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Sometimes, a few people from the same school seem to always want to fight you. Once in a while, the person who loses his temper is you. However, fighting is not the best way to resolve conflicts. You could get hurt and get in trouble. Luckily, there are many things you can do to avoid fighting in school.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Soothe a bad situation

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   Keep calm. If you are in a stressful situation, it is best to try to find ways to ease the situation. In order to reduce stress, you need to stay calm. This will help the people around you calm down.
   • Deep breath. If you feel like fighting, focus on your breathing. Inhale and exhale slowly.
   • Take a moment to think. When someone makes fun of you in the hallway, you will want to fight back.
   • Instead, stop. Tell yourself, "If I fight, someone will get hurt and I might get in trouble. I'll stay calm."
   • Develop a habit of breathing and thinking before you speak or act. This method will also help others calm down.

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   Attention redirection. A great way to defuse a dangerous situation is to focus your attention on something else. For example, if someone pushes you in the cafeteria, don't react to their aggression. Instead, look away to divert your attention.
   • Try to say something like, "Looks like the school time bell just rings? I will ignore you and go to English class".
   • You can also change the theme completely. If someone bumps into you roughly on the way to class, you should turn to your friend and say "Did you watch the soccer match last night?".
   • Redirecting your attention will help reduce stress. By focusing on something else, you reduce your chances of forming a fight.

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   Use humor. Laughter can instantly improve mood. If you are in a situation that could lead to a conflict, say something funny. Using a sense of humor to defuse the situation can be quite effective.
   • If you show people that you are so relaxed that you can be joking, the person who is trying to fight you will step back. Make a little joke to reduce the stress.
   • Don't make fun of it in a way that could hurt others. Instead, try to find irony or humor in the situation.
   • Maybe someone is making fun of you because you were studying during lunch. You should smile and say, "Now it looks pretty boring, but it will help me pass the university entrance exam!"

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   Be confident. If you are confident, you will be less likely to want to fight. When you believe in yourself, you will feel like you can handle difficult situations more mature. There are a number of ways you can build your confidence and express it in front of others.
   • Focus on your strengths. If other people make fun of your clothes, you might think like, "At least I'm good at soccer!".
   • Practice coping with difficult situations. Take some time to think about how you should react when others are aggressive with you.
   • If you practice, you will be more confident. For example, you could practice saying things like "I have more important things to do than fight."

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   Deal with insults. Not every fight involves physical scuffle. Other people may also want to disturb you by saying bad things. There are a few strategies that will help you deal with verbal aggression effectively.
   • A good way to deal with a bully is to ignore them. If someone is making fun of you, just turn away.
   • Another tactic is to stay calm. You should try to say, "You know, I can't think of a good reason to keep talking to you while you're acting like this."
   • Make it clear that you have no intention of fighting. If you don't pay attention to the situation, it will fade away.
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Method 2 of 3: Avoid causing conflicts in the future

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   Trust your instincts. It's important to learn how to defuse a bad situation. But it is equally important to take the necessary steps to avoid all conflicts. Take the time to think about what changes you can make to avoid future battles.
   • Follow your hunch. If you were on your way home and saw a group of young people standing on a corner, it would probably feel as if if you walked past them, you would be in trouble.
   • Avoid giving a bad situation a chance by taking a different route home. Changing directions may take a few more minutes, but it will help you avoid a fight.
   • Similar to the classroom. If you see a group of students looking suspicious, don't go near them. Please follow another route to enter class.

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   Prioritize safety. You can get hurt if you fight. This is why you need to have a sense of your safety. Staying vigilant is a good thing.
   • Go with friends. If possible, bring your friends to class.
   • The bully is less likely to go to war on you if you have friends around. You should also sit with them during lunchtime.
   • If you are concerned about your safety, you should be around an adult. In the cafeteria, you can sit at a table close to your teacher / supervisor.

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   Set boundaries. You can let others know they need to respect your private space. Setting boundaries is a great way to avoid fighting. You should set clear boundaries that other people cannot violate.
   • If someone bumps into you, tell them, "I would appreciate it if you could stay away from me." Speak politely and firmly.
   • Maybe you need to leave the room and someone else is blocking your way. You should say something like "Please get out of the way".
   • By setting boundaries, you're making it clear that you don't want to fight. This option is better than shoving others out of your way.

