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Do you wake up in the morning feeling like you have no reason to get up and face a new day? Emptiness is a feeling everyone has, and it's not easy to avoid it. Feeling empty can be a sign of an underlying medical condition, such as depression, and you should seek help from a mental health professional if you feel empty all the time. However, there are a few things you can do to combat the occasional emptiness, such as journaling, trying new things, and making more friends. Read on to learn more about how to stop feeling empty.

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Method 1 of 4: Fill your life with love

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   Spend time with people who love you. Maybe it's your family or close friends. Spending time with people who truly understand and love you for who you are is a great way to combat your feelings of emptiness. Focus on building and strengthening your relationships with these people. You can get meaning from the simple act of spending time with people who love you, who are always happy with you. Spending time with friends and family can also help reduce stress and give you a sense of belonging.
   • Reduce time spent with people who harm you, even if they don't do it on purpose. If you have to be with someone who hurts your self-esteem or makes you feel powerless, make sure your interactions with that person are limited.

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   Make friends or start a relationship. The pleasure of meeting someone who is right for you and letting that relationship develop naturally is a powerful remedy for feeling emptiness. A new friend or love can add new experiences to you and show you that you are an interesting and loving person. Suddenly you realize that the whole world seems to have more opportunities than you think. Making friends can also help you feel more about your goals and your sense of belonging.
   • Meeting and making friends with other people can be difficult sometimes, especially after you graduate. Joining a club, a new course or spending time in a place you love are great ways to meet people.
   • Practice organizing your time and agreeing to participate when you are invited to do something. If you feel like you don't have enough time for new relationships, they will never develop.

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   Adopt a pet. Research has shown that pets can help make your life more fulfilling and meaningful. Pet owners are also less likely to experience depression and may also get certain health benefits from it. Having an animal that depends on your care and care also makes your life more meaningful. Consider adopting a host dog or cat to reduce your feelings of emptiness.

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   Treat others nicely. Accidental acts of kindness can make you feel more fulfilled because it draws your attention to others. Look for different ways you can show your kindness to others. Your acts of kindness will make others happy and this will make you feel more fulfilled.
   • For example, you might compliment an unfamiliar person like, "I love your dress! It's beautiful." Find different ways to show your kindness in any way. Even a simple smile and a nod can brighten someone's day and make you feel more fulfilled.
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Method 2 of 4: Understand why you are feeling empty

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   Talk to a trusted friend about how empty you feel. Keeping your feelings in mind can be harmful. Sometimes talking to someone about your feelings can also help you feel better. Talk to someone who cares about you and knows you well, or at least someone you trust; that can make a big difference.

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   Keep a journal to keep track of your thoughts and feelings. Journaling can help you better understand your emptiness and is also a great way to relieve stress. To start journaling, choose a comfortable place and plan to spend about 20 minutes a day writing. You can start by writing about your feelings or thoughts, or using suggestions. Below are a few examples:
   • When was the first time you felt empty? How long does it last? How long have you been feeling that way?
   • What emotions do you experience when you feel empty?
   • Do you often feel empty during a certain period of time or in a certain place? What do you notice in your surroundings when you feel the most empty?
   • What are your thoughts when you feel empty?

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   Look for signs of depression. Depression varies from person to person, but the most common signs include boredom, feeling empty, or meaningless. Depression can happen in waves, you will feel normal for a while, then become extremely depressed for a few weeks or even months, or it could be a permanent emotion. Depression is a fairly common illness, with 6.7% of adults in the US suffering from severe depression. The proportion of women suffering from depression is 70%, much higher than that of men. If you think you are depressed, know that you are not alone. Seek the help of a doctor or a mental health professional if you have any of the following symptoms of depression:
   • Feeling constantly bored, anxious or "empty".
   • Feeling hopeless or pessimistic.
   • Feelings of guilt, worthlessness or powerlessness.
   • Easily irritated or unusually restless.
   • Change in personality or behavior.
   • Loss of interest in things you used to like.
   • Tired
   • Change your sleep habits
   • Weight changes
   • Having thoughts of hurting yourself or others.
   • The aches and pains show no sign of getting better with treatment.

