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• Steps
• Advice
• Warning

Many people have experienced when friends or relatives come to live in difficult times. Most of us are willing to help them, at least in the short term. But when it turns out that the guest has automatically turned into a long-term "roommate", it is very difficult to quietly evict them from the house.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Ask the resident to move

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   Determine why you want the resident to move. You need to understand your reasons before you talk to them. Review committed agreements when they move in or promises have been made / not fulfilled. Assess their current situation and behavior on a factual basis. Although the reason of "not wanting to live with them" is also enough to ask the resident to move, but you need to stick to specific details such as "they never wash the dishes", "they promised moved a few months ago ”, etc… before speaking to them.
   • Record problems as they occur, with the date. Be specific about their behavior in case it gets tough.
   • This dialogue will not be easy and will most likely ruin the relationship between the two sides. However, living with big differences or serious problems hurts your friendship, so you need to speak up if they stick around for too long.

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   Dialogue with respect and reason. While you may feel bored, tired, or compromised, it is important not to rely on your emotions and ask unreasonably. Give them your reasons for asking them to move and let them know how difficult it is for you to understand. Talk to them like talking to your coworkers, sticking to real life events, and not letting your emotions dominate.
   • "Last time we were very happy that you were here, but unfortunately we need to get the room back so we have to ask you to move out within two weeks."
   • Stick to the reasons that you have prepared. If something goes wrong or they fail to fulfill their commitments, remind them that they were not doing their job properly and need to move to a new place.

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   Give detailed and objective evidence if they ask why they should go. Don't respond with statements like "because I don't like you", or "because you're lazy". You need to provide concrete evidence instead of insulting them. Now is the time to have your checklist at hand. If there are a variety of problems, you should write down each one and the date it occurred. When they ask "why", talk about the two or three times they made a promise without making or causing you trouble.
   • Focus on the reasons you want them to move, trying to avoid mentioning all of their flaws, if possible. "We need more space", "we can't afford to let you stay here anymore", etc.

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   Set a deadline when they need to move. Saying they have to leave tonight can be extremely stressful and stressful, and the occupant may not have anywhere to move. Instead, choose the date they need to leave your home and let them know that it is the deadline. In general, give them at least one to two weeks or until the end of the month so they have time to prepare.
   • "I hope you'll move out by April 20."
   • If you have a good reason why the time isn't right, talk to them to find a more reasonable date. However, do not delay more than 3-5 days.

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   Seeking information or other options as goodwill. If you know of other sources of accommodation, gather together to help your guest move. You can even refer them, letting them know they have to go, but there are other options. They may disprove your opinion, but your work shows that you still care about their interests and helps to reduce stress.

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   Be clear, clear, and consistent about your decision. Once you have decided to invite your occupants to leave your home, you need to take a stand. Conversation can get ugly and noisy, no matter how well prepared you are. However, you need to be decisive with your decision. If the person in question convinces you to change your mind, they will think that they can continue to break the rules and not keep their word. If things have been so bad that you have to invite them to move, then you need to be firm.

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   Understand that this could ruin the relationship. Inviting a friend or relative to leave home is stressful and can most likely lead to persistent conflict in the future. However, after all, letting them stay at home for too long will damage the relationship equally. If the two sides are constantly in conflict, the person you live with is always taking advantage of you, or you simply don't get along with the person you live with, then the relationship between the two of you will become toxic if you live under the same roof. . However, there are a few ways you can try to maintain a friendship:
   • Help them find a new place to live or find a job.
   • Avoid harsh words, even in stressful situations. If they are angry, stay calm and reiterate why it is important for you to find a new place to live. Don't throw out insults.
   • Make an appointment to meet them, invite them over for dinner and continue to meet as friends.
   • If there is a violent argument or serious disagreement, it is probably best to cut them off completely.
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Method 2 of 3: Expel the resident by law

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   Give them a written notice of asking them to move within up to 30 days. Although the occupant is not an official tenant, there are some rules between the lessor and the tenant that also apply if they have been in your home for more than 30 days. Talk to a lawyer to have them prepare and send the eviction notice. Submitting a written warning is essential to ensure you've done your part.
   • This notice will put them in the position of "tenant discretion". You need to be in this situation if you want to pursue legal action, so don't let it go.

