Content

• To step
• Method 1 of 4: Take the plunge
• Method 2 of 4: Tell him regularly
• Method 3 of 4: Dealing with his answer
• Method 4 of 4: Finding the time and courage to talk about it
• Tips
• Warnings

It doesn't matter how long you've been with that guy, but taking the next step and telling him you love him can be a nerve-wracking experience. However, it is important that you express how you feel in a direct and simple way. You don't have to be dramatic about that. Just take a deep breath, gather all your courage and be yourself.

To step

Method 1 of 4: Take the plunge

1. Wait until the moment when he feels happy and safe. If your husband is stressed about work or school, family issues, or going through a personal crisis, he probably won't be very open to some major new development in your relationship. There is no "perfect moment," so don't wait for that. A relaxed, quiet moment without stress is always a good opportunity. There are, however bad moments to talk about love:
   • After sex.
   • Under the influence.
   • By telephone or via text message.
   • During or after an argument or disagreement.
2. Find a quiet, private area in which to talk. Is there a special place that you both have strong memories of? You can tell him this at the place where you had your first date or went out for dinner to celebrate the two or six months together. That said, all it really matters is that you have a place to talk, without being constantly interrupted.
   • Ask him to take you for a walk, help with a simple chore, or just come over and talk about something.
3. Keep it simple and out of mind. Don't make a big gesture of it or put it in a romantic setting - this isn't the time and chances are it will backfire. What is important is that you are yourself and make your feelings clear. So don't overthink it. Speak from the heart and talk openly with him, without making a show.
   • Just start by talking honestly about your relationship - how happy it makes you, the good memories you share, your own feelings - and then start talking about love naturally.
4. Close your eyes, take a deep breath and say "I love you". Ultimately, all you have to do is just come out and say it. So close your eyes and count to three and tell him. Say it any way that makes you feel good, as only the words really matter. Make eye contact, smile boldly and be the amazing, honest and loving person you already are. Remember - simpler is the mark of the true. If you are shy and unsure of what to do, try one of these methods:
   • 'I love you.'
   • "Harry, these past eight months have been some of the happiest of my life. I feel like we have a connection on a deep level and every day we spend together is better than the last. I love you.'
   • "I've been walking around with something for a while, and I'd like to tell you. I love you.'
   • Lean forward and kiss him on the cheek, then quickly whisper in his ear, "I love you."
5. Tell him how you feel from a distance, in a thoughtful letter or over the phone. If you can't speak to him in person, but you want to share your feelings, there's nothing to stop you from telling him you love him. The reason face-to-face is better is because it is much more personal, but you can also make remote conversations personal. Instead of texting or ending with an obscure "I love you", take the time to write a letter or email for the sole purpose of expressing your love. It doesn't have to be long, but it should come from the heart.
   • Let him know that you would rather talk to him in person, but could no longer keep your feelings secret.
   • Elaborate on a story, event, or emotion that made your love for him clear to you.
   • Let him know you don't need an immediate response; you just wanted to show him how you feel about him.

