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• Steps
• Method 1 of 2: Show Your Love to Your Wife
• Method 2 of 2: Be the Head of the House

A healthy marriage involves harmony in relationships, but it takes a lot of effort to achieve this. Fortunately, if you are a Christian, you have the privilege of God's word to guide you in your married life. The Bible is full of insightful passages about love, including a number of verses specifically about how to treat your wife. To do God's will for marriage, value your wife, respect her, and hold to the highest standards to be the head of your home.

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Method 1 of 2: Show Your Love to Your Wife

1. 1 Value your wife above everyone else. Besides God, your wife should be the most important person in your life, and your relationship should be based on deep personal love for one another. Thus, Ephesians 5:25 says that the wife should be loved as Christ loved the Church, and Ephesians 5:28 teaches that the wife should be loved as well as your own body. There is nothing more intimate than this.
   • This means that you need to know your wife like the back of your hand, so throughout your marriage, pay attention to her words and actions to get to know her as best you can. Accept everything that makes her unique and special.
   • The Bible also calls to love your wife “as Christ also loved the Church and gave Himself for her” (Ephesians 5:25).
2. 2 Be one with your wife. The two of you need to work shoulder to shoulder to build a life together, so treat your spouse as your companion and helper. For example, Genesis 2:18 says that God created Eve because Adam needed “a helper suitable for him,” and Genesis 2:24 also says: “Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother and cleave to to his wife; and they will be one flesh. "
   • In a healthy marriage, partners must develop the best qualities and balance each other's weaknesses, acting as one to move mountains.
   • For example, if you are impatient and your wife is harder to piss off, you can rely on her in situations that require waiting.
   • Ecclesiastes 4: 9–11 also supports this idea: “Two are better than one; because they have a good reward in their labor: for if one falls, the other will lift up his companion. But woe to one when he falls, and there is no other to raise him. Also, if there are two, then they are warm; but how can one get warm alone? "
3. 3 Be gentle with your wife, even if she makes a mistake. As much as you love your wife, the chances are that she will sometimes err, be impatient or rude towards you, or upset you in some other way. However, Colossians 3:19 says, "Husbands, love your wives and do not be hard on them." Take your time to get angry and show your wife forgiveness and love. This will allow her to learn from her mistakes, and not suffer because of them.
   • First Corinthians 13: 4-5 also describes this kind of love: "Love is longsuffering, merciful, love does not envy, love does not boast, does not pride itself, does not rage, does not seek its own, does not get irritated, does not think evil."
   • Also, be humble and apologize if you yourself make a mistake in the relationship.
4. 4 Protect your wife from harm. Even if a woman is able to take care of herself, the Bible still imposes on a man the responsibility to take care of his spouse. For example, to protect her from dangerous situations or to intercede for her if someone offends her. Sometimes protecting your wife means making responsible choices about yourself, because if you make a bad decision and lose your livelihood or damage your physical health, your spouse will also suffer.
   • In a healthy relationship, according to the Bible, the wife must also protect her husband. For example, she might take care of your health by reminding you to get a medical check-up each year, or she might look after your morale by encouraging you to spend time in godly surroundings.
5. 5 Encourage your wife to be the best version of herself. In a happy and healthy marriage, everyone wants their partner to reach their full potential. Highlight the strengths you see in your wife to help her improve, and always encourage her to pursue her dreams. Remember that each person has unique talents and passions, and the Bible says that we should use these gifts to praise God.
   • Hebrews 10:24 says: "Let us be attentive to one another, encouraging love and good works."
   • First Corinthians 12: 5-6 encourages us to seek our own ways of serving the Lord: “And the ministries are different, but the Lord is the same; and actions are different, but God is one and the same, who works everything in everyone. "
6. 6 Demonstrate your love to your wife by being a reliable person. Of course, it is very important to tell your wife that you love her, but the strongest demonstration of your love will be your unbounded loyalty to your spouse. Try your best to be a reliable, loyal, and honest husband. This will help your wife feel confident in your love for her.
   • The Bible teaches that actions speak louder than words: “Let us not love in word or tongue, but in deed and in truth” (1 John 3:18).
7. 7 Prioritize having an intimate sexual relationship. It is very important to establish a physical connection with your wife. Sometimes it means spontaneously retiring for a couple of minutes before work, and sometimes it means setting aside a special evening for romance if you both have a busy schedule. This intimate time alone will not only satisfy the physical needs of each of you, but it will also strengthen your emotional and spiritual connection.
   • First Corinthians 7: 3 says: “Husband show his wife due favor; like a wife also to a husband. "
   • The same epistle says: “Do not deviate from each other, unless by agreement, for a time, to exercise in fasting and prayer, and then be together again, so that Satan does not tempt you with your intemperance” (1 Corinthians 7: 5) ...
8. 8 Dedicate yourself to your wife for the rest of your life. To truly love your wife according to the Bible, you need to remember that your marriage is unbreakable. The Bible stipulates that divorce should only happen in the event of infidelity, so be prepared to endure any adversity that comes your way. As Mark 10: 9 says: "So what God has united, let not man separate."
   • Remember that marriage is a precious gift and therefore should be appreciated: “Great waters cannot extinguish love, and rivers will not flood it. If anyone gave all the wealth of his house for love, he would be rejected with contempt ”(Song of Solomon 8: 7).

