How to kiss for the first time

Content

Steps
Method 1 of 3: Prepare the soil
Method 2 of 3: Bend over for a kiss
Method 3 of 3: Finish the kiss
Tips
Warnings

If you like a person and you are almost sure that your feelings are mutual, perhaps you are wondering: Is it time for the first kiss? The first kiss gives a storm of emotions, but it is perfectly normal to be nervous and doubt what to do and how to do it. In fact, the person you want to kiss most likely feels the same way. When you're ready for your first kiss, choose the right moment, such as on a date. Then touch the person and reach for a kiss. When finished, hold hands or squeeze each other for a while.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Prepare the soil

1 Choose the right setting for your first kiss. Despite the passionate desire to kiss for the first time, it is better to choose a convenient time and place. Wait until you are alone with the person you want to kiss. Then talk to him to make sure he is comfortable and in a good mood.
- For example, you shouldn't kiss someone when they are busy or upset.
- The setting for a first kiss might be a date or a school disco.
2 Flirt with the person to create the mood for the kiss. Smile at him and keep your arms open at your sides so you don't feel like you're closing in. Lightly touch his wrist, arm, or upper thigh if he doesn't mind. Also, compliment, ask questions about him, and listen to what he has to say.
- Monitor the person's behavior to see if they are flirting back. If he looks you in the eye, smiles, is open, and talks a lot, chances are he is flirting with you.
- However, if you notice him pulling back, crossing his arms, or looking down frequently, slow down and give him some space.
3 Use hygienic lipstick to keep your lips soft, but don't put on a sticky lip gloss. No one wants to kiss dry, chapped lips. Be sure to cover your lips with chapstick to keep them soft and pleasant to the touch. Choose an odorless option (maybe your partner hates any scents).
- Sticky lip gloss can be annoying when kissing due to its strange texture. Just use your regular chapstick.
- If you usually wear colored lipstick, you can apply it when you are about to kiss. However, choose a durable option that is less likely to wear off. Also, don't apply it right before kissing.
4 Use mints or chewing gum to freshen your breath. Bad breath is repulsive, so be courteous to your kissing partner. Suck on a spearmint or chew on a spearmint gum a few minutes before kissing.
- Choose sugar-free mints or gum because sugar can make bad breath worse.
- Carry a pack of mints or gum with you so you can freshen your breath when needed.
Advice: If you plan on kissing later in the day, avoid consuming stubborn-smelling foods such as garlic, onions, and dairy products.