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   Think about whether you have just experienced some loss. The pain of losing something is also a common cause of emptiness. Although the pain of losing someone you love is most common, it can be any other loss, such as losing a pet, losing a job, losing health, moving a child or a some important change in life. Feelings of loss and grief can cause a variety of emotions, including sadness, emptiness, and influences in other areas of life such as cravings, concentration, and habits. . If you are experiencing a whimsical loss that can cause feelings of grief and emptiness, consider sharing it with someone you trust, such as a friend or lover. Making an appointment with a pain loss counselor can also help.
   • There are many who believe that grief has "five stages", but this is a misconception. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross's "Five Stages" - denial, anger, negotiation, sadness, and acceptance - are covered in her 1969 study of death and before death. However, Kübler-Ross uses these stages to describe a person's feelings before their death; they are not a common process for all kinds of sadness. You may go through all, some or none of them at all, and that's perfectly okay - sadness is your own, each person has a different way of grieving.

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   Determine if your routine is relevant to this. Substance use is also one of the most common causes of emptiness. Stimulants such as alcohol, drugs, and overuse of prescription drugs can cause physical dependence. This can seriously affect your mood, thinking and behavior. Usually, people use these substances because they feel that their life has a "gap" that these substances can fill. If you think you have a problem with substance use, know that you are not the only one: In 2012, about 7.2% of the US population was diagnosed with alcohol use disorder (AUD ). There are many people with substance use disorders, including marijuana, stimulants like cocaine or meth, hallucinogens like LSD, and opioids like heroin. If you are concerned that you might have a problem, ask yourself the following questions: During the past year, have you:
   • Ever been in a situation that caused you to use more drugs than expected?
   • Tried to cut down on your drug use but failed?
   • Spend a lot of time using drugs?
   • Ever craved to use drugs?
   • have to use more drugs to get the same effect as the first time you used them?
   • experiencing strenuous symptoms of lack of medicine such as difficulty sleeping, tremor, irritability, depression, anxiety, restlessness or sweating?
   • Disorder in life or daily responsibility due to medication?
   • continue to use drugs even if it causes problems for family or friends?
   • Stop participating in the things you used to like to use drugs?
   • Use drugs in dangerous situations like driving a car, or operating machinery?
   • Addiction is highly hereditary. For example, a relative of someone who has a problem with alcohol abuse is more likely to become addicted, regardless of whether they know each other or not.
   • If you are facing drug and / or alcohol dependence, talk to your doctor about this. You may need to quit smoking to stop feeling empty.

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   Examine your behaviors to see if you have boundary personality disorder (BPD). People with BPD often feel empty.They often have unstable emotions and behaviors, which may cause them to feel sad or have a disability in social interaction. People with BPD have problems controlling thoughts and emotions. They tend to act thoughtless and have difficulty controlling their own impulses. Their relationships with those around them are also often unsustainable. About 1.6% of adults in the US are diagnosed with BPD each year. BPD can be effectively treated with the guidance of a doctor. If you have one or more of the following symptoms, consult a mental health professional:
   • You try your best not to be left out, what really happened or just imagined. You often believe that you will be abandoned or separated from the people you love. You react negatively, like becoming extremely angry or scared, even if the separation is temporary (like your spouse is on a business trip). You are terrified of being alone.
   • You stop visualizing the people you love and then you think they are evil. People with BPD often begin a relationship by adoring the other, considering they are perfect or ideal. Then you begin to think that the other person doesn't care enough about you or doesn't put much effort into the relationship. Your relationships are often unsustainable.
   • You have an unstable perception of your identity. People with BPD often have difficulty maintaining an awareness of their identity and image.
   • You are extremely reckless or impulsive. This is especially true of self-harm. You can do reckless things like driving after drinking, gambling, abusing drugs, or engaging in risky sex.
   • You constantly think about hurting yourself and threatening to kill yourself. You can injure yourself by cutting, scratching, or burning your skin. Or you can threaten to harm yourself to get someone else's attention.
   • Your mood often changes erratically. These moods change often and very seriously, like feeling happy and feeling hopeless right after.
   • You feel empty all the time. You may feel empty or bored often or as if you need something to do.
   • You have a problem controlling your anger. There are many things that make you feel angry and you react extremely violently, such as being harsh, making taunts, or using bad words. You will especially feel angry if you think someone is not interested in you.
   • Sometimes, you have paranoid thoughts about other people, or feel as though your surroundings are not "real".