Method 2 of 4: Tell him regularly

1. Try to find a moment each day to express your love to him in word or deed. If you try to show him your love every day, be it an "I love you" before bed or simply by putting his toothpaste on his toothbrush for him, the relationship will stay strong for a long time. If you are reluctant to show your affection, try to find once a day to do so. Even an extra long, passionate kiss is a great way to slow down the time with your man by half a second.
2. Find ways to tell him this without the words. Some people have a hard time saying "I love you" literally. However, that doesn't mean they don't love their partner. If you are someone who struggles with showing affection, try the techniques below to let someone know you care:
   • Hold or squeeze hands
   • Making plans together for the future, even if it only concerns future outings
   • Introduce him to your friends and / or family
   • Surprise him with kisses, hugs and affection
   • Give compliments, encourage and show admiration.
   • Help him with little things, especially when he seems to be off.
3. Give him space and time for himself. It sounds paradoxical, but sometimes the best thing to do is not see it at all. Remember - you fell in love as separate people with lives of your own - you will have to keep some of this independence to stay happy and in love. Don't feel like you need to constantly check how much you care about each other. Sometimes giving each other some free time is the best way to show that you know and love someone.
4. Talk to him openly and honestly when you're upset - even loving couples argue from time to time. Don't shy away from arguments or problems just by saying "I love you," and accept your concerns. Most loving couples also have disagreements, and you need to talk openly and honestly about it to keep your love. So don't feel like you're wrecking love, or having to take back your words when you bring up a disagreement or problem - you're just showing your love in a different way.
   • Never do anything for a partner you don't want to prove "your love." Love doesn't have to be proven.
5. Tell your partner that you love him when you feel that way, not because you have an obligation. Everyone has different comfort levels when it comes to saying "I love you". There are those who say it at the end of every call, and there are those who save it for special moments and everything in between. So don't worry about how often you should say this, or how often you should hear it - people are different and show their love in different ways.
   • These words mean a lot more when you really mean them. If you only say "I love you" when you are full of love for the other, both of you will be much happier.

Method 3 of 4: Dealing with his answer

1. Make it clear that he doesn't have to repeat your words. You can pause, smile, and start talking about something else to indicate that the moment is over. You can even tell him you don't need a response to let him know to take a moment to think. The less you come across as expecting a particular response from him, the sooner he'll give you the answer you want - maybe not right away, but eventually, once he realizes his lucky guy.
   • When you talk to him, try to say everything personally - "I realized I love you," "I fell for you, etc. - instead of words like" we "and" us ".
2. Sit down and listen to him after you say what you want. Since guys aren't always encouraged to express their thoughts and feelings, it's extra important to make them feel like they can confide in someone. Be an active listener by reading between the lines, letting them speak before you respond, and by asking. Avoid linking what he is saying back to yourself. You told him you love him - now be patient as he processes his own emotions.
   • A little silence, while uncomfortable at times, isn't a bad thing. He may be off and take time to digest the news - don't think either of you has to keep talking.
3. Give him time and space to think. Just because you don't demand an answer doesn't mean you don't pressure him. If he doesn't get back to you for a day or two, don't worry too much - he just has to process some things. Chasing him or following his every move to see how he reacts will only scare him away from you more.
4. Regardless of his reaction, continue to treat him like a friend to help your relationship grow. If he reacts awkwardly or tells you his feelings are different, stay kind and affectionate - you've done your part! But if he smiles or replies that he loves you too, then there is no reason to drag him to the altar. Telling someone you love them is just another step in your relationship, not the end. The most important thing is to treat him the way you love him, not just saying the words.
   • Continue to talk to each other regularly, and have open and honest conversations about your relationship.
   • Don't feel the need to tell him you love him every day from now on - actions speak louder than words.
5. Respect his decision or response without arguing about it. Ultimately, you can only express your feelings. You can't control how he will respond, and you shouldn't want to. Regardless of what he answers, you must respect his wishes and move on with your life. It takes a lot of courage and passion to tell someone you love them - be proud of yourself for your effort and courage.

