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• Method 1 of 3: Dealing with conflict in an adult way
• Method 2 of 3: Teach your sister how to behave
• Method 3 of 3: Take care of yourself

Sibling rivalry has been around as long as there have been siblings. If you are an older sibling, you will likely find your younger counterpart's behavior frustrating at times. Little sisters can be annoying. Sometimes they still have to learn to behave in an adult way. Sometimes their behavior invites you to respond immature yourself! Fortunately, you can reduce the unpleasant impact of your little sister's behavior by keeping one important fact in mind: she looks up to you as a role model. She often tries to tell you something important. Respond mature to your sister's nasty traits and encourage her if she is well-behaved. Soon you will notice that she annoys you less - and you will have more fun with each other's company.

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Method 1 of 3: Dealing with conflict in an adult way

1. Communicate calmly. When you are in a conflict with someone else, it is better to avoid dealing with the problem while feeling angry, frustrated, or upset. You may not communicate well and will only make the situation worse.
   • If possible, stay away from your little sister for a while. Talk about what happened when you both feel calmer.
   • If you can't get away, try to keep your cool. Blaming her will only make the situation worse. Take a breath and count to ten before responding.
2. Express your feelings using "I" statements. Instead of saying, "You're such a bitch" or "Why don't you leave me alone," say something like, "When you do that, I feel sad / hurt / disrespected / angry. It stings. Do you like it when people hurt your feelings? "This helps your sister understand the impact of her behavior and teaches her that her actions have consequences.
   • Using "I" language instead of blaming or criticizing your sister will also show her that you respect her. The chance that she will treat you with respect is also much higher.
3. Listen to your sister's side of the story. How does she experience this conflict? Even if you still disagree, understanding her premise will help both of you work towards a solution.
4. Think back to what it was like to be your sister's age. Have you always been completely rational, or have you sometimes done ridiculous or embarrassing things? Do you think you've ever annoyed people? Remember how it felt when people you loved or looked up to were mean to you? Your sister's brain is still developing, and you need to be patient as she learns how to interact with others. The more empathy you show her, the more she will learn, and the less annoying she will become.
5. Think about what motivates your sister. If you want to change her behavior, you have to understand why she behaves that way. While it may not always seem that way, your sister looks up to you. She wants to spend time with you and know that you love and respect her. Showing her that this is the case will make your relationship much easier.
   • Think about the consequences of your own actions. For example, if you keep your sister silent, she will desperately seek your attention, which can make her even more annoying. On the other hand, if you get the two of you to spend a bit of time together each week, she's much more likely to accept it if you indicate that you can't play for a while but want to do something different.
   • Learn to compromise. Your sister's needs may be different from yours, but objectively they are just as important as yours. You can't always live up to her demands and sometimes her age will make her responses not as mature as you'd like. However, if you strive to accommodate each other as much as possible, you will be able to limit significant conflict on both sides.
6. Tell a parent or caregiver what is happening. If your sister gets on your nerves, get an adult in the family to help you.
   • Remember, people will be less likely to help if you get personal or overreact, like, "She's so annoying!" Make her stop "or" You always take her side! "
   • Instead, focus on the problem: "She entered my room this week without knocking every day, and I feel like I have no privacy. Can you try to talk to her about it? "Or" She starts yelling every time I say no to her, and I have a lot of trouble with it. Do you have any ideas? "
   • Talk to a parent or guardian in private on a regular basis about life in general and the relationship with your little sister. Regular consultations give your parent or guardian the knowledge they need to monitor the way their children interact and intervene "before" it enters the crisis phase of severe irritation. Your parent or guardian should also take the time to talk to your brother (s) or sister (s).

