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• To step
• Method 1 of 3: Getting his attention
• Method 2 of 3: Talk to him
• Method 3 of 3: Spend time with him
• Tips
• Warnings

Do you have a crush on that cute 12 year old boy at your school or in your church? Learn how to get his attention, start a conversation with him, and spend time with him. Understand that there is no way to make someone love you, but you can be nice and get to know him so he can see what a wonderful person you are!

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Method 1 of 3: Getting his attention

1. Make eye contact and smile. Look at him when you're in the same room and smile at him to let him know you're nice and that looking at him makes you happy. Don't overdo it or he might think you're weird and don't like you. However, you can certainly catch his eye several times during a lesson, game, party or in church. You can shyly look away when you've caught his eye, or maintain eye contact.
2. Wear something cute. Pick a favorite outfit that makes you feel beautiful and comfortable (not too fancy and uncomfortable) so that you feel more confident the next time you see it. Don't feel like you have to wear "stylish" clothes that other people wear because he may not even like or notice them, but he will notice when you feel comfortable.
3. Put on subtle makeup, if you want, and do your hair. Experiment with how you wear your hair and makeup, but keep it simple and ultimately go for what you think looks good on you and what makes you feel good. Always start with good hygiene: shower and wash your hair, use deodorant and brush your teeth every day so you don't smell or look dirty.
   • Wear your hair loose or up in a ponytail or bun, or whatever you prefer to wear it. Try to play with curls or straightening your hair for an eventual new look.
   • Brush a little mascara on your lashes and apply some concealer or foundation to your skin if you want to cover up redness or acne.
4. Stand close to him. Stand next to him if you are in a group, and get close if you are sitting next to him. You can even lightly touch his arm while you talk or give him a playful shove if he teases you or makes fun of you. But pay attention to the signals he gives you. Some people don't like when others are in their personal space, or are uncomfortable to touch - that doesn't mean he doesn't like you.
   • If you don't want to get too close or touch him, you can just mimic his body language. If he crosses his arms, leans his head on his hand, or stands with his hands in his pockets while talking to you, wait at least 20 seconds and do the same or similar. This is a very subtle way of showing that you are paying attention and interested in him.
5. Let him ask you something. Watch him to see what kind of books he reads, what music he listens to, or what teams he follows. For example, while he's around, you read a book by the same author or wear a T-shirt from a band you think he'd like as a way to get him to initiate a conversation before you do that.
6. Write him a love letter. Write him a sweet or funny note and put it in his locker. You can leave it anonymous by signing it with a code name or word and telling him to find out who it is through clues you give him in every letter. Stick to a simple joke or compliment in your letters if you don't want to be too clingy or open right away.

Method 2 of 3: Talk to him

1. Find out what you have in common. Ask him questions about his family, hobbies, school, movies, books, or sports and you will most likely find things you have in common with him. Start talking about one of these things to spark a different conversation, and even ask to see each other to watch a TV show, play a sport, or just talk about something you both love. For example, if you both love basketball, you could say, "Hey, I have a basketball hoop in my driveway, let's play!"
2. Show your intelligence. Let him know you're smart by telling him fun facts, helping him out when you're doing homework together, or just sharing something you know a lot about. Never downplay your intelligence or act "blonde" to get his attention.
3. Be honest. Tell him things about yourself and answer his questions honestly as you get to know him. Avoid the temptation to tell white lies or say you like something just because he likes it. The truth doesn't come out until later, and it can make him less interested when he finds out you've made something up.
   • If he says "I really like country music," you don't have to say you like it when you don't, but you can keep the conversation going. You could say, "That's cool. I am more into rock music, but I am open to all types of music! Which country artists do you like? "
4. Listen to him. Pay close attention when he talks to you and remember things he says that you might bring up in later conversations. Listen carefully and give him your full attention to show him that what he has to say really interests you.
5. Be direct. If you've already spent some time with him, tell him you like him! You can say, "Hey, I really like you and I think you're funny. Would you like to go out with me sometime? "Or" I like you more than a friend. I'd love to go out with you! "
6. Tease and be playful. Make fun of him, tease him lightly about something (without being mean!), Or even offer to arm wrestle as a way to hold his hand and impress him by winning or making him feel good when he wins.

Method 3 of 3: Spend time with him

1. Hang out together in an informal environment. Tell him there is something to do with a group of people that week, such as a movie, party, or game, and give him a hint to come. When he goes, you can hang out with him without the pressure of a one-on-one relationship or date.
   • Try to chat with one or more of his friends first and invite them to the group activity as well. That way, when you talk to the guy you like, you can tell him his friends are going too and he might be more likely to say yes.
2. Meet up with him after class. Find him before he leaves the classroom if you have a lesson with him, or talk to him by his locker between lessons.
3. Eat your lunch with him. Sit next to him or just at the same table when he is in the cafeteria during lunch. This is an easy and casual way to spend some time with him during school hours.
4. Do things he likes. Go to a sports game he plays or watches, join a club he is a member of, or go to an arcade, bowling alley, or mall where he and his friends enjoy hanging out. Make eye contact and start a conversation while you are there.
5. Be friendly with his friends. Hang out with his friends and show him that you are the type of person he likes to hang out with. You may have the opportunity to spend more time with him and learn more about him through his friends.
6. Ask him out. When you're ready to hit the road, ask him out! Choose something casual like an after school bike ride or something more formal and traditional like dinner and a movie. Do whatever you enjoy doing so you can get to know each other better.
   • Try a super spontaneous and casual date by saying something like: "Oh man, I really want ice cream now! Let's go get some! "

Tips

• Every boy loves and is attracted to different things. Worry less about wearing the right clothes and makeup (guys often don't notice these things anyway!) And more about being kind and sincere when you talk to and listen to him.
• Give him time, as boys at this age are starting to hit puberty and may fear their friends will tease them. Therefore, he probably won't show too much affection for you. Next year when he is 13, he will probably start falling in love.

Warnings

• Don't despair if your crush doesn't respond well or doesn't say yes when you ask him out. Maybe he's just not ready for dates or needs more time to get to know you first. Know that you are a great person with or without a friend.
• Don't change how you look or who you are for a guy. Trying too hard can make him stop liking you, or get him interested in you for something you aren't actually.