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   Meditate to understand your own emptiness. Meditation can help you approach your emptiness and begin to understand them better. Research has shown that meditation for 30 minutes a day can help change brain behavior and activity. To begin meditating, sit in a quiet place, close your eyes, and focus on breathing. Use these questions to increase understanding of your own emptiness through meditation.
   • Pay attention to how you feel in the present moment. Do you feel empty or lacking, such as a lack of value, a lack of insight, a lack of understanding, or a lack of peace or love? Accept those empty feelings.
   • Notice how you experience that emptiness. Where on your body do you feel empty? How much space does it take up?
   • Examine your own feelings of emptiness. Does it bring back memories from the past? What emotion comes into being when you notice your own emptiness?

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   Seek help from a mental health professional. Talking to a therapist about your feelings can help you understand and overcome your feelings of emptiness. Emptiness may indicate that you are depressed or have another underlying psychological condition. Especially if you experience depression, substance use disorder or BPD, you should seek the help of a mental health doctor.
   • Usually, two treatments for depression are to use psychotherapy and prescription drugs such as SSRIs (Prozac, Zoloft, Lexapro) or SNRIs (Effexor, Cymbalta) if needed. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and psychotherapy for personal interaction (IPT) are effective in treating depression. CBT therapy teaches you how to identify and minimize negative thoughts, and learn to think effectively and effectively. IPT therapy focuses on helping you get through relationships that may leave you in trouble.
   • While complex emotional treatments for grief are the most effective for those who have struggled with grief for a long time, a few psychological therapies will also be very helpful in helping you get through. through sadness.
   • Treatment for alcohol or substance use disorder often focuses on individual or group counseling, but may also include medication if needed. CBT is commonly used to treat alcohol use disorders.
   • Treatment for BPD is psychotherapy using Dialectic Behavior Therapy (DBT). DBT focuses on learning how to identify and manage your own emotions, relieve stress, apply mindfulness, and interact with others in a healthy and beneficial way. You will learn different ways to cope with your emotions and social skills to interact with others.
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Method 3 of 4: Find meaning in everyday life

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   Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness is concerned with being aware of your current thoughts, feelings, and experiences without making judgment. Research has shown great benefits of mindfulness, including reducing stress and anxiety. Mindfulness can even change your brain's response to stressors and make you feel more connected with others. Learning to perceive more clearly about your thoughts and feelings and accept them without judgment can help you feel more relaxed, empathic, and satisfied. You can practice mindfulness at home, either through meditation or by participating in a tutorial. Here are exercises that can get you started:
   • Look, name and touch 5 different objects, paying attention to color, texture, temperature, and weight of each object.
   • See, taste, and smell dinner food or flowers while walking, paying attention to their color, texture, taste and aroma.
   • Close your eyes and listen to different sounds. Pay attention to their rhythm, pitch, and volume.
   • Mindfulness meditation has also been shown to be incredibly helpful. The Mindfulness Research Center at UCLA offers several online meditation techniques in MP3 format.

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   Do something new. If you're feeling empty every day, you're probably stuck. What daily routines and routines make you feel tired? Find ways to add new energies to your life. Change your daily routine or even take 30 minutes a day to try something new that can help fill you up.
   • For example, if waking up and going to school or work every day is what makes you tired, find ways to make things more enjoyable. Start a new afterschool activity to get yourself excited about going to school or volunteering on a new workplace project.
   • Try something out of your comfort zone. Achieving achievements in a new field will give you something fun to think about and help build your confidence.
   • Even small changes can make a big difference. Try a new treat from a cookbook, cycle to work instead of driving or start yoga in the morning before going to school.
   • Changing your personal environment can also help.Change curtains in brighter colors in the bedroom, repaint the walls, tidy up the mess and hang up some interesting pictures,

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   Pursue goals and hobbies that are important to you. To feel satisfied, you should strive towards goals and interests that you value. Don't let others control what goals or interests you choose to pursue. If the goals and interests you are pursuing are not what you want, you may need to re-adjust things to make sure you are on the path you want.
   • If you are studying, consider whether your major is something you want to study or what your parents want you to study.
   • Other external pressures can also negatively influence the decisions we make. Determine if you're doing the things you really want to do, or if you're working to impress others.
   • If you know that you are being forced or someone is stopping you from directing your own life, take steps to change your current situation. When you are in control of everything, you may find that empty emotions are disappearing.