Method 2 of 2: Be the Head of the House

1. 1 Make your relationship with God your daily priority. If you want your marriage and family life to be successful, it's important to strive to be your best. Part of being a Christian is making a commitment to God through prayer, reading the Bible, and constantly striving to follow the example of Jesus' righteousness. Regardless of your lifestyle, read Bible verses every morning, attend church service every week and pray throughout the day, and have family prayer in the evenings.
   • Proverbs 3:33 says, "The curse of the Lord is on the house of the wicked, but He blesses the dwelling place of the godly."
2. 2 Pray that the Lord will send you wisdom in making decisions. Ephesians 5:23 says that the husband should play a leading role in the family: "For the husband is the head of the wife, just as Christ is the head of the Church, and He is the Savior of the body." However, you shouldn't expect your wife to follow you if you make reckless and selfish decisions. Before making any decisions that affect your family, take time to think about which option is best for you and your wife.
   • Remember to rely on your wife's wisdom. Talk to her to get her point of view on various decisions that might affect both of you.
3. 3 Be honest about any mistakes you make. Fortunately, a good spouse is not an ideal spouse. However, it is important to be honest and humble with your wife, especially if you have done something wrong. It doesn't matter if you've embellished the price of a new and expensive video game or lost your temper at work and got punished, you'll feel better about confessing everything to your wife, and she'll likely respect you more for your honesty.
   • James 5:16 says: "Confess your transgressions to one another and pray for one another that you may be healed: the fervent prayer of the righteous can do much."
4. 4 Find ways to provide for your family. Yes, often the cost of running a household requires both spouses to work, but it is important for you to try your best to meet the family's needs. For example, if your family is struggling financially, you can work part-time on weekends. Being a breadwinner also means sacrificing some of your desires in favor of your spouse's desires and needs, provided that you do it with love and heart.
   • The Bible encourages men to do everything possible to take care of their family: “But if someone does not care about his own people, and especially about his family, he has denied the faith and is worse than the unbeliever” (1 Timothy 5: 8).
5. 5 Avoid the temptation to be sexually immoral. Unfortunately, these days it is easy to succumb to images designed to push us into impure or lustful thoughts. You may even meet a woman who tries to tempt you to cheat on your wife. However, First Corinthians 7: 4 says: “The wife has no control over her own body, but the husband; likewise, the husband has no power over his own body, but the wife. "This means that you must keep your body only for your wife, just as she must remain faithful to you.
   • Proverbs 5:20 says: "And why do you, my son, be carried away by a stranger and embrace the bosom of a stranger?"
   • Hebrews 13: 4 offers an even stronger message: “Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. "
   • The Bible says that even indulging in lustful thoughts about another woman is a sin: “But I tell you that everyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Matthew 5:28).