Content

• Steps
• Method 1 of 3: Befriend someone
• Method 2 of 3: Make Your Girlfriend Your Best Friend
• Method 3 of 3: Making the Right Choice
• Tips

Every girl needs a best friend - a person with whom you can always chat and share secrets. Becoming friends takes time, especially if you want to be best friends or girlfriends.Best friends don't show up overnight, but such friendships are well worth the time and effort.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Befriend someone

1. 1 Talk to other children. The best way to show a person that you want to make friends with him is to say “hello” when you meet him. Look into his eyes, smile and say hello. If you know the person's name, you can say, "Hi, ___."
   • Try to speak clearly and clearly so that the person hears you.
   • If you are shy, practice with a family member.
   • Always smile and greet this person if you suddenly meet him somewhere in the hallway.
2. 2 Compliment the person. By complimenting someone, you show that you are a sweet, pleasant girl, an open person who is ready to make friends with others. Pay attention to the other children at school and try to find something good in each of them. Then you can compliment each of them about what you noticed. Try to keep your compliments simple and sincere:
   • "You have such beautiful hair."
   • "I really like your shirt."
   • "You did a great job on this talk."
   • Alternatively, you can compliment and then ask a question to start a conversation. For example: “I like your skirt. Where did you buy it? "
3. 3 Start a conversation. A great way to easily start a conversation is to compliment the person or just say hello. When you start a conversation with someone, try to talk about your interests and preferences, and also find out about the interests of the other person. If someone asks you something, answer the question and then ask something too. Don't stop the conversation.
   • It is very important to share information about yourself with the interlocutor. Friendship is a double-edged sword.
   • Listen carefully to the interlocutor during the conversation and do not interrupt him. Wait for the other person to finish before you start talking.
4. 4 Be kind to your classmates. Doing something nice for someone is another way to show the person that you like them. You don't have to do something big, you can just lend someone a pencil or a piece of paper. If you see that the person has many things, offer to help them convey them. Share sweets or other treats with the other children at lunch.
   • There is no need to give money or any important and valuable things to classmates. You don't want people to be friends with you just because you give them something.
5. 5 Find people with whom you have common interests. To develop friendships, you need to have something in common. For example, common interests that will help you become friends. Think about what you are interested in (for example, from music, TV series and TV shows, art, sports).
   • Take a closer look at the children in the class to see if you have common interests with them. Perhaps someone is wearing a blouse with some actor or musician? Does someone carry a folder with them that might reveal something about that person's interests?
   • To get to know a person better, ask him questions. For example: “Listen, have you seen ____? I really liked it!" Or: "Do you like ____?"
   • You don't have to pretend you like something just to befriend someone. If you want to find a best friend, you need to be sincere and honest, to be yourself.
   • If you are very shy, but notice a girl who constantly walks alone, this is a great option for meeting and getting closer. Most likely, you will find a common language with her much faster than with a popular girl and the soul of any company.
   • If you are both involved in some kind of extracurricular activity, be sure you already have at least one common interest.
6. 6 Invite this girl to go somewhere. Once you meet someone with whom you have common interests, invite them over to chat and do something. You can offer some kind of interesting joint activities.Spending time together one-on-one is the key to building friendships.
   • If a new friend agreed to come to visit you, think about what you could do. Choose what you both like. You want your new friend to feel as comfortable and fun with you as possible.
   • There are many activities to offer your new girlfriend: go cycling, paint your nails, go to the movies or watch it at home, bake cookies.
   • If you can't think of anything, ask your parents for ideas.

Method 2 of 3: Make Your Girlfriend Your Best Friend

1. 1 Exchange phone numbers. Ask your new friend if she has a phone, then ask for a number. Write to her first one day and look at her answer. If she answered you and started asking counter questions, chances are she wants to befriend you too. If she did not answer you or answered with a few words, most likely she is not interested in communication.
   • Text messaging is a good way to communicate if you are nervous or embarrassed to communicate in person. Try to get to know the person better first so that it’s easier to start a conversation later.
   • If you write to a new friend, but she does not answer, do not write again. Wait and see if she writes to you first.
   • You don't have to start a conversation all the time.
2. 2 Be patient. It takes a while to progress from the "girlfriend" level to the "best friend" level. You need to get to know the person very well, and he needs to get to know you better. It may be several months before a new friend becomes your best friend.
   • Not all friends become best friends. But there is nothing wrong with just being good buddies.
   • In addition, you need to make sure that this person also wants to be your friend. If so, he will invest time and energy in your friendships.
   SPECIALIST'S ADVICE

   

   Klare Heston, LCSW

   
   
   Licensed Social Worker Claire Heston is a licensed independent clinical social worker based in Cleveland, Ohio. She has experience in educational counseling and clinical supervision, and received her Master's degree in Social Work from Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983. She also completed a two-year continuing education course at the Cleveland Institute of Gestalt Therapy and is certified in family therapy, supervision, mediation, and trauma therapy.

