Content

• Steps
• Part 1 of 3: How to Become Polite
• Part 2 of 3: How to Help People Learn
• Part 3 of 3: How to Avoid Judgment
• Tips

Dealing with less educated and smarter people is not always easy. It may seem that you constantly have to answer questions or think for two. It should be understood that you are not able to influence someone else's quick wits. But you can change your attitude and perception in the process of communication. Small changes can make things much easier for you.

Steps

Part 1 of 3: How to Become Polite

1. 1 Don't insult the person. The worst thing you can do when dealing with a less educated person is to show that you think they are stupid. So he will only get angry and stop listening to you. If you strive for effective communication, never call the other person stupid or dimwitted.
   • If you are annoyed by a person who does not understand your words, then ask how you can help him, and do not insult him for lack of ability. For example, say, “I see you don't quite understand the geometry problem. I can help?"
2. 2 Pay attention to the person's dignity. Everyone has their own strengths, so appreciate other people's talents. For example, you may be smarter, but the person communicates better with strangers or types faster than you. Remind yourself that all skills are important and valuable in order to better relate to the person.
   • Reward the person with praise and compliments for their merits, even if they are having difficulty with other things. For example, you might say, “I understand that it’s not easy for you to get comfortable with the new work program, but you’ve had a great deal with clients today.”
3. 3 Show empathy. Whatever you think of other people, always treat them the way you want others to treat you. Be kind and polite regardless of how you treat a person in order to get along better with people.
   • If you find it difficult to empathize with others, then try to look at the world through the eyes of such a person. This will make it easier for you to understand his unique talents and realize how difficult it is to communicate with more educated people.
   • Don't get into an argument even if you are convinced the person is wrong. Arguing with him is probably useless, and you will only be disappointed. If you need to express your point of view, then say: "I believe that ________, although your thought is also interesting," instead of: "You are mistaken, but it would be right like this ________."
4. 4 Take your time to complain about a person in the workplace. Sometimes it’s better not to say anything about an employee’s lack of intelligence at all, even if you have to work together. Consider fully whether such a complaint will help you.
   • Consider how your boss might respond to your comments. If you decide that the game is worth the candle, then give your boss specific facts, and not just your opinion about the person.
   • If you are in the same class and need to complete a project together, then follow the same rule - stick to the facts when talking with the teacher.
   • You can say: “I noticed that it is difficult for Masha to work at the computer, and this slows down our team. On average, each of us manages to complete 15 tasks during the time that Masha does 6–7 tasks. Perhaps she needs to be assigned another task or work more at the computer. "

Part 2 of 3: How to Help People Learn

1. 1 Adapt to the person's learning style. Everyone learns differently and at times it is easy to think that someone is stupid because they learn differently. Take your time to jump to conclusions and ask the person how it is more convenient for him to remember the information so that you can adjust.
   • Ask the following questions: “What is the most convenient way for you to follow the progress of the project? Do you use lists? Scheme? Are you comfortable working with a dictaphone? ”; “If you're not sure how a word is spelled correctly, what are you going to do? Say it out loud, write it and look at the view, or try to mentally write in the air with your finger ”; “How do you remember new information? Making notes, repeating information, or otherwise? Is it easier for you to remember what you read or heard? "
   • Also use your observations. For example, does a person work fussy and often look around when he is busy with a sedentary business, but is concentrated and satisfied when he has to work with his hands? Does he like to talk but doesn't like to read?
   • For the visual type of perception, use diagrams, lists and checklists, cards and notes.
   • For the auditory type of perception, use conversations, recordings and mnemonic techniques.
   • For kinesthetic and tactile perceptions, use role play and hands-on experimentation.
2. 2 Encourage the person to ask questions. If you want to help a less educated person learn, they should be comfortable asking questions. Do not scare people with your mental superiority, otherwise they will be ashamed to show their lack of knowledge and ask anything. This will prevent them from learning new things. Always show that you are ready to answer any questions without judgment.
   • In the case of a detailed explanation, pause periodically and ask if everything is clear and if there are questions. It is better to ask clarifying questions immediately, rather than after a lengthy lecture.
3. 3 Don't rush the person. Some people take longer to get used to their new surroundings, especially when everyone is smarter. If you have to deal with such people at school or at work, then you do not need to rush them. Perhaps, when a person settles down, he will be able to become a full-fledged participant in the conversation.
   • The politeness of those around them often helps newcomers to get up to speed faster. If someone is behind, then you can say: “If you want, I can help you with this. Our system is incomprehensible to beginners. "
4. 4 Help people find their strengths. Sometimes people may not fully understand their talents and abilities. If you are having difficulty working with a person who seems uneducated to you due to a lack of competence in a particular area, try giving him another assignment. For example, if you are working on a research project and the person is just awful at collecting data, offer to complete the data collection work on their own, and assign him the task of doing analysis. It may turn out that a person will cope with a new task much better.
   • Try to be as polite as possible. It is sometimes helpful to say that you would like to do what the person is doing right now. This will allow you to avoid the risk of offending the person by evaluating their work.

Part 3 of 3: How to Avoid Judgment

1. 1 Realize that disability does not always indicate low mental abilities. A person may speak or move differently, or not speak at all, but at the same time have ordinary and even exceptional mental abilities. Slow speech or trying to avoid eye contact say nothing about the mind.
   • Some people with disabilities may have low mental capacity and some normal. Instead of making assumptions, strive to understand the person and adapt to their needs.
2. 2 Be aware of the dangers of high intelligence. A high level of intelligence is usually a positive quality, but less high mental capacity also has its advantages, so do not rush to consider such people useless. For example, less intelligent people are often more efficient than great minds. Perhaps it's all about the ability to stay focused on one task longer. They can also be very hardworking, as they are used to putting in more effort while still studying.
3. 3 Consider your flaws. Take your time with the conclusion that you are smarter than a person, and think about the situation. It may turn out that the problem is with you.
   • It is a mistake to believe that a person is more stupid than you if he just does not understand your thought or request. Your communication style may be the reason. Perhaps you are better versed in the subject and speak too abstruse. Perhaps difficult science is easier for you, and a person is not too versed in scientific concepts, but knows how to communicate well with others. Simplify your wording and do not assume that facts that are obvious to you are obvious to others.
   • It is not uncommon for people whose intelligence is below average may consider themselves smarter than others. You could have fallen into such a trap. Keep this in mind when you decide to think other people are stupid again.
4. 4 Stop trying to prove your mental superiority. Even if you are smarter than many people around you, constant bragging is not in your best interest. This behavior is not only annoying, but also hinders your success. Stop bragging about your intelligence defiantly and you will find it easier to get along with people and climb the career ladder.
5. 5 Take the situation as a lesson. If you have to deal with less savvy people and there is nothing you can do about it, try to make the most of the situation. Learn to communicate with difficult people, because this is a useful skill that will come in handy at work and in your personal life.
   • Remember that complaining about unintelligent classmates or coworkers is energy-consuming and can exacerbate the situation, so there is no need to waste time on this.
   • Try not to show your contempt. If people notice that you dislike them, they will start to treat you badly in return. This will only make communication more difficult.

Tips

• Don't confuse knowledge and intelligence. If a person does not know something, this does not mean that he is more stupid than you.
• Don't rush to write off such people. As they become familiar, they may find that they have extensive knowledge of other subjects.
• Don't be pathetic if you think you're smarter. So you will not achieve anything and only complicate the task for yourself.