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• Method 1 of 3: Hold back your tears
• Method 2 of 3: Get yourself together
• Method 3 of 3: Dealing with conflict

It's a miserable experience to cry when someone yells at. It's embarrassing and can damage your reputation at school, work, or at home. Crying is of course a very normal human habit, but in some situations it's just better to hold back your tears, so what can you do? If you cry quickly, there are a few tricks you can use to control your emotions (and your tears). It can also be good to learn how to get yourself back together after a big cry. You can avoid this problem in the future by practicing a few ways to deal with conflict.

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Method 1 of 3: Hold back your tears

1. Pinch the skin between your index finger and your thumb. Firmly squeeze the area of ​​skin between your index finger and thumb. Squeeze hard enough that it hurts, but don't get bruised. The pain distracts you and makes you less likely to cry.
   • You can also squeeze the bridge of your nose. Then you block the tear ducts so that tears cannot come out.
2. Get take a deep breath. When you feel the tears well, take a few deep breaths. Then you force your body to stay calm and distract yourself from the one yelling at you, which may be enough to keep you from crying.
3. Look the other way. Look at something other than the person yelling at you. Focus on your desk, your hands, or any other object in front of you. If you break eye contact with the angry person, you can get yourself together more easily.
4. Take a step back. Distance yourself from the yeller by taking a step back or sliding your chair back. Being in control of your own physical space makes you feel less helpless and less likely to cry.
5. Excuse yourself and get away for a while. If you can't keep from crying, get away for a while. Make up an excuse if you can, say, for example, that you are not feeling well. You can also tell the other person that you are too upset to talk to them. Go to a place where you can be alone to calm down.
   • Say something like, "I'm getting too angry now to have another productive conversation with you. I need to go away, but maybe we can talk again later."
   • The toilet is often a safe place to go.
   • Take a walk in the park to clear your mind. With some movement you have better control over yourself.

Method 2 of 3: Get yourself together

1. Have some privacy. Go to your car, the bathroom, or anywhere else where you won't be disturbed. If you have to cry, let yourself go. Give yourself the time it takes to calm down.
   • If you try to stop crying when you have already started it, you will likely burst into tears again later.
2. Prevent puffy eyes. Dab some cool water under your eyes to reduce redness and swelling. You can also use an ice cube that you wrap in a napkin.
   • If you're at home and not in a hurry, wrap a bag of frozen peas in a tea towel and put it on your face, or put some cold green tea bags on your eyes.
3. Put eye drops in your eyes. Use eye drops to soften your eyes. After about 10 to 15 minutes, your eyes will be less red again.
   • Do not use eye drops too often. Then your eyes will become redder. A few times a week should be possible.
   • Make sure the eye drops are suitable for your contact lenses, if you have them.
4. Update your makeup. If you are wearing makeup, take a moment to restore it. Wipe off run-through eye makeup and clean other areas of your face where there is makeup residue. Use foundation or concealer to cover up red spots. Top it off by updating your mascara, blush, or other parts that didn't survive the cry.
   • If you cry a lot, you might want to put a small makeup box in your purse or desk.

Method 3 of 3: Dealing with conflict

1. Let people know that you cry easily. If you quickly burst into tears, try to limit the damage preventively by telling your boss, colleagues, friends and family. Emphasize that it's okay, and tell them the best way for them to respond if it happens.
   • For example, you could say, "I cry quite quickly so don't worry if that happens, that's normal. I try to control it, but if it does, I just need a few minutes to calm down."
2. Talk to the person who yelled at you. When you have calmed down, ask the person who yelled at you if you can have a private chat with them. Address the problem and apologize if you did something wrong. Then tell me how the screaming made you feel, and ask if he / she wants to talk to you more slowly from now on.
   • For example, say, "I always get really nervous when people yell at me, so I couldn't come up with a good solution to our problem at that point. Next time we have a conflict again, can we talk about it when we're both calm. ? "
3. Think about why conflict makes you cry. Ask yourself what you feel when someone yells at you. If you can find out where your tears are coming from, you may also be able to find ways to deal with them.
   • For example, if you get overwhelmed with adrenaline, you can squeeze a stress ball to release the tension.
   • If the screaming makes you feel small and submissive, you can try to imagine that the other person is also a flesh and blood person who makes mistakes, and that he / she may not have the right to yell at you at all.
4. Think of alternative strategies. Think about what to say next time someone is angry with you. Visualize yourself staying calm as you use your new strategies.
   • For example, if your boss yells a lot, you can say something like, "I'm sorry you're not happy about this, and I'm doing my best to find a solution. But I have a hard time concentrating when you're yelling like that. discuss in a calm manner? "
5. Find healthy ways to deal with stress. When you suffer from chronic stress, you cry more quickly in tense situations. If you can manage your stress, that may happen less often. Think about relaxing activities you can do on a daily basis to keep stress at bay.
   • Some healthy ways to deal with stress include yoga, meditation, calling a friend, walking outside, or listening to quiet music. Try these activities if you feel stressed or overwhelmed.
6. Talk to a therapist. If the crying is affecting your relationships, or if it is interfering with your work or school performance, it may be worth seeking out psychological help to find out what's going on. A therapist can help you discover why you cry so often and teach you ways to stop.
7. Talk to a friend if you'd rather not see a therapist. Explaining your problem to someone dear to you can open up and discover where the problem lies. If you don't share your problem with anyone, you may not be able to visualize it yourself. A true friend will comfort and support you, instead of sitting back and seeing how it hurts you.