Content

• Steps
• Method 1 of 3: Wait for the Right Moment
• Method 2 of 3: How to invite a girl to hold hands
• Method 3 of 3: Accept rejection
• Tips

Holding hands - this simple thought makes your palms sweat and your heart beat faster. Perhaps you have never held a girl's hand before. Even if you have already had this experience, taking a girl's hand for the first time means moving to a new level of relationship. If you're thinking of inviting your girlfriend to hold hands for the first time, try to make the moment romantic and special.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Wait for the Right Moment

1. 1 You should not immediately take the girl by the hand. This physical contact should be something that brings pleasure and brings you closer together. For the first time holding hands, the couple is experiencing a very special moment, because from now on, young people are getting a little closer to each other. Even if you have been thinking about how this will all be for a long time, the offer to join hands should not be the first thing you say when you meet her. Otherwise, this gesture will look ridiculous and rude, and not romantic.
2. 2 Find a special place. This should be a place where you and your girlfriend will be comfortable and pleasant to be. Try to choose a location that is more or less quiet and free of distractions. For example, a restaurant with loud music or a bar where the TV is turned on at full volume will not be the best choice. This is definitely not the place where your girlfriend would like to spend this special romantic moment with you. Also, it might not be a good idea to take her hand for the first time in math class or somewhere else where you both really don't want to be. This moment should only concern you with the girl and your relationship with her.
3. 3 Try to relax her. Once you meet a girl, try to forget about your idea for a while.Behave with each other as usual, try not to think too much about how to take her hand. If you are too immersed in your own thoughts during a meeting, then you can easily seem tense, restless and even bored to the girl.
   • Instead of thinking every minute: “Hmm, can I do this right now? Or ... maybe now is the time? " - just try to relax. Try to make the girl laugh. This attitude will make this moment even more special.
   • If you are worried and cannot calm down, all the time you think about when you have already taken your girlfriend by the hand, for a while, give up this idea altogether. Tell yourself, “I definitely won't do it today. I can do it somehow on occasion. " Allowing yourself to postpone this idea for another time will relieve unnecessary stress and help you relax. In fact, you may suddenly realize that you are so relaxed that you can easily get through it!
4. 4 Learn to understand her body language. Body language can really tell a lot about how a girl feels, what she thinks. We can say that body language is even more important and sincere than the words themselves, because it is with its help that a person expresses the degree of comfort and interest. Therefore, if you want to take a girl by the hand, first you need to test the waters and catch her hints in order to understand if the girl is ready for this step. Listed below are a few signs that a girl might love you:
   • she smiles;
   • when communicating, she tries to lean closer to you, and does not move away from you;
   • her face, legs and whole body are turned towards you;
   • it reflects your gestures, emotions and facial expressions;
   • the girl as a whole seems relaxed, not stiff.
5. 5 Try to get close physically. Doesn't she seem to mind getting close? If a girl starts to move away a little when you try to approach or lean towards her, she is unlikely to be comfortable holding hands with you. But if she doesn't try to pull away when you approach, if her whole body and feet are facing you and not away from you, then we can say that she is quite interested in you. And if all this happens when you are very close to each other, then a certain level of trust and comfort has already arisen between you.
6. 6 Notice how she reacts to physical contact. During the conversation, observe the girl's reaction to your touch. When she says something funny or funny, lightly touch her shoulder and tell her that she is incredibly funny. If she responds positively to your attempts to get closer to her and does not try to pull away, then we can safely say that the time has come to invite her to join hands.