Method 2 of 3: Teach your sister how to behave

1. Establish family rules. Choose a quiet time to meet with the whole family and establish ground rules for dealing with each other during conflict. These rules will help you deal with conflict fairly and set expectations for how certain situations will be handled.
   • For example, you could set a rule that distinguishes between 'click' and 'tell' - 'click' is done to get someone in trouble ('Janet made muddy tracks!'), While 'tell' is done to get someone into trouble. 'out' of bigger problems ('Ann is on the counter and I'm afraid she's falling off!').
2. Involve your sister in important things. Your sister shouldn't feel like she doesn't belong because she's younger. When planning a party or vacation, make sure to include her.
3. Be a good role model. Even though it may not always seem like it, your little sister looks to you as an example of how to behave. If you worry about little things, pinch her, or raise your voice, she will copy that behavior.
   • When you hang out with your little sister, ask yourself, "How would I feel or react if she treated me like that?"
   • If you screw up and raise your voice in a moment of anger, apologize to her later, when you've calmed down. She will learn from your example, and respond the same way when she messes up.
4. Be nice. When you are angry it may be tempting to physically attack your little sister, but it is never okay to intentionally hurt her, even if she did to you. Remember, you are bigger and stronger than her, and it is unfair to take advantage of it. Besides that, hitting her won't change much; she's more likely to hate you than regret her actions, and when she's angry with you, she's more likely to be annoying.
5. Be clear about your expectations. Explain what you want, what will happen if she doesn't, and what if she does.
   • If you don't want your sister to come into your room, say something like, "This is my room and you have to respect that. If you come in here without asking, I'll tell Mommy, and I won't play with you that night. However, if you respect my privacy for a week, you can sit on my bed this weekend and we'll play any board game you want. "
6. Follow it up. If you tell your sister that a certain behavior will earn her a certain reward, make sure she gets that reward when she behaves. On the other hand, if you tell her that a certain behavior will have a negative effect, make sure that it does, if she does not behave. If she expects you to lie to her or cheat on her, she probably won't listen to what you're saying.
   • This also means you shouldn't say things like, `` If you don't leave me alone, I'll never talk to you again! '' Your sister knows you'll have to talk to her again at some point, so your threat will be meaningless. and she will have no reason to listen to you.
7. Reward good behavior. This is especially important when your sister is behaving well without being told.
   • If your sister isn't bothering you all evening, say, "I really appreciate how well you enjoyed yourself doing my homework tonight. That was great. "High-five her, or better yet, spend a little time with her." It will mean a lot to her that you notice that she was good and she will want to impress you again in the future.
8. Run away from bad behavior. Say something like, `` If you want to be angry for a while, that's okay, but I can't talk to you while you're acting like that, '' then calmly move elsewhere - this can be a lot more powerful than screaming and yelling at you little sister to leave you alone. This can lead to a tantrum - your sister is desperate for your attention, and doing annoying is one of the easiest ways to get it.
   • Do not leave your sister alone and unsupervised when she is very small, but do not try to calm her down or reason with her while she is kicking and screaming. Negative attention is still attention, and if you respond to her tantrums by staying in touch with her, she will learn that her tantrums are a good way to get you to interact with her.
   • Once she calms down, you can respond to her again.
9. Remember that you are not your sister's parent after all. As an older sibling, you are a valuable role model and even a teacher. Setting high expectations and following up on what you have said are important ways to demonstrate these responsibilities.
   • However, avoid the temptation to become a "parent" of your sibling. Ultimately, your parent or guardian is responsible for guiding your sibling's behavior. When you are the oldest, you can feel like everyone is dependent on you. Young siblings, on the other hand, may feel like they are receiving less attention or being treated like babies. Let your parent or guardian be the head of the household.

Method 3 of 3: Take care of yourself

1. Breath. Concentrating on your breathing is a tool many psychologists use to teach people how to deal with anxiety. Inhale slowly through your nose for about four seconds, hold your breath for about two seconds, then exhale slowly for another four seconds. Pause for a few seconds and repeat. This works best if you breathe from your diaphragm - this means that your stomach should inflate when you breathe in, rather than your chest.
2. Get enough sleep and eat well. You've probably noticed that you get more cranky when you're tired or hungry. Taking care of your body will help you stay healthy if your little sister starts to irritate you.
3. Always watch your sister for clues. She may have problems at school, such as being a bully or having something with friends. These nasty moments can be a cry for help.
4. Keep things in perspective. Remember, a big part of what annoys your sister is that she's still little. While it may feel like she will always piss you off, it can help to remember that she's growing and learning every day. She won't always be that annoying. Remind yourself that you love her, and that this moment won't feel all that important in a week or so.
   • Remember the many positive aspects of having a sibling. You and your sister will always have each other. It is very likely that the person you find so annoying at this stage in your life will become a lifelong friend.
   • List some kind, helpful, or loving things your little sister has done for you. Save this list for future reference to remind yourself of her good qualities if she is acting particularly annoying.
5. Give yourself some space. While your sister's silence will only make things worse, if you take some time for yourself, you'll cope better. Visit friends, go for a walk, spend some time doing something you enjoy, or sit in your bedroom with your headphones on for a while.