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Saying "I love you" to a man you love can take your relationship to the next level. While you're ready for that, the guy probably isn't. Be sure of your feelings as well as examine his actions to see if he loves you too. If the two of you feel the same way, then your feelings won't scare him.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Prepare yourself

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   Think about whether you really love him or are just crazy for a moment. Before you say love, take control of your true feelings first. Are you just suddenly overwhelmed with feelings for your partner or does that love develop over time? Passion is something that comes suddenly while true love is cultivated over time.
   • You must know the person well before you confess. If the two of you have been together for at least 3 months and have a few quarrels, then you will understand that person better.
   • If you have only been dating for a few weeks and everything is quite perfect, you are just falling in love with love but not in love.
   • It's better to keep your feelings in your heart until you are sure to love him.
   • Confessing to your crush too early in a relationship will scare the other person if he doesn't have the same feelings as you.

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   Guess if he loves you. Your boyfriend may feel the same way as you, just unspoken. Even though he doesn't speak, action still shows some emotion. Men often show affection through actions rather than words, and rethink your relationship to see if he's giving you any signs. Ask yourself a few questions.
   • Does he see you as a target audience?
   • Did he mention you in his future plans and goals?
   • Have you been able to meet important people in his life? (family, friends, co-workers ...)
   • If his actions show concern for you, he won't be afraid of your strong feelings.
   • Did he use "We" instead of "You"?
   • Does he take care of you consistently and wants to make you laugh?
   • Is he affectionate at his actions? Do you often hug, kiss and hold your hand?
   • If he acts like he loved you, then it won't be easy to be scared when you show affection. If the action does not reveal his feelings for you, the love should be kept.

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   Determine why you want to confess to him. You should only say "I love you" when you truly love. Don't confess your love just to feel safe in the relationship or expect to hear him back. Never say love is just to manipulate, hold on, or correct mistakes.
   • The best reason to say "I love you" is because you can't hold on to that love any longer and want him to know it.
   • Proving can change your relationship, so make sure you're ready.

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   Be prepared in case he doesn't say love you back. Even if you're ready for love, your guy may not be ready. That doesn't mean he doesn't care or will never love you. It's just that he's not in tune with you right now. Think about what you should do if he doesn't respond.
   • If he doesn't feel like you, you may feel rejected or unsure about the relationship.
   • If you feel like you will break down when he doesn't love as much as you do, postpone your confession.
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Method 2 of 3: Talk to him

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   Choose the right time. Choose a time when he's relaxed, nothing tense, in a good mood. Make sure you both are in a private place, with no one bothering.
   • Avoid showing affection after a physical or psychological impact (like after cuddling each other). He will be easy to say love to you because the adrenaline increases, causing emotional surge.
   • Also avoid talking when he is drunk or sleepy. He may not remember what you said.
   • If you are discussing your future relationship plans or your feelings, this is a great time to say you love him.

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   Say those words. Be as natural as you can and say you love him. Look him in the eye and say "I love you". You don't have to be exaggerating or embarrassed, just speak with your heart.
   • You can choose the ideal situation to tell him, but don't overthink it. If you're both private and happy together, confess your love. Listen to your instinct to tell when to say "I love you".
   • Avoid saying "You are the love of my life". Because it gives a sense of comparison between you and his old relationship.He may love you, but doesn't see you as the love of life right now. You may not get the desired response if you use that expression.

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   Give him a break. When you say you love him, let him know that he doesn't have to respond if he doesn't feel the same way. Show that you are not putting any pressure.
   • You can use the phrase "I love you. I understand you may not be ready or you may not feel like me. I just want you to know what I feel.
   • Remember that each person's emotional development rate is different. Even if he doesn't say he loves you, it doesn't mean he doesn't want to be with you.
   • Being patient with a guy is the best way to give him time to develop affection if it is not ready.
   • If your partner doesn't say "I love you, too," you can take this opportunity to ask him where he thinks the relationship is going.
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Method 3 of 3: Choose a method

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   Determine how much love he likes to receive. If you are in love with a guy, you have already shared your feelings and some personal information with him. How is this sharing best done? Through talking on the phone or by texting? Is it on a romantic date night? Do the two of you like natural, casual conversations?
   • There is no right or wrong way to confess to him.
   • You won't panic if you confess your love in the way he's most receptive.

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   Write him a letter or card. If you are nervous about having to speak in person, consider using a letter or card to express your feelings. This will also give your partner time to absorb what you have to say and think carefully about his feelings for you. If you are worried about the conversation or fear you might faint, then this is a good way to express it to him.
   • A card is helpful if you don't know what to say. You can choose a fun, bright card that still conveys the purpose.
   • You can also borrow a poem or a song saying what you want and rewrite it with handwriting on the card.

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   Directly tell him. Direct confession is the most romantic, but also the most stressful. Verbal speaking your true feelings force you to become more fragile. He can be drawn to him when you show him who you really are and how you feel.
   • If you choose this way. Practice saying "I love you" aloud in front of the mirror.
   • You can also record videos. This way makes sure you are able to tell him everything without worry. If you miss it, you can record another video.

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   Show love by action. Love is not just a feeling. Your words and actions must go hand in hand. Before saying love, action must prove it already.
   • Do good things like cook what he likes or surprise him with a pair of tickets to the movie he wants to see.
   • Always present at bad times. Cheating each other when happy is easy, love is clearly shown when he falls. Whether it's a bad day at work or facing a family health crisis, be the fulcrum and show you are on his side 24/7.
   • Support his passion and dreams. From getting a Ph.D. or passion for climbing, cheer him on. Learn about his interests and goals to understand and be helpful.
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Advice

• Men often say love first, but women say first, there's nothing wrong.
• Whether you get the response you like or not, it's fine to be able to say love and take your weight off your chest.