Method 2 of 3: How to invite a girl to hold hands

1. 1 Ask her directly. As soon as there is a pause in your sweet conversation, look into her eyes. Then smile sweetly and ask if she wants you to take her hand.
   • You can say this: "I really want to take your hand", "Can I take your hand?" - or: "Do you want to hold hands?"
   • The very fact that you first ask, rather than immediately take her hand, will show the girl that you respect her opinion. Society has taught us that it is usually men who take the first step, so it is quite possible that all this time she also dreamed of taking your hand!
2. 2 Try inviting her to join hands non-verbally. If you are absolutely confident in this relationship and her feelings, if the girl uses positive body language when communicating with you, you may not even have to propose to her.
   • One way to do this is to simply put your hands close to hers. It is best to use this method when you are sitting with her at the table. If the girl does not remove her hands and even slightly moves them closer to yours, most likely she wants to hold hands.
   • If a girl, after such a gesture, is in a hurry to remove her hands from the table, this is a clear sign that she does not want to hold hands.
3. 3 Give the girl your hand. You can give a hand in almost any situation. If you are walking somewhere together, give her a hand so that she can take hold of it. If you are sitting opposite each other at a table, you can put your hands on the table, palms up. This is a non-verbal invitation to join hands. And this is the golden mean between an open direct address to her and actually holding hands.
4. 4 Take the girl's hand. If you are determined, and the girl now and then hints to you that she wants to hold hands, you can just take her hand without any words. One way to do this is to look into her eyes, lightly take her hands and smile. Despite the fact that you did not ask her about it, this method can really be called very romantic and sensual.
5. 5 Behave naturally. Most likely, you are really worried, because you have to take this girl by the hand for the first time. But remember the important thing - you need to behave in the same way as usual. Even if you had to pause the conversation in order to invite the girl to hold hands, after that you need to continue this conversation, you can again touch on the topic just discussed, or you can transfer the conversation to a new topic. You don't want to take a girl by the hand, and then just be silent!
6. 6 Try to let go of her hands in time. Of course, this is very exciting and pleasant, but you can't hold hands forever. There is no single rule that says when to stop hugging or holding hands, but after a while your palms will start to sweat, or you will need to walk through the doorway - in such cases it is very uncomfortable to hold hands. Just keep in mind - if before that you asked if she wants to hold hands when the moment comes to let go of her hand, this can be done without further ado!
   • If you are worried about letting go of her hand too quickly, then you can simply squeeze it slightly and then release it. This is a great way to show the girl that you really liked it, but it's time to unclench your hands.
   • If you want, after that you can add: "I really like to hold your hand," - or: "I wanted to do this for so long." This is a very cute phrase, and the girl will surely be very pleased.

Method 3 of 3: Accept rejection

1. 1 Try not to get upset. Perhaps you tried to take the girl by the hand, but she didn't want to. This happens, but this is not at all something that should be seriously worried and upset. It is possible that the girl was simply not ready for such a step, and your attempt to hold hands was too unexpected for her. Maybe she hasn't even thought about it before, and she needs some time to decide if she wants to hold hands with you.
2. 2 You shouldn't change your behavior and attitude. After the girl has said that she does not want to hold hands, do not immediately step back and end the conversation. As mentioned above, there is a chance that the girl was simply not ready for this, and your attempt came as a surprise to her. You don’t want to upset the girl and make her feel guilty just because she didn’t want to hold hands.
   • Say, "It's okay, don't worry, I just asked." Thanks to this explanation, she will not have feelings of guilt or spoil her mood.
   • You can also say: "It's okay, I'm just very pleased to be with you." This will save yourself an awkward situation and show that you are ready to be there no matter what.
3. 3 Remember that this may not be about you! You've probably heard the phrase: "It's not about you, it's about me." Yes, yes, perhaps it really is in her. There are many reasons why she might refuse your offer to join hands. Therefore, do not take it personally and do not think that it is necessarily related to your relationship with her.
4. 4 Make sure you are on the same page. Holding hands is like being a couple.Do you hide your relationship from others? Perhaps the girl did not want to join hands, because it seemed to her that you had chosen not a very suitable moment in order to open your relationship with her to others.
   • You shouldn't ask the girl where your relationship is now, as soon as she refused to join hands. It will seem like an overly emotional reaction. If you are really comfortable and interested in discussing this, try bringing it up in a couple of days.
   • If you don't want to discuss this situation with a girl, give yourself a moment to think it over yourself. Do your friends know about this relationship? Have you already shown yourself as a couple in public? For example, at a slow dance or other event where others could understand what kind of relationship is developing between you. Answer these questions for yourself in order to understand what the general status of your relationship is.
5. 5 Give her another chance. Perhaps your attempt to join hands was too unexpected for the girl, and she refused because she had not yet thought about it. It is also possible that she wants to hold hands, but it is she who wants to initiate this. Give her another chance to take your hand. When walking together, keep your hands out of your pockets, and when sitting at a table, it is better to put your hands on the table.

Tips

• If you notice that your palms start to sweat quickly when you hold a girl's hand, remember that this is completely normal. You can always let go of her palm for a while, and after a while again hold hands.
• There really is no “right” or “wrong” way to hold hands. Some people like to intertwine their fingers, while others prefer to just put their palm in the palm of their partner. It all depends on the personal preferences of everyone.
• If the girl is afraid to hold hands, just ask if she wants to. If the answer is yes, just pick a better moment and try again. Do not forget that if the girl refused, in no case should you insist on your own. Just do not give up right away if you understand that she is really shy.
• Keep in mind that your girlfriend is most likely desperate to hold hands too! Research has shown that, on average, women like to hold hands even more than men.