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• Method 1 of 4: Articulate your feelings about your nose
• Method 2 of 4: Build confidence
• Method 3 of 4: Dealing with others
• Method 4 of 4: Finding support
• Warnings

Your nose may be different than usual, which may make you view your nose as a barrier to social success and happiness. It is natural to focus on yourself, but these thoughts do not reflect what people find most important and valuable about you.In addition, you can feel attractive and happy with a nose that is not average. Read on to learn ways you can be at peace with your nose and embrace its beauty.

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Method 1 of 4: Articulate your feelings about your nose

1. Find out why you are having problems with your nose. People tend to be influenced by their environment and the opinions of other people. Maybe someone made an unkind comment about your nose, or you suddenly noticed a blemish on your nose that's bothering you. Or you pay attention to the noses of others, such as those of your friends or a famous model.
   • Write down your thoughts about your nose. Ask yourself what it is that you don't like about your nose. Is it too long, too big, too small, too square, too round? This can help you identify your self-criticisms.
2. Find out who or what influenced your thinking. Unfortunately, people can say things to you that are unkind, even people close to you, such as friends or family. One of the first steps in fighting a negative body image is finding out who has been unkind to you. Since these are likely people you trust, you probably take their words for granted.
   • Consider how you might be influenced by societal expectations and ideas about what the perfect nose is. You can also become hyper-aware of noses in magazines, online, and on TV.
3. Think about social situations where you don't have problems with your nose. This could be when you are with parents or your friends, or when you are engaged in a favorite activity or sport, because then you are not busy with your nose at all.
   • You may feel comfortable with certain people because you know that they accept and love you, including your nose. They see all your beauty. Keep this in mind as you go out into the world. There are people who accept you for who you are and what you look like.
4. Know when you have extreme thoughts about your appearance. Often times, negative thoughts come from imagining the most extreme situation or worst-case scenario. Just focusing on your nose and making it the center of your life is extreme behavior. There are so many other aspects of you that make you who you are.
   • For example, an extreme mindset is when you feel like you need to put on a layer of makeup to make your nose less noticeable before going out. In reality, people probably won't notice your nose at all.

Method 2 of 4: Build confidence

1. Know that noses change over the course of a lifetime. The shape of a person's nose will change over time. The support inside the nose will weaken with age, and the nose will collapse. He may start to look a little taller or taller as a person gets older.
   • No matter what you think your nose looks like now, it will keep changing, just like the rest of your body will change.
2. Try a cognitive persuasion exercise. This exercise helps us remember what we think is most cognitively about a person. When asked what we like most about ourselves, we often mention personality traits instead of physical traits. This reminds us that personality and ability are more important than your physical. We are also reminded that we have the power to determine our self-worth on our own terms, not those imposed on us by our culture.
   • List three of your favorite physical traits. You can train yourself to think more positively about your body as a whole. This can help you accept your nose and see it as beautiful too. List three of your favorite characteristics. For example, you can say something like, "I like my eyes, I have long eyelashes, and I have nice toes."
   • List your favorite personality traits. You can say something like, "I am a hard worker, I am a good friend and I have a good sense of humor."
   • Put these two lists together and sort them in order of importance. Write a sentence about each item on the list.
   • Most people who do this exercise tend to value personal attributes over physical attributes.
3. Increase your self-esteem regarding your appearance. Write down some of your favorite physical features again. If you have a hard time coming up with examples, think of the ones you have the least problems with.
   • Write a positive sentence about each of these characteristics. For example, you could say something like, "I love my blue eyes because they sparkle in the light."
   • Use this information that you have selected from within for subtle changes in the way you present yourself. If you think you are good looks, wear clothes that bring out the color of your eyes. Wear makeup that accentuates your eyes.
4. Silence your inner critic. Once you've pinpointed the sources of your negative thoughts, you can start working on changing your thoughts and ideas about your body. You may be making negative comments about yourself. When you do, take note of these comments. Ask yourself the following questions:
   • Is it a friendly comment?
   • Would I say this to a friend?
   • Does it make me feel good?
5. Replace negative thinking with positive thinking. After you become aware when you are criticizing yourself, stop yourself for a moment. Replace this thought with something positive.
   • For example, you might think, "My nose seems to take up my whole face." Stop yourself and think something positive, like, "My nose is unique. Any other nose would look strange on my face. I'm beautiful."
6. Understand that beauty depends on the culture. Different cultures appreciate different styles and beauty ideals. While one culture may appreciate a small, curled nose, another culture may instead appreciate bigger, broader noses. Beauty is a value constructed by individual cultures.
   • For example, throughout history, some cultures have always appreciated nose rings and other decorations that accentuate the nose.

Method 3 of 4: Dealing with others

1. Ignore it if someone teases you. Many people only become aware of their nose when someone teases them with it. The best strategy is to ignore the teasing as the teasing is just trying to piss you off. Follow these steps to ignore teasing:
   • Keep Calm: Do not respond to the teasing in any way. Keep your facial expression neutral and don't show aggression in your body.
   • Don't say anything: Don't respond with words, and certainly not aggressively.
   • Walk away: Leave the situation for what it is. This could mean actually leaving by walking out the door, or distancing yourself mentally by turning around and doing something else.
2. Focus your attention on other people. Worrying about what your nose looks like takes too much valuable time from your brain. People will like you if you listen to them, no matter what your nose looks like.
   • One way to keep your nose from being the center of someone's attention is to focus the conversation on them. Everyone is proud of something, such as a job, family, the church, or beliefs. If you are concerned that this person will notice your nose, listen carefully to find out what someone is proud of. Once you discover something that the other person is proud of, compliment the person on it. Optionally expand this to a related, kindly intended joke.
   • Focusing on other people can be difficult. This will take your focus away from your nose in social situations, make you feel more positive, and appear more likable to others.

Method 4 of 4: Finding support

1. Look for role models with unique noses. Your nose won't make or break your chances of success in life, but it can still be helpful to find examples of successful people with unique noses. These can become your personal role models as you build your confidence. Some famous people with big or unique noses include: Barbra Streisand, Bette Midler, Andy Samberg, Sofia Coppola, Oprah Winfrey, and many more.
2. Confide in a friend. Communicate with your best friend about your feelings regarding your nose. Often you will find that if you admit a fear out loud to someone, you are the only one who has noticed it.
3. Talk to a family member. Chances are that someone in your family has a nose similar to yours. Talk to this person about your concerns. Ask if that person's confidence has decreased because of their nose. Ask how he / she dealt with it.
4. Join a body image support group. See if there is a support group in your area of ​​people who are uncomfortable with their physical appearance.
5. Talk to a psychotherapist. If you still have problems with your appearance, it may be helpful to talk to a psychotherapist. This person can help you deal with your emotions about your nose. He can also suggest strategies for learning to accept your nose.
   • Ask questions about a body dysmorphic disorder (BDD). People who suffer from BDD think that a feature of their body, such as the nose, is undesirable in such a way that it has limited their lives. This one characteristic takes up their entire lives.

Warnings

• Keep in mind that plastic surgery, such as a nose job, will be a very temporary fix to the problem. While you may experience relief initially, you may still have a negative feeling about your nose after surgery. You may also transfer the negative feelings to another part of your body. It is better to learn to accept your nose so that you can be satisfied as you are now, rather than resorting to unnecessary surgery.