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   Use your own voice. Voice is your most powerful weapon. You can use it to stay away from dangerous situations. For example, if you see someone else fighting, you can use words to calm the situation.
   • Use logic.Instead of physically interfering, you should say, "You're going to get in trouble if you don't stop fighting. I know that you both won't want to be suspended from the basketball team."
   • You can also speak up for help. If the fight is going on, let the adult know. This method will keep you out of harm's way.
   • Always remember to speak clearly and confidently. The other person needs to understand that you will do what you say.
   • Respect. Do not use words to provoke others.
   • Instead of sarcasm on someone, you should say, "I know you are a good person. I don't think you really want to fight."

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   Managing your emotions. One of the main reasons people fight is because they allow their emotions to control them. Fights often stem from anger, stress, or fear. Learning how to control your emotions will help you avoid a fight.
   • There are many things you can take to manage stress. For example, focus on the positive things in your life.
   • Maybe you are stressed because your family member is sick. Instead of paying attention to this in class, feel grateful that you can still spend time with your friends.
   • There are many ways to effectively control your anger. For example, you can practice deep breathing techniques. Come up to 5 when you breathe in slowly, and do the same as you exhale.
   • Share your feelings. If you are facing difficult feelings, talk to a friend, parent, or teacher.

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   Take responsibility for your own life. Anyone has a bad day. Sometimes you want to vent your anger on others, or perhaps you may feel like you are a hot-tempered person. Remember, you can choose to deal with a bad day.
   • It is normal to encounter a bad day. But you can try to minimize it by focusing on the positive things in your life.
   • If you find yourself trying to say bad things, think about something else. You can say to yourself, "I'm upset, but I'm looking forward to game time."
   • Maybe someone else has said something hurtful at school. You can use the same strategy against someone who wants to go to war.
   • Take care of yourself. You should remember to get adequate rest and exercise. They will help stabilize your mood and help you avoid the urge to fight.
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Method 3 of 3: Search help system

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   Talk to your parents. Maybe other students are trying to fight you, or maybe you are trying to fight someone. Either way, dealing with a possible aggression will be an emotional experience. You should find someone who can help you.
   • Your parents will help you handle a difficult situation. You can ask permission to chat with them.
   • You should be specific about your requirements. Say, "Mom, can I talk to you about the problem I'm dealing with?".
   • Be open and honest. You should let your parents know about the real problem and work together to find a solution.

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   Please advice from teachers. Teachers are another helpful resource for you. If you are close to a particular teacher, you should consider asking for their advice. You can ask them to keep the conversation private.
   • Talk to the teacher about your concerns. For example, you could say "Recently, I often quarreled with Thành. I'm worried that we will fight".
   • You can also talk to the school counselor. They are trained to help students deal with difficult situations.
   • Consider talking to your coach or extracurricular activities mentor. Any adult who knows you will help you find solutions to avoid fighting.

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   Spend time with real friends. Surely, you will be busy with studying, participating in activities and chores. But remember to spend time with friends. Friends are also a very important source of help.
   • They can make you laugh. When you are more relaxed, you are less likely to want to fight.
   • Spend time with sincere people. You and your friends need to be kind and honest with each other.
   • If you are having problems with your classmates, let your friends know. Say "I'm worried I will fight. Next week, can you sit with me during lunch break?".

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   Use online help. High school and high school can be stressful for you. It can be difficult to find positive ways to cope with change as you grow up. Remember, someone will always listen to you.
   • Use the internet. There are plenty of discussion forums and chat rooms dedicated to helping minors.
   • Look for sites that offer tips on fighting bullying. You can learn how to stay away from the bully and also avoid being one of them.
   • Consider looking for a site like Kenhsinhvien.vn. You can chat on the forum or chat with someone who understands the problem you are facing.
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Advice

• Confidence is very important.
• Don't worry about what others will think of you as you withdraw from the fight.
• Get help if you are concerned about your safety.