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• Steps
• Tips
• Warnings

Here are some tips to help you forgive a friend, family member, or significant other if they made the wrong move that hurt your feelings.

Steps

1. 1 Think carefully. If this person unexpectedly returned to your life and asks for forgiveness, do not rush to make a decision. Say that you need to think for a while, and after that you will definitely come back to this question.
2. 2 Take some time for yourself. You should be alone in a comfortable environment. If that helps, cry. Think about what this person has done to you and if you can trust him after that. If you think you can, decide how close you want to bond. Be sure to consider the following points:
   • It is perfectly normal to feel angry or sad. But if you want to forgive the person and renew the trust between you, swallow your feelings. It will be easier to forgive the abuser if there are no negative emotions between you.
   • You need to be sure that forgiveness is a smart decision in this case. Small, sometimes even more serious, wounds can be healed. But it's also important to know if this person is capable of hurting you again. If that act is part of a bad habit, then you can step on the same rake again. For example, if this person lied to you, there is a chance that he / she will do it again, as opposed to someone who once did not keep the harsh words.
3. 3 Arrange a meeting. Better to talk face to face, or at least talk on the phone. Talk about what happened, why you chose to forgive, and say that you want to give your trust to this person again.
4. 4 Do not hurry. If this person is your ex / ex, meet several times a month for coffee and conversation. Try not to constantly remember what is left in the past. Begin your story again, rather than going back to the previous one.

Tips

• Do not rush to repair the relationship, especially if trust is damaged.
• Listen to what they have to say, think it over, THEN decide if this person is worthy of forgiveness.
• Sometimes it's hard to forgive someone who has wronged you. Try to find the strength to truly forgive.
• If you've already forgiven, don't come back to this question, let it go and move on.
• Don't let them force you to forgive. Only you can make this choice.
• Find a way to express your feelings - drawing, writing, exercising, etc.
• Talking to someone you trust can help you understand yourself and the situation.
• Stretch yourself and remember everything that connected you or happened to this person.

Warnings

• Remember, not everyone is worthy of your trust. Nobody is worth your tears - unless they are tears of happiness!