Method 4 of 4: Finding the time and courage to talk about it

1. Ask yourself why you want to tell him you love him. Love is a beautiful, happy emotion. But it's also a powerful word, and you shouldn't take it off your husband unless you're sure you mean it. This does not mean that you should write a dissertation about your feelings. But you will have to ask yourself what you hope to get by telling him you love him.
   • If he has already told you that he loves you and you know you feel the same about him, feel free to say so.
   • If your relationship is strong and you know him and yourself well, it may be time to tell him you love him.
   • If you are convinced that you love him and should tell him this, trust your instincts and tell him.
   • If you want to tell him this just to see what he will say, or because you feel pressured to say it, forget it. Love is something you give to others without expecting a response from anyone else.
   • If you're just friends but you want more, ask him out before telling him you love him.
2. Spend time together talking, doing things together, and being romantic. Before you start talking about "loving", make sure you have a good time together. This also gives you a great opportunity to gauge his feelings for you. Chances are, if you love him, he'll be attracted to you to some degree, too. Just focus on letting go and having fun - love has nothing to do with enforcing your feelings - so take the time to build a relationship.
   • Ultimately, it's about telling him how you feel in confidence. If you're not sure if he answers your feelings, that's okay! That's why you want to tell him about your own feelings.
   • Do you notice that he feels comfortable being alone with you? If not, saying you "love him" might be a bit too much of a good thing.
3. Talk to trusted mutual friends if you are unsure whether he is a friend or something more. Sometimes you just need someone else's perspective. A big reason many people don't say "I love you" is that they fear the partner doesn't have the same feelings. Ultimately, it's about being honest with your thoughts and feelings. However, if you are concerned about that, do the following:
   • Ask a mutual trusted friend or one who considers you a couple.
   • Talk to one of them to be friends to find out if he is interested in someone else. If you're brave enough, ask if he has feelings for you.
4. Make sure he knows you like him before you tell him you love him. Even best friends may be surprised by these powerful words, "I love you." You may have been thinking about this yourself for months, but it is overwhelming and unexpected to him. Imagine yourself in a similar situation - you have a friend who suddenly tells you that he is in love with you. You will probably be tongue-tied, at the very least. So don't jump right in - take the time to explore your feelings for each other. Do some exploratory research for a few weeks, for example by saying the following:
   • "I just want to tell you that I really like you."
   • "I really enjoy doing things with you. These have been a great few months. "
   • "Shall we go out a few times, just the two of us for a change?"
5. Let love overwhelm you for a few days before taking the next step. Love: The most blissfully confusing human emotion in existence. If you feel overwhelmed with affection, find that you have butterflies in your stomach every time you see it, and want to blurt out "I love you!", Chances are you are madly in love. But no matter how strong this feeling, resist the temptation to tell someone immediately. Instead, sit back and enjoy the intoxication of love for a few days. Show yourself that this is not just a crush, but the real deal. If you still feel like you love him, get ready to take the plunge.
   • If you don't feel a connection with him after a few days, then it was just a crush and not love. Love lasts for a long time.
6. Consider letting him say it first. It has been scientifically proven that men are more likely to say "I love you" first than women. To complicate matters, many relationship books focus on the woman always saying second, "I love you." The reasons are a bit hazy ("evolutionary advantage for men who commit as soon as possible") or made up ("women who say first come across as overly needy"), but there is something to be said for tradition. Like it or not, some men find it strange when a woman is the first to say "I love you." This should not prevent you from expressing your feelings, but it is worth considering.

Tips

• Make sure you really love him. Loving his words all too easily used these days, and anyone who has ever heard them from someone else who, intentionally or not, actually didn't mean it, can tell you that it is not something to be taken lightly.
• Before you do anything drastic, think about your relationship. Are you in the stable phase? The romantic phase? The power struggle phase? Even if you are convinced that what you feel is real, while the relationship is immature, these words can ruin something beautiful, especially as men tend to be shy about "loving".
• Don't be afraid to be spontaneous. While planning ahead to perfect your technique can be helpful, don't get so focused on the technique of the moment that you miss a great opportunity to amaze him.
• Ask him yourself. Never let someone else ask him this for you. You're the one who wants to ask him out, so you have to do the work yourself.
• Don't say, "I love you" to any friend; make sure you know him or her well, because love is a powerful thing!

Warnings

• Brace yourself for the possibility that he won't reciprocate your feelings - but remember, it's not the end of the world. Saying "I love you" is a very serious matter for most men because it implies a committed relationship.
• Don't speak ill of a man who doesn't reciprocate your feelings of love. That way you come across as jealous and narrow-minded.