily run the 10K the first day, but the next day you will be too exhausted to move. Work towards your goals gradually.
   • Monitor your inner voice. If it is negative, stop! Replace every negative thought with positive ones. Stop those negative thoughts before they are done talking.
   • Find like-minded people. A support group makes any business exponentially easier.
2. Keep track of how you feel. Track your behaviors and look for patterns so you can find the most efficient way to achieve your goal.
   • If you find yourself falling back into old habits, write them down, along with the why and how. Analyze the possible causes. Maybe you were hungry, tired, or frustrated from a day's work.
   • Record your progress! If you had a good day, write it down! Keeping track of your progress will motivate you to continue.
3. Stay healthy. You can handle everything and everyone more easily if you are healthy. In addition to its innumerable benefits for your health and overall quality of life, being healthy will make it easier to maintain a positive attitude.
   • Eat well, get enough sleep, and stay active. Those are the conditions for a good day. Setting goals for yourself that are frustrating and hard to achieve is tricky enough - you want to give yourself the best possible chance. Take care of your mind and body before tackling the bigger problems.
   • If you find yourself feeling unwell most days, a bigger problem will need to be addressed first. By thinking positively and playing certain tricks on your brain, you can boost your health and happiness.
4. Adjust your goals. As you progress, you can make changes to your ideals. Watch your progress and make adjustments where necessary.
   • If you are progressing quickly, great! Challenge yourself and create new, bigger goals.
   • Don't feel guilty if you haven't achieved your original goal. Re-evaluate it and strive for what is achievable. The last thing you want is to get discouraged and stop.
5. Hold on. Once you have achieved the desired result, stay alert. Habits take time to form - give yourself time to get used to a new routine.
   • This should represent a lifelong change. While initially it will take conscious effort to stay away from carbs, start conversations, or save money, soon enough it will be imprinted into your brain and become automatic.

Tips

• What other people think is not important. You do this for yourself, not for them.
• Above all, it starts with awareness. If you are not sure what you are doing, you cannot change your own behavior.
• You can change yourself as often as you want. Nothing is permanent or reversible.
• Laugh. This automatically ensures that your day will look brighter.
• Don't hesitate and don't give up. Go full speed and refuse to apply the brakes.
• Changing for the sake of others will never lead to a good outcome - especially if that person is no longer part of your life at some point. If you decide to change, do it for yourself. That is the best option.
• Go on a journey to clear your mind again. You may discover new things or ways of thinking that change your way of thinking, and with it your identity.
• Don't forget that you have to be what makes you happy. If this is a change you are making for someone else, it will not be permanent.
• Changing your appearance is one way to bring about inner changes (business attire will make you more businesslike, etc.) but should never be confused with real change.
• Be persistent. You will have to repeat an action 21 times before it becomes a habit. The first day will be very difficult, but after that it will get a little easier every day.