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   File a formal request for tenant eviction to the local court if they still do not move. If they have paid for the food or the bills they are likely to be considered as the legal “tenant discretion”, and then evicting them will be much harder. If they ignore the 1st notice, you will have to file a formal eviction request with the district court to invite them out.
   • If you are going to apply for a court order, you need to have a list of problems and violations (called “excused eviction”) and a copy of the tenancy agreement or other agreements.
   • In general, your letter should state where the occupant is to pick up their belongings in case they don't move and the specific date their belongings will be removed.

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   Don't change your locks unless you're worried about your safety. If you suddenly lock the door from "tenants discretion", especially while their belongings are still in the house, you could face civil lawsuits and expensive legal action. The act of changing locks, if it causes trouble or prevents a resident from accessing their property, can even put you in jail in some cases. Furthermore, this will often push stress higher and lead to more serious problems.
   • Once you have a court order and / or have warned the police that you are concerned about your safety, you can change the locks without hassle.

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   Call the police if they still refuse to move. Unless they are legal residents of the home (normally this is determined if they receive a letter or are listed on a tenancy agreement), the occupant may be evicted from your home as an "intruder". Of course, resorting to the police is just a case in point, and even the mention of calling 113 may be enough to kick the other person out the door. Some police officers refused to handle things like this. But if you have written the notice and / or filed an eviction request with the court, they will come and take the other person out of your home as an intruder. advertisement

Method 3 of 3: Set basic principles for guests to stay

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   Set rules and limits in advance. If you feel like the other person is becoming a roommate rather than a guest, you need to set the rules as soon as possible. This will give you reason to lean on when you finally have to invite them out of the house - you can reiterate specific principles laid out earlier instead of getting angry.
   • Make inquiries in the first week. Do they have to pay rent? Do they have to attend job interviews? You need to set the standards they need to meet if you want to stay in your home.

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   Set a timeline for them to move. Before officially asking the resident to move, sit down and ask them when they plan to move. If the ball is on their side of the field, it will be easier for them to keep up with the cleaning deadlines as that day approaches. If they have no plans, you should set this deadline. Think of a specific timeline like "when they have a job" or "after 6 months".
   • If they need a job, join them in setting specific goals to reach for - submit a job application every day, rewrite your resume, etc. Make sure they are really trying to find work without. is just taking advantage of a free accommodation.
   • If you are wondering if you should let them stay, you can set up a trial period. When they move in, tell them they can stay for 2-3 months and tell them that you are not sure if they can.

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   Record any problems and problems that arise. If the person you live on has violated the rules, has disrespect or does not fulfill your promise, keep a note of the events in your notebook with the date they happened. Reiterate that this will help you to have concrete evidence instead of for vague general or emotional reasons when talking to them about moving.
   • Keep things as objective as possible. Asking them to move away is not bound to detract from your friendship, especially if you rely on practical reasons instead of feelings.

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   Help them get up. Some will find a way out on their own if encouraged. Please help them review their resume and cover letter when they apply for a job, join them to visit open houses, encourage them to expand and become more independent. If you can help someone take care of themselves, they may leave without conflict.
   • Regularly review their goals and commitments with them, and help them make efforts to make them come true.
   • If you can provide financial support for them to move to a new place, they may only need that condition to be able to move.
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Advice

• You need to control your emotions at all costs. The purpose here is not to argue, but to successfully communicate with them what you want and respect the other person.
• In most cases, you should try to talk to them alone. Feeling like being rushed into attack can make them "mad".

Warning

• Make sure not to get angry. If you are angry about an event or situation, wait until you calm down before talking.
• Make sure the other person doesn't keep any of your valuables before you ask them to move away.