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• To step
• Part 1 of 4: Learning more about yourself
• Part 2 of 4: Expanding your horizons
• Part 3 of 4: Dealing with other people
• Part 4 of 4: Being a good conversation partner
• Tips

Do you occasionally feel that you could use a little more passion in your daily worries? Maybe you would like to have a closer relationship with the people around you.While you don't necessarily have to be the driving force behind every party, you do have the potential to forge deeper relationships with other people and activities. This, in turn, can make you a more interesting person. Discover what you are interested in as a person, and incorporate these interests into your daily life. Try the steps below to choose your own path on the way to becoming a more interesting person.

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Part 1 of 4: Learning more about yourself

1. Write a list of your skills and interests. Find out what it means to you to be interesting. What's interesting is not the same for everyone. Knowing what you're interested in is essential to getting better at interacting with other people in a way that can appear more interesting. Improve your skills by learning more about what you are good at. This is a much simpler approach than forcing yourself to learn more about something you are not interested in.
   • Think about qualities and activities that fascinate you. What do you find interesting, either about yourself or about other people?
   • It's also much easier to start a conversation about topics you're already interested in, rather than pretending you're interested in the lives of others just to satisfy them.
2. Think about what "interesting" means to other people. Determining what is “interesting” - and how to achieve this quality - will likely depend on your own unique set of skills, as well as the group of people you prefer to interact with. If you consider yourself a very good musician, and spend a lot of time with people who love music, then being interesting will probably mean that you have basic musical knowledge and know how to play an instrument. On the other hand, such elements may be less interesting if you are someone primarily interested in sports or cars.
   • This does not mean that you have to tailor your conversations completely for others. If you are not interested in what you say, then you will not be as interesting as you can. Strive to be real while trying to be interesting.
3. Cherish your uniqueness. Know that you are already an interesting person at this point. You may be able to become a more interesting person in other people's eyes when you highlight some of your unique traits.
   • This may sound a bit paradoxical at first, but it only means that striving to be yourself most often makes you feel at ease. This, in turn, will make others feel more comfortable around you.

Part 2 of 4: Expanding your horizons

1. Try new activities to expand your comfort zone. Experiment with new activities that may interest you. When you expand your comfort zone, you drag yourself out of a rut. You inject your life with more excitement. You meet new people. Be open to trying new activities so that you learn to be a little bolder.
   • Volunteer with a nonprofit or learn a new sport or hobby. Pick something you have very little experience with and go for it!
2. Work on your personal qualities by trying concrete activities. Your goal of becoming more interesting may involve becoming bolder or kinder. But it is difficult to learn these qualities without a specific plan. Instead of focusing on working on one of your existing personal traits, try concrete activities or skills.
   • For example, instead of convincing yourself to be more courageous, try participating in an activity that scares you to some degree when you think about it. You can also go wall climbing if you are afraid of heights, or go to a petting zoo if you are afraid of animals. By pushing yourself out of your comfort zone, you may eventually be able to feel more comfortable participating in activities that you or others find interesting.
3. Meet new people. When you expand your network of acquaintances, you may be faced with more interesting situations and activities. Ask people about themselves.
   • Once you get someone to talk, for example, you may discover that this person is an expert in bee keeping, something you've always wanted to try.
4. Travel as much as possible. Seeing more of the world can make you more aware of subtle differences between people from different (ethnic) backgrounds. Being sensitive to how these differences affect others and yourself can help people feel more comfortable around you
   • This can also give you a better idea of ​​what passes for interesting in other parts of the world.
   • Make your next vacation an unusual one. Go to an exotic place and do things you don't normally do. This can be something like backpacking, surfing, mountain climbing or going on a jungle safari.
5. Read more. Read books on fun topics such as how to make unique cocktails, exotic places to travel, or how to become a great lover. These topics will give you loads of material for engaging conversations.

