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• Part 1 of 4: Assessing your life
• Part 2 of 4: Making life plans
• Part 3 of 4: Setting boundaries for your work
• Part 4 of 4: Getting healthier

Feeling happy with your life can be difficult. It's easy to get distracted by commitments, work, equipment, or health issues. If you are currently unhappy about some aspect of your life, you can make changes any day or any time that will make you happier and healthier. You can learn how to get a life by pursuing physical, work, leisure, and social goals.

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Part 1 of 4: Assessing your life

1. Define what a life is to you. This notion of "a life" is subjective. You have to think about what's important to you. What do you want to achieve in life? What makes you happy? It's not until you think about things like that that you begin to realize how to achieve a life.
   • Don't let others decide for you what a meaningful life is. While it is true that many people will see certain things as indicative of 'a life' more than others, based on human universal needs, such as having children or a family, fun experiences or meaningful work, what matters most is you personally is important.
2. Keep a diary. Write about the things that bothers you or get excited about in your own life. Keeping a journal has been shown to increase a person's well-being and help find patterns in life, both positive and negative. More specifically, writing in a journal can help you better organize your thoughts and feelings, get to know yourself better, reduce stress or solve problems by looking at them in a new light.
   • Determine what type of journal works best for you. You can just start writing on paper or keep a digital document on your laptop. The important thing is to get your thoughts on paper and think about them.
3. Discuss your life with others. Sometimes expressing yourself to another can give you a deep understanding of what you want and need. In addition, other people can have insight into your life that you may be lacking.
   • If you don't want to talk to family or friends, make an appointment with a therapist. Talk therapy can be very effective in treating underlying emotional issues, as well as helping to articulate and organize your thoughts.
4. Divide your life into domains. List the most important areas of your life, such as your social life, work, spirituality, family, leisure, health, community, and charity. Once you have divided your life into these areas, consider whether you are happy in each of these areas of your life. Having a life usually means creating a balance between the areas of your life that are important to you.
   • Take the phrase "everything in measure" to heart. Reduce activities that aren't done in moderation to achieve a more balanced life.
5. Brainstorm ways to create more time for areas that are underrepresented. For example, suppose you find that you are not doing enough for your environment and health. Spend some time thinking of ways to create more time to improve your life in these specific areas.
   • For example, you could list a few charities you would like to know more about.
   • With your health in mind, take a moment to adjust your budget to see if you can afford a gym membership. You could take some time to consider which local sports teams you could join.
   • If you're particularly busy, you may also need to think about where you can cut back to earn the extra time or resources. The best areas to start with are those areas that you think you spend too much time on (eg work).
6. Consider your life every few months. Review the state of your life (you can do this in part by reading your journal) and decide if your life is more fulfilling because of the changes you've made. The best way to find out is to see if you personally feel happier about your life. Remember not to pay attention to what others might think of your life. After all, you are the one who lives your life, not them.
   • Give yourself time to change your life because it won't be easy. Try to focus on small changes for a year. When a year is up, you should have a better idea of ​​what makes you happy.

Part 2 of 4: Making life plans

1. Practice letting go of things you can't control. Inevitably, things will pop up in your life that are largely or completely out of your control. This is only part of life. While you cannot change certain circumstances, you can change your attitude towards them. Trying to control things you can't control can often backfire and make you more stressed.
   • Whenever you come up with something that you can't control, put it on paper. Put this in a box and proceed. Letting go of stressful situations or people will allow you to work on the things you can control.
2. Live in the present. Think about how you can make better today, instead of always working towards a future goal. If you are constantly living too far ahead in the future, you will miss life. Life only happens in the now. While this isn't a recommendation for living every day as if it were your last (because every day isn't really your last), it's a good idea to spend some time each day enjoying the present moment. To live more in the present, you can do the following:
   • Only do one task at a time; avoid multitasking.
   • Leave some space between your daily tasks so that you have some time to think and not feel too rushed.
   • Set aside 5-10 minutes a day to do absolutely nothing but sit in silence.
   • Eat slowly and focus on the taste and consistency of your food.
3. Do something new every week. Pick up a tourist information guide for your city, ask friends about things to do, or search online for fun things to do in your area. Dare it and try new activities. Go alone or ask a friend or your partner to come along. The important thing is to try something new and be unbiased about it. Trying something new can bring a number of benefits, such as:
   • Giving you courage by facing the unknown.
   • Get rid of boredom.
   • Let you grow through new experiences.
4. Learn something new. Take a class (possibly online) or watch some free lectures online. A lifelong learning center can provide an inexpensive opportunity to learn photography, social media, or any other skill you've been wanting to master for a while. You can try the following websites to search for classes or talks that interest you:
   • https://www.coursera.org/
   • http://oyc.yale.edu/
   • https://www.edx.org/

Part 3 of 4: Setting boundaries for your work

1. Don't work on weekends. Make sure you have two days a week to dedicate to yourself and / or your family. Make the work weekend something abnormal, not normal. If you can shorten the time in the work domain, you will find more time for other important life domains.
   • Try to keep in mind that working is like gas - it will continue to take up more space as it gets more space. It will take up more and more of your time. You can always work more. There will always be more work to do. Just save work for a weekday!
2. When you get home, turn off electronic devices. Ask your family to do the same for several hours each day so you can focus on each other. Studies show that checking your email less can make you happier, so turn off your phone and spend some real time with your loved ones.
3. Take a risk at work. Volunteer for something or go a step further with a project. Show initiative and use more of your intellect to make the work more fulfilling.
   • That said, keep in mind that balance in your life is important too. You will have to ask yourself whether it is worth putting in that extra work time to do something that gives you satisfaction, even if it means taking time away from other important areas of life. Only you can answer that question.
4. Remember why you work in the first place. Most of us work to make enough money to enjoy life. If you spend all your time working and you don't have time to spend with your family or do the things you love, then you need to find ways to limit your working time.
   • However, keep in mind that if you get a lot of satisfaction from your job and see your work as something that gives you the life you want, then it's okay to work a lot. What matters is what is important to you in defining what a good life is.

Part 4 of 4: Getting healthier

1. Exercise. Working on your fitness and muscles for at least 30 minutes a day will help you live healthier and longer. Try some of these ideas to improve your physical life:
   • Plan outdoor activities and adventure activities with your family. Make sports fun and do this several evenings a week or on the weekend. Go hiking, cycling, explore your own city on foot or do sports.
   • Join a sports club or group for an active hobby. If you miss being part of a team, join something like a soccer team, volleyball or basketball team. In most places you can find opportunities, and you can compete in competitions after work and on weekends.
   • Try a new workout. If you usually go to the gym, try new classes or go outside to walk or run a few days a week. Alternate your routine.
2. Walk in nature. Experiencing the beauty of nature can lead to a feeling of awe and can give you a greater sense of wonder. So, get out into nature as often as possible for your health and to feel a sense of wonder.
3. Get enough sleep. Give yourself eight hours plus an hour to get ready and an hour to wake up. The result can be a relaxed, happier self. Make sure to stick to a routine; a fixed sleep pattern can help you fall asleep every night.
   • Make sure to create a dark, noise-free room that can help you sleep. In addition, do not drink caffeine in the evening, otherwise it will be more difficult to get to sleep.
4. Volunteer for a good cause. Donate your time and connect with people who need your help. Studies have shown that volunteering for a good cause can make you happier, improve your empathy, and make you more fulfilling.
   • Search for a charity online or in your area, or check the local newspaper for volunteer opportunities.
5. Build your relationship and support system. Choose at least an hour a week where you can communicate with people who are important to you without distraction from work. This increases your mental well-being and reduces stress; social support is very important for health.