Method 2 of 3: Bend over for a kiss

1 Touch the person gently to initiate physical contact. First, touch his arm or shoulder. Then move your hand to his hair or face and gently stroke it for a few seconds. If you feel ready, gently pull the hair off your partner's face, and then place your hand on his shoulder or press your palm against his cheek.
- You can also try hugging him by the shoulders.
- Start touching slowly. Start small by touching the person's hand and only continue if they smile and lean towards you.
Advice: it's okay if you change your mind about kissing, and you don't need to do it if you know you don't want to. It's completely normal to get nervous and change your mind. If this happens, change the subject by asking the person to do something else. Say something like: “Will you show me the game you were talking about?”, “I wonder what the others are doing? Let's go see! " -or: “I'm hungry! Let's go and have a bite. "
2 Make eye contact to show your interest. Meet the gazes and look your partner in the eyes for one to three seconds. Then look away for a few moments. Keep looking at him, but look away from time to time.
- If the person meets their gaze, chances are they are interested in you and may be open to kissing.
- If he avoids eye contact with you, chances are he doesn't want to kiss.
3 Ask if he wants to kiss. Getting consent is the best way to make sure you both want to kiss. You might be scared, but it can actually turn out to be very romantic. Here are some options:
- "Can I kiss you?"
- "Can I steal a kiss from you?"
- "Would you like to kiss?"
Advice: if you're too afraid to ask, that's totally fine! Many people are afraid to ask for a kiss. Consider writing a short note to the person. For example: "Will you kiss me?" - or: "Can we kiss?"
4 Move over to the person. Close the distance between you by moving closer to him or leaning in his direction. Then wait for your partner to come closer to you as well, which will show their interest in the kiss.
- If he walks away, he may not want to kiss. Better to step back and give him some space.
SPECIALIST'S ADVICE
Chloe Carmichael, PhD
Licensed Clinical Psychologist Chloe Carmichael, PhD is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice in New York City.He has over 10 years of experience in psychological counseling, specializing in relationship problems, stress management, self-esteem work and career coaching. She also taught courses at Long Island University and worked as a freelance faculty member at the City University of New York. She received her PhD in Clinical Psychology from Long Island University and completed clinical practice at Lenox Hill and Kings County Hospitals. Accredited by the American Psychological Association and is the author of Nervous Energy: Harness the Power of Your Anxiety.
Chloe Carmichael, PhD
Licensed Clinical Psychologist
The initiation of a kiss allows you to show that a person is confident in himself, if, of course, the kiss is desired. Chloe Carmichael, a licensed clinical psychologist, says, “If you’re confident enough to lean over and kiss a person, you will be perceived as a strong person who is willing to take the lead. At first, everything is new and kind of off-limits, so your determination can help make the experience exciting. The main thing is that neither you nor your partner feel embarrassed. "
5 Tilt your head away from his head. Pay attention to where the person bows his head more: to the right or to the left. Then turn your head in the opposite direction. This way your noses won't bump into each other while kissing.
- You don't have to tilt your head too much. Just make sure your nose is not directly in front of his nose.
6 Close your eyes before kiss. When you get close to your partner's lips, close your eyes and don't open them until you've finished kissing. This will help you avoid embarrassment while kissing.
- Looking closely at your partner while kissing can make them uncomfortable. Also, open eyes can kill the mood.
7 Part your lips slightly and press them against your partner's lips. Don't strain your lips. Remember to tilt your head slightly so that your noses don't bump. Kiss your partner gently for a few seconds. Try not to get saliva on his lips.
- It's okay to keep your lips tightly compressed while kissing.
- Do not open your mouth or use your tongue during the first kiss.
8 Put arms behind the head or on the lower back of the partner. Sometimes it is difficult to know what to do with your hands when kissing. Try putting them behind the person's head. You can play with his hair or stroke his neck while kissing. Alternatively, just place your hands on his lower back.
- These aren't the only places to place your hands, but they're a good start if you're new to kissing.

Method 3 of 3: Finish the kiss

1 Move back to give both of you a chance to breathe. Don't kiss for more than a few seconds. Stop and form a little space between the two of you. Take a moment to breathe and realize what happened.
- You can kiss again, but it's best to take a short break first.
2 Smile at your partner to show that you like it. Remember, he is most likely just as nervous about the kiss as you are. Show him what you like by looking at him and smiling.
- You can also take him by the hand or hug him.
3 Only move on to a second kiss if your partner seems ready for it. Make eye contact and then lean closer to it again. See if he leans back. If in doubt, ask if he wants to kiss again.
- Say, "Are you ready for another kiss?" - or: "Can we do it again?"
- Only kiss again if you feel like it. Don't feel obligated to kiss if you don't want to.
4 Hug or hold hands for a few minutes after kissing. Take some time for intimacy without kissing.Hug your partner, snuggle up to him, or hold his hand. Do what is comfortable for both of you.
- Relax and enjoy your time together. Watch a movie, have a chat, or take a walk.
5 Say something about the kiss when you're ready. You may feel exhausted or nervous right after the kiss, and that's okay. On the other hand, you can be very excited and talkative. Either way, talk to your partner about what happened when you feel ready, whether right after the kiss or later that day or evening.
- For example, you can say, "I wanted to do this for a long time," "It was nice," or, "You kiss well."
- Don't feel like you need to say something right now. It is quite possible to wait.
6 Contact your partner the day after the kiss. Write a message, call or talk to the person you kissed to see how they are doing. Let him know if you want to go on another date or spend time with him again. Also, let us know if you enjoyed the kiss.
- Keep in mind that the first kiss does not mean that you should always kiss now. It's okay if you decide to wait a little while repeating. On the other hand, you can also enjoy the opportunity to kiss again.
- Say something like, “I felt really good last night. The kiss was nice. Would you like to see me off tomorrow after school? "

Tips

It's okay to worry about kissing someone for the first time.
Just relax. This will make your kiss even better.
An awkward first kiss is completely normal. Just try to enjoy the moment.
If you're nervous, ask your partner how they feel. Most likely, he is also worried.

Warnings

Do not kiss the person if they look sick, such as if they are coughing or sneezing. Likewise, do not kiss people who have sores around their mouth. While it can be acne, it can also be herpes, which is contagious.