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• Part 1 of 3: Starting the conversation
• Part 2 of 3: Compose the message
• Part 3 of 3: Waiting for his answer

If you really like a guy, a text message is a handy way to ask him out, and it creates little pressure on either side. If you decide to ask a guy out via text message, there are good and bad ways to do it. It's good to chat with him for a while before asking him out. What you write is also important, so take time for your messages.

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Part 1 of 3: Starting the conversation

1. Send a greeting. Try to break the ice before asking him out. Send him a simple greeting to start the conversation. If you haven't spoken to him before, remind him of who you are and how you two met. Say you'd like to talk to him again. If you've spoken to each other before, greet him like you did last time.
   • People can't always respond to messages right away, so asking him out for the first time will make you super nervous if he doesn't respond quickly. By chatting for a while first, you know he's paying attention to his phone.
   • If you've already started talking to him, he's more likely to respond positively to your request to go out. If you ask him out without any warning, he may be surprised and say no.
   • For example, write to him, "Hey Jan, this is Linda. That party last weekend was great. I'm glad we met. "It's simple, but much more effective than something like," Hey, how are you? "
2. Notice his interest in the conversation. Exchange a few messages with him to see how the conversation goes. If he constantly gives short answers or makes you wait a long time, then he may not be interested in you. You don't want to ask him out right away without having an idea of ​​whether or not he will say yes.
   • Find the balance between asking him out immediately and waiting so long that the conversation dies out. If he responds well to four or five exchanged messages, take this as a good sign to ask him out.
   • Even if he doesn't seem that interested, you can take the courage and ask him out anyway. Just be prepared for a possible rejection.
3. Flirt and see how he responds. If you're chatting with him, start sending messages that are a bit more flirty than a regular conversation. If he responds by flirting back, it's a good sign he might be interested in going out. If he seems to be ignoring your flirtation or reacting negatively, don't ask him out.
   • For example, write something like, "It's a shame I'm home alone. I'd much rather sit next to you. If he says, "We can make it happen," he probably likes you.
4. Ask him out if he seems interested in you. If the conversation goes well and he responds positively to your flirtation, then it's time to move on with your mission. Don't worry too much about what he will say. Type the message, check it, and send it without hesitation.
   • Say something like, "Dylan, I like you. Would you be interested in dating me this weekend? "

Part 2 of 3: Compose the message

1. Keep your messages simple. When you like someone, it's easy to overthink what you're going to say to them. If you type a long message and ask him out in the middle of it, he may miss your question. Keep the message short and to the point. Send a text just asking him out.
   • Don't rattle off a whole story like, "I've been thinking about what I could do this weekend because I'm bored the whole time I'm at home. Would you like to go out? I know there isn't much to do, but I thought we could have fun together. Anyway, I'm not even sure ... "
   • You might want to ask a boy out of school. A teen is more likely to respond to a simple message than one that just keeps going. Tell him something like, "Would you like to go out with me this weekend?"
   • If you want to ask a colleague, say something like, "We never get much time to talk to each other at work. Do you want to go for a drink after work tomorrow? "
2. Ask him out directly. You might be tempted to ignore it, or ask in a vague way, something he may not be able to understand. If you text him, tell him you want to go out and ask him if he wants to. It is important that he knows that you are asking him out.
   • For example, don't say, "I haven't been out with guys a lot lately and it seems like you haven't either. Maybe we can do something together. That could be cool. "Rather say something like," Would you like to go out together? "
   • This is especially important if you are asking a guy you are already friends with. It is important that they know that you mean it romantically. Say something like, "I know we hang out a lot, but would you like to go to Maartje's party with me as my date?"
3. Ask him to do something specific. When asking someone out, saying, "Would you like to go out?" No specific timeline or activity is indicated. Think of something cool you could do together and ask him to come along. Also indicate a few times that would suit you.
   • For example, tell him about a party you're going to on the weekend and ask him to come with you. Ask him to try the new Italian restaurant on Wednesday.
   • The possibilities are endless, and he may decline your offer. Asking him to do something specific is always better than just "asking him out".
   • This is important if you're asking out a guy you've just met. Asking to make specific plans can help figure out what he would like to do on a date. Say something like, "I am a fan of ice hockey, and have tickets to the game this weekend. Would you like to come along? "
4. Use correct grammar and complete sentences. Even with smartphones, it is common for people to abbreviate words and use slang that is difficult to understand. When asking a guy out, write in full sentences that are clear. It is a turnoff to see anything resembling confusing gibberish.
   • For example, don't send something like, "Hey, hang out tomorrow ?. Go do it. "Rather write something like," I thought we could go out tomorrow. Do you feel like it?'
   • Check your message before hitting send to make sure you haven't accidentally misspelled anything. Autocorrect can make a message confusing if you don't check it before sending it.

Part 3 of 3: Waiting for his answer

1. Give him time to answer. Messages don't follow a strict timetable, which can be good and bad. After you ask him out, wait for him to answer you. If you want to send another message apologizing or asking him what he thinks, don't. Have patience and give him time to think and reply to you.
   • If you've been texting for a while and he's not responding right away, it might be his way of saying no, but don't take it right away.
2. Keep yourself busy while you wait for a response. If he doesn't respond right away when you ask him out, don't panic right away. Find something to do while you wait. Staring at your phone or checking it every two minutes will drive you crazy. Set the ringtone and find something to engage with.
   • Go for a run, take a shower, turn on Netflix, grab a book, or work on a hobby. As long as you find something to occupy your mind, you'll be better off.
3. If you don't hear from him, get in touch again. Sometimes people do not respond to messages, or phones do not work properly and messages do not arrive. If you've been waiting for a while, it's okay to ask if he got your message.
   • There is no exact time when you should message him again. Usually, if you haven't heard from him within a day, you can text him to ask about it.