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• Steps
• Method 1 of 3: How to describe yourself as a person
• Method 2 of 3: Understanding Your Character
• Method 3 of 3: How to Get Inspired by the Big Five

It doesn't matter at what point you might need to describe yourself - when writing a resume, preparing for an interview, or just meeting new people. Whatever the reason, this skill is very useful. How you describe yourself is how you present yourself to others. To do this right, it's important to understand yourself well.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: How to describe yourself as a person

1. 1 Find your words. Character analysis tests and personality type descriptions will help you collect the words you need. If you can't find the right words yourself, you can also look through special books and dictionaries.
   • Adjectives to describe a person can also be found on the Internet using search engines.
2. 2 Know which words to avoid. Some words sound normal, but only when someone describes you with them, and not you yourself. If you use them yourself, you will appear vain and repulsive. Discard the following words:
   • Charismatic. This will make you seem pompous.
   • Generous. Let other people decide if you are generous or not based on your behavior.
   • Modest. A modest person is unlikely to call himself modest.
   • Humorous. People who consider themselves to have a great sense of humor most often do not have it. Even the most humorous people have many doubts about this.
   • Sensitive. Empathy also manifests itself in actions. Calling yourself empathetic is almost the same as calling yourself humble.
   • Fearless. Each of us has fears. Calling yourself fearless will make you seem overconfident. It also makes it harder for people to get along with you.
   • Clever. An intelligent person can be seen immediately, there is no need to talk about it.
   • Cute. Who do you seem likeable to? Everyone? If you call yourself that word, perhaps people will begin to subconsciously look for something repulsive in you.
3. 3 Describe situations. The best way to describe yourself is to tell stories from your life. Many writers try not to write something in plain text, but to describe it. This also applies to describing your personality, especially in job interviews.
   • For example, instead of saying that you are kind and patient, you can talk about how you helped smooth out a conflict with a client in a previous job.
   • Instead of calling yourself an adventurer, tell your friends what travels you've been and what you remember the most: for example, a difficult seven-day hike or a month you spent in Asia as a savage.
4. 4 Pay attention to the facts. If you're trying to find words for your resume, it's best to focus on facts rather than describing yourself with adjectives. Adjectives let the employer know how you see yourself, and the facts from the previous place of work and your achievements will speak for themselves.
   • For example, if you are looking for a position as a customer service specialist, provide examples that show that you are patient and willing to help people who have a problem.
5. 5 Correct the set of words depending on the situation. Describing yourself to friends or family and describing yourself to a potential employer are two different things. In both cases, it will be important to tell the truth, but in the interview you will have to describe yourself from the best side.
   • You can also choose words depending on the specific situation. It's important to be honest about your strengths and weaknesses, but what you say or keep quiet about will depend on the situation.
   • For example, let's say you want to get a job related to working with people. Even if you are good at interacting with people, if you say that you are an introvert who prefers to spend time on your own, your potential employer may decide that you are not the right fit.
6. 6 Tell us about your hobbies and past experiences. It is better not to describe yourself with adjectives, but to talk about what you like and what you have done in the past. Imagine a situation in which you would only need to describe yourself with adjectives. This would be pretty funny (and awkward):
   • “Hello, my name is Alexey. I am neat, active, attentive to little things, sensitive, and I am glad to meet you. " Perhaps such a text would be suitable for a dating site, but even there it would look strange.
   • Better to say this: “My name is Alexey. I am a barista and I really love my job because I love coffee, jazz, coffee foam drawings and aprons. I also love movies (especially science fiction and documentaries) and hiking. "
7. 7 Don't just talk about yourself. If you want to describe yourself to a friend or boyfriend or girlfriend you want to like, remember to ask questions as well. In order for people to enjoy being in your company, you must be able to listen.
8. 8 Never lie about yourself. When you get to know yourself better, you realize that there are things you can and cannot do, and that's okay. Be honest about your strengths and weaknesses and acknowledge them in yourself.
   • If you lie to yourself or others about your strengths and weaknesses, you may find jobs that are not suitable for you, or you will connect with people with whom you will not be able to bond.