Part 3 of 4: Dealing with other people

1. Learn to talk to people about their interests. It is important to learn how to engage in conversation with other people when you are not interested in the topic being discussed. Conversation is like a negotiation that goes back and forth between people. The conversation can develop in any direction. It is important to stay open to this process if you want to become a more interesting person. Ask questions to show that you are interested. This also makes the conversation more open, so that you have more material to talk about, which in turn helps to come up with more questions to ask.
   • For example, if you find out that the other person is an expert in beekeeping, you could ask, "I've always wanted to keep bees. How do you get started?" You give them the opportunity to share their expertise with someone else, something that most people love.
   • If you are talking to someone about their job, you can ask, "Have you always wanted to be a journalist?" Or maybe, "Which journalist do you admire the most?"
2. Hang out with people you find interesting. Find people who have skills and interests that you admire. Give more priority to the time you spend with them. Remember that the people you spend your time with have a huge impact on how your personality and interests develop. Spheres of social influence, from your neighborhood to your country, can affect you in a clear and subtle way. Observing others who are interesting can be a great way to put yourself on the right track.
3. Smile and laugh as often as you can. Research has shown that even if you are not particularly happy to begin with, the mere act of smiling can cause chemicals to be released into your brain, making you feel more comfortable in your surroundings. As a result, your smile conveys this feeling to others. Smiles and laughter have even been shown to reduce mild depression and anxiety.
   • If you want to be a more interesting person, but you just can't seem to find the right starting point, just start by smiling more and putting yourself in situations that make you laugh.
4. Learn to shake off insults or disrespect from other people. Everyone has their own interests and behaviors in this world. It is impossible to be of interest to everyone. Be happy with who you really are. Accept that not everyone will find you interesting or even like you. As a result, this will make you more interesting again to the people who actually respect your unique personality.
   • Give the other person the benefit of the doubt. Tell yourself, "He's probably having a bad day." Then say something nice to them. This may shake him up enough to notice that he is behaving bluntly.
   • You can try to exaggerate the insult, which also works as ridiculing the insult. If someone says, "Other people learn to ski a lot faster than you," you can say something like, "I just learned to walk upright, so I'm well on track in that regard."

Part 4 of 4: Being a good conversation partner

1. Try to get a feel for what people would like to hear about. While being interesting can mean talking about yourself, it also means showing an interest in other people. Ask about their children, or how the vacation was like. Make the other person feel comfortable with you by being an easy conversation partner.
2. Ask questions. Make sure that the conversation does not come to a standstill because you are not showing enough interest. Keep the conversation going by continuing to ask questions. This shows that you are listening and absorbed in what the other is saying.
   • Ask open questions during the conversation. These types of questions encourage the other person to keep talking, rather than answering yes-no.
3. Learn how to become a good storyteller. A person is often interesting because it is interesting to listen to that person. Regardless of the topic, he can turn it into a beautiful story. He relates funny details, captivates the audience and does not deviate from the subject it is about.
   • A great story that you tell someone has certain elements that resemble those of books and movies. A great story has compelling characters, relevant details, a conflict, a turning point, and even a surprising ending. Even if it is a short story, think about how you can shape the story in such a way that it is fascinating to the listener.
4. Become an active listener. You can often come across as an interesting person simply by giving the people around you the opportunity to have their say, without interrupting them or imposing any kind of moral judgment. Although this sounds very simple, it can be quite difficult in practice. This is especially true if you are used to saying exactly what comes to your mind without thinking any further. Active listening means that you pay close attention to what another person is saying, without imposing your own ideas and thoughts on the conversation.
   • Active listening also means that you remain attentive to what is being conveyed, without thinking ahead of what you want to say yourself. The next time someone tells you a story, just try to let that person speak for as long as they want, while allowing the other person's words to sink in.
   • Look for changes in facial expression or the sound of the voice. Listening carefully requires that you pay as much attention to non-verbal characteristics as to what is being said.
   • People especially like to interact with other people who give them the opportunity to say something.
5. Use confident body language. Keep your body in a confident stature. Straighten your shoulders and keep your head up. You can also become more expressive with your hands, instead of stuffing them in your jacket pocket.
   • When you are talking to someone, show through confident body language that they have your full attention. This means that you have turned your body towards the other and that you make eye contact. If you are in a room with a lot of distraction, do your best to focus on the other person.

Tips

• Experiment with your sense of fashion and style. Brighter and more unique colors can make you stand out and appear more interesting.
• Learn about something interesting or unique, such as the Universe. Trivial facts that you briefly introduce during a conversation can liven up the conversation and make you appear more interesting.