   Klare Heston, LCSW
   Licensed social worker

   It takes time and effort to build true friendships. Claire Heston, a licensed clinical social worker, explains: “Becoming best friends takes time, so don't expect everything to happen overnight. Friendship is based on trust and acquaintance. Start with trust and listening skills. Pay attention to your common or complementary interests. Don't be jealous of her other girlfriends; communicate with everyone. "

   
   
3. 3 Build trust. The best friend is someone you can trust. Therefore, you need to show your friend that you are a reliable person. Don't discuss your girlfriend with other people. If she confides in you a secret, don't tell anyone.
   • If you are worried about something your friend has told you, tell her about your concern and offer to talk to an adult you trust.
   • If you and your friend have an argument, try to figure it out without involving other people in the argument.
4. 4 Do something together. Being together will create an emotional bond between you. It will be great if you choose an activity that none of you have ever done before. After all, then you will have memorable moments that concern only the two of you.
5. 5 Spend time with your girlfriend more often. If you don't see each other and communicate regularly, it will be difficult to take your friendship to the next level. How often you spend time together depends only on your schedule and hers. Try to make your plans in person.
   • When offering something to a friend, do not be too persistent and annoying. If you see that your friend is hesitant about making a decision about your plans together, back off.
   • Show your friend that you are incredibly happy that you became friends with her. Show that you are looking forward to meeting her and spending time together.
   • In addition, after spending time together, you can write to your friend: "Today was a lot of fun, I can't wait for our next meeting!"
6. 6 Concentrate on common interests. You will make friends much faster with someone with whom you have a lot in common. You can talk about your likes and dislikes, but focus on common interests. If you have a similar sense of humor or the same taste in music and film, you have every chance of becoming best friends!
   • Of course, you shouldn't like everything about your friend, but try to focus on her merits and the fun moments that you experienced with her.
   • Keep in mind that the more time you spend with the person, the more your behavior will be similar to their behavior. Therefore, when choosing your best friend, be careful and careful.

Method 3 of 3: Making the Right Choice

1. 1 Learn to know when to back down. Perhaps you want to become best friends with someone who does not strive for this. It can hurt your feelings, but you need to understand that this is simply not the person you want. Unfortunately, she's unlikely to tell you directly that she doesn't want to be friends with you. Take a closer look at her behavior. If you notice any of the following in her behavior, chances are you should look for another potential best friend:
   • Your friend constantly has some excuses, or she is just very busy, so she cannot meet with you.
   • She never texts or calls you first, or he always takes too long to answer you.
   • You are always the first to start a conversation with her.
   • Your new friend doesn't want to hang out with you after school or on weekends.
2. 2 Pay attention to how she behaves with other people. If your new friend is constantly lying, gossiping, and being rude to other people, she's unlikely to be your best friend. Pay attention to how she interacts with her other friends. Does she say something bad about them while they are not around? Is she trying to command them?
   • How your friend treats other people reflects how she will treat you.
   • Since you are looking for a best friend, you should stay away from girls who gossip all the time and don't know how to keep secrets. You need a friend you can trust.
3. 3 It is better to start discussing some personal things some time after the start of communication. It takes time for a friendship to grow. Don't tell anything personal in the early stages of dating. You need to make sure that this is someone you can trust.
   • In the early stages of communication, it is better to discuss more neutral things: study, music, TV programs, favorite sports teams.
   • Don't tell your new friend about your fears or recent family problems right away. Wait a while until you get to know the person better.
   • If your new friend has begun to share personal experiences with you herself, this is a sign that you, too, can start sharing your feelings with her.

Tips

• Do not be clingy and do not impose on a new friend. You don't want to scare and push her away.
• Before getting close, try to get to know each other better. This may not be the person you were looking for.
• Text messaging is a great way to communicate and avoid awkward silence. Plus, it gives you time to think about your answer and come up with something witty.
• If she starts avoiding you, pull back for a while before trying again.
• If she has other girlfriends and friends, talk to them and try to get to know them better.
• Be sure of yourself, do not adjust to a new acquaintance, just be yourself and be sure that she will like who you are!
• If your new friend does something that makes you uncomfortable, such as being rude to someone, find another friend.
• Even if many of your attempts have failed, keep looking. There is bound to be someone looking for someone like you. You just need to find each other!