Method 2 of 3: Understanding Your Character

1. 1 Keep a diary. If you are having trouble figuring out who you are, start keeping a journal. Regularly recording your thoughts and feelings will help you understand yourself better. You can use the diary precisely to analyze what makes you you.
   • Studies have found that people who keep diaries are healthier physically and mentally. Try to set aside 15-20 minutes a day for this. Even a couple of hours of journaling a month will help you.
2. 2 Create an album about yourself. If you want to understand who you are, a book or album with all the things that you use in trying to understand yourself will help you. There you can store diary entries, personality test results, excerpts of prose, drawings - whatever you want.
3. 3 Make lists. Lists of things that are important to you will help you understand yourself better. Here are some examples of such lists:
   • "What do I like and dislike?" Fold a piece of paper in half, write in the top half what you like and on the bottom what you dislike. This can take a lot of time and space, so try to limit yourself to one category per list: movies, books, food, games, people.
   • "What would I do if I had unlimited money?" You can sketch out a series of ideas or draw something. Make a list of things you could buy or things to do if you weren't financially constrained.
   • "What am I most afraid of?" What are your biggest fears? Are you afraid of spiders, death, loneliness? Write everything down.
   • "What makes me happy?" Make a list of the things that make you happy. You can even describe specific situations in which you felt or might feel happy.
4. 4 Ask yourself why. Making a list is just the first step. The next step is to consider why you like or dislike something, or why something scares you and something else makes you happy. If you can answer the “why” question, you will understand yourself better.
5. 5 Study personality traits online or through books. Job selection and psychology books often contain personality trait lists as well as self-paced tests to help you determine your personality type.
6. 6 Take personality tests. They can be found in specialized literature and on the Internet. There are many sites where you can find free tests, but it is important to use a reliable source when doing so.
   • Do not take tests on popular entertainment sites, as often the people who compose them do not have a special education in the field of psychology. There are sites that are known for their tests. It is interesting to pass them, but they are not based on scientific information.
   • If the site asks you to enter any personal information other than your email address, age and gender, make sure the site is not fraudulent. Free sites have no reason to ask you to enter your card details, exact date of birth, full name or address.
7. 7 Connect your hobbies with personality traits. Once you know what personality traits are, go through your lists and journal entries to see if there are certain traits that you read about.
   • If you enjoy doing something dangerous or you often talk about adventure, you might describe yourself as a daredevil, a risk-taker.
   • If you notice that you often try to help people, you may be generous and loyal (or everyone is wiping their feet about you, and you are trying to please everyone).
   • If you often make people laugh, you can say that you are funny. But it can also be a sign that you are trying to hide your anxiety and nervousness with humor (assuming you often joke when you are nervous).
8. 8 Ask friends and family. If you want to know how others perceive you, ask friends and family how they could describe you. But remember that no one knows you better than yourself.
   • It is important to consider what other people have to say, but they evaluate everything through the prism of their experience, and everyone's experience is different. Your mom may say that you are unkempt and fussy, and your friends may say that you are calm and calm.
   • Summarize what your friends and family have to say and then draw your own conclusions. If everyone says you can be mean, you should think about it (and work on fixing it).
9. 9 Remember, your personality can change. People change over time and with experience. The person you are now will be different from the person you will be in 10 years. When analyzing your personality, do not forget that something can change.
10. 10 Try to live in harmony with yourself. You have strengths and weaknesses, positive and negative traits. Accept all parts of yourself. Enjoy the ones you like and work on the ones you don't like, but never scold yourself for who you are.
    • Of course, you have weaknesses, but you also have strengths, and weaknesses can be overcome. In fact, weaknesses can even be strengths that you don't immediately consider.

Method 3 of 3: How to Get Inspired by the Big Five

1. 1 Know what character traits are in the Big Five. As a result of intercultural research, scientists have found that all personal characteristics can be reduced to five types. They are called the "Big Five": extraversion, emotionality, conscientiousness, benevolence, and openness.
2. 2 Take a personality test. To understand to what extent these five personality factors are expressed in you, you should take a special test and choose those qualities that you like. The tests are slightly different from each other, so take a few tests to see if the results differ.
   • There are special sites where you can find these tests for 5 personality factors.
3. 3 See how many points you score on extroversion. People with high scores (i.e. extroverts) love to have fun; they are joyful, ambitious, hardworking. They love to be the center of attention. People with low scores (introverts) are less attached to society; they are not so attracted to success, pleasure and praise.
   • You may be an extrovert if you are outgoing, talkative, and good at being around a lot of people.
   • You may be an introvert if you prefer to spend time on your own and if communication situations drain energy from you.
   • There may not be a clear line between extroversion and introversion: many introverts enjoy socializing, but they recuperate alone, while extroverts are energized by being in the company of people and communicating with them.
4. 4 See how many points you score on emotionality. People with high scores experience a lot and suffer from chronic anxiety, while people with low scores are more emotionally stable and satisfied with their lives.
   • If you're nervous even when you're doing well, chances are you score a lot on emotionality. The advantage of emotionality can be increased attention to detail and the ability to deeply analyze problems.
   • If you are not attentive to details and not worried about something, you will most likely score low. The advantage of this can be carelessness, and the disadvantage is the inability to subject anything to deep analysis.
5. 5 See how many points you earn in good faith. High scores mean that you are disciplined, conscientious, systematic. Low scores indicate that it is easy for you to decide on something spontaneously, but at the same time it is difficult for you to achieve your goals.
   • If you study well and strive to achieve your goals, but are not adaptable to change, you are likely to score a lot. People with obsessive-compulsive disorder score high on this parameter.
   • If you have a lot of unfinished business behind you, if you do a lot of things spontaneously and intuitively, chances are that you will score low.
6. 6 Find out how many points you scored for goodwill. This criterion measures how kind you are to others. Benevolent people trust others, seek to help and empathize, while unfriendly people are cold, suspicious of others and reluctant to cooperate.
   • If you are empathetic and difficult to anger, you are most likely a benevolent person. The downside to this nature can be a tendency to stay in an unhealthy relationship, even if you don't feel happy in it.
   • If you dislike agreeing with others, you are likely to be easily pissed off and distrustful of people. Successful creators and owners of large companies often score low on this metric, because their work requires stubbornness and perseverance.
7. 7 Find out how many points you scored on openness. Openness measures imagination. People who score high on this indicator are usually susceptible to art and esotericism. People with low scores are more interested in practical and solvable problems.
   • If you often seek adventure and new experiences, especially in the arts and spiritual pursuits, you are likely to score a lot. The disadvantage of this nature may be the inability to solve practical problems.
   • If your score is low, you may have little or no imagination, but that is not necessarily a bad thing. This does not mean that you are stupid. You are much better at dealing with day-to-day problems than those who score high on openness.
8. 8 Don't rate yourself by points. Experts point out that there are both positive and negative variants of personality types. For this reason, you should not draw conclusions based on how many points you scored on each of the criteria.
   • If it seems to you that the fact that you scored too many or too few points somewhere hinders you in life, you can work on your weaknesses. Knowing your weaknesses can turn them into strengths.