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   Find meaning in everyday life. As life gets tiring and dull, it can be helpful to take the time to find good and meaningful things in small things every day. What makes you feel full of life and happiness? When you find something that gives you more energy, make it a permanent part of your life. Here are a few ideas for making life more meaningful:
   • Practice gratitude. Take a few minutes each day to think about what you are grateful for and why it could make your life more meaningful. You can speak or write to feel more grateful. For example, "I am so grateful that the sun is so sunny today!" or "Thank you for giving me a family that cares about me; they help me feel special".
   • Don't refrain from eating your favorite foods. If you like chocolate, have some! You don't have to do everything but allow yourself to enjoy a little bit of fun every day.
   • Go outside and get some fresh air. Research has shown that spending time outdoors helps people feel more energized and energetic, and spend some time outdoors, rain or shine every day. Focus on breathing fresh air and observe the natural world more deeply.
   • Take the time to make your world richer and more pleasant. Turn normal-looking activities into positive ones. Sit down, read the newspaper while sipping some morning tea or coffee instead of rushing out the door. Soak in a hot tub on weekends instead of showering.
   • Keep the indoor environment comfortable and comfortable. Fold the clothes neatly before storing them. Wash the dishes before going to bed. Make your bed tidy in the morning. Make your home more airy by opening up your windows and getting some sunshine and wind outside. Don't neglect cleaning. You may feel like you don't have time for it, or it doesn't matter at all, but when your home becomes clean and fresh, it will be easier to cope with a dull life. .

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   Take good care of yourself. Exercise, eating healthy foods, rest and relaxation are all important elements of a meaningful life. By taking good care of yourself, you are sending your brain signals that you deserve to be cared for and that your life truly counts. Make sure you set aside enough time to exercise, eat, rest and relax.
   • Aim for 30 minutes of exercise each day.
   • Eat healthy foods like fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean meats.
   • Sleep for 8 hours a night.
   • Spend at least 15 minutes a day practicing yoga, deep breathing, or meditation.
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Method 4 of 4: Define Your Principles

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   Determine your principles. Reminding yourself of the things you value in life and yourself can help you feel satisfied instead of empty. Our principles, or core beliefs about life, are often based on the things we go through, but we may not always take the time to examine them. To figure out your principles, you need to take time to think about it. Determine your principles by writing answers to the following questions:
   • Identify the two people you admire the most. Which of their qualities make you admire them and why?
   • If your house caught fire and you could only save 3 things, what would you choose and why?
   • What topic or event made you so passionate? What about these topics are important to you? Why?
   • Identify when you feel satisfied and satisfied. What in that moment made you feel that way? Why?

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   Determine what fits your guidelines. After you've answered the above questions, try to find out what your rules are. In other words, read your answers and determine which ones fit your principles best.
   • For example, if you choose to bring your favorite book, an heirloom and a gift your best friend has given you, this may mean that you value knowledge, loyalty, and friendship. So some of your qualities might be intelligence, loyalty, and being a good friend.

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   Think about activities that allow you to follow your own principles. Once you've identified what you value most and what your qualities are, you can begin to identify activities that make you feel satisfied. Make a list of these activities and select at least one to add to your life.
   • For example, if you take "Community" seriously, you could volunteer to take care of the neighborhood lookout, tutor at school, or work in the charity kitchen. If you take "religion" seriously, you can find ways to include it in some areas of your life, such as taking a mission trip or visiting a church, temple or other place of worship. more often.
   • By living "according to your principles" (meaning the decisions you make and your life consistent with your own), you will feel more fulfilled and happy.
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Advice

• Fill your life with love and smiles. Stay with your family if you have a happy and happy family. If not, reach out to your friends who always support and trust you.
• Join in some activity. Having no passions, hobbies and nothing to do can be frustrating and can lead to an endless cycle of low self-esteem, deprivation and boredom.
• Try a new hobby. Something completely new. Something not really great or interesting. Make a habit.

Warning

• Don't try to hide your depression by participating in activities or making lots of friends. Talk about your feelings with family and friends. If you are not feeling better, seek professional help.