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We all want to be respected and accepted by everyone. When you have friends, you will feel better and have a higher self-esteem. Making new friends may seem challenging if you are a new student or have a shy and introverted nature, but there are ways to help you through it.

Steps

Part 1 of 5: Get to know potential friends

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   Explore your passions. Indulge in activities that you enjoy in a place where there are many people. Notice if someone shows up and likes the things you like too. Find people who share your interests and seem to get along with you.
   • Do you like to draw? Sign up for a drawing class. Go to a picture exhibition. Find people who often doodle on paper during math class.
   • Perhaps you enjoy reading? Then you should join a book club. To public reading sessions. Find friends who hold novels in addition to school books.

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   Find someone with a friendly attitude. Maybe you enjoy playing with the most famous people in school, but if that person doesn't respect you then they aren't real friends. You should find someone who treats you well and supports you rather than finding a celebrity.
   • You have to feel comfortable being yourself around the person.
   • You have to be happy around them.
   • You should feel that the other person supports and respects you.

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   Make new friends through existing friends. If you feel like you get along with someone, organize an event for them to invite friends over. Maybe your friend has found for you people with similar interests and personalities.

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   Look at their feet. This is the complete opposite of the concept of eye contact, but this will be discussed later. Research shows that a group of people standing in a circle with their toes pointed in the center is less likely to welcome a new member, but those who point their toes out are more willing to welcome newcomers. It doesn't hurt to try this the next time you see a group of people talking in a hall, at a party, or at a social event. advertisement

Part 2 of 5: Finding friends

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   Join a club or organization. You can find a hobby club. If you really want to make more friends and find new friends, consider expanding your current experience and try completely new activities, such as an indoor sport. Find out when they gathered and join an upcoming event to apply.
   • You don't have to be very good at playing indoor sports. Basketball, volleyball, ping-pong or throwing, any subject is good. Playing sports is a great way to get comfortable, be physically active and make a whole new group of friends. You can gather a team to form a team or join another team as a free member.
   • There are many clubs that are founded on interest. These can be optional school activities like getting into a drama team or band. These activities can be extended to other interests such as crocheting or playing video games. You can look at the counseling office or student activity center to see what activities are available.
   • Academic clubs can bring business-minded friends together, which may include debating groups and other business-related organizations such as public relations companies or businesses. Ask an instructor to help you choose the right direction.

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   Join social events. The school will provide students with the opportunity to meet and mingle with others in the school. You can take advantage of this as these activities take place. The more often you meet someone, the more likely you are to make friends with them thanks to the simple fact that you guys are in contact with each other often.
   • Participate in prom, movie nights and other school events.
   • Go see the school's sports team and cheer with the rest of the group to instantly bond.

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   Step out of your snail shell. You may not know at all that you've created a shell around you. This will make it difficult for people to come to you. Break your limits by making a few changes and stepping out.
   • Take another way to class. You can be locked in a shell that protects you if you always go in a fixed path. Try walking through the corridors to class and get in touch with more people.
   • Sit with new people at lunchtime. This way you will have the opportunity to interact with completely new groups of friends.

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   Separate yourself from electronic devices. Sometimes we are so engrossed in technology that we don't even care about those around us. Maybe your new friends are in front of you.
   • Remove the headset. If you wear headphones while walking around in school, no one will be able to talk to you.
   • Put your phone down. Social media may seem like a form of interaction, but adding a virtual friend can't compare to true friendship. Communicate with real-life people just by simply putting your phone down and immersing yourself in the world around you.
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Part 3 of 5: Making new friends

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   Getting acquainted. Make eye contact with the person, smile, and try to be enthusiastic and relaxed instead of nervous or shy. Talk about whatever is going on around you. Remember to say positive comments!
   • If there is music in the place, you can say, "I like this song, do you like it?"
   • Choose a tasty treat from your lunch break and compliment the canteen today as well.

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   Get to know a group of friends by joining their conversation. You can do this in situations such as when sitting with a new group of people at lunchtime or in the middle of a crowd watching a sports match. Interject when you hear something that you can comment on, but avoid taking over the conversation. Try to ask questions of the group instead of just asking one of them.

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   Praise the other person. Everyone loves to be commended. A good and friendly way to have a conversation is to let the other person know that you like their style. You can compliment her on an outfit or hairstyle.

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   Find similarities. Think about what a lot of people like to initiate a conversation. You should also try to ask open-ended questions to find out what interests the person has.
   • Ask about your favorite TV show. Maybe you will find something in common to talk about.
   • Talk about something that is being talked about on social media. If you follow the events that happen on social media then perhaps others will too. You can ask her if she saw the news and what she thinks.

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   Make the conversation more informal. Start moving from social sentences to conversations on a more personal level. Use open-ended questions instead of yes / no questions. You can use questions like who, what, when, where and why.
   • Ask them who they know at the party.
   • Ask them what they are reading.
   • Ask when they have lunch breaks.
   • Ask them what they usually like to do on the weekends.
   • Ask why they chose to participate in this event.

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   Exchange of contact information. Once you have connected with someone on social networks, it is better to exchange phone numbers to meet each other. Give the other friend your phone number before asking for their number. Once they have your number, you can ask them to call or text your phone to save their number.
   • Use texting when you want to invite a new friend to an activity or discuss how the two of you did a test, or if the other friend won the match. Avoid texting too often, especially if you just know each other.
   • Occasionally call other friends. The rarity of phone calls compared to text messages makes this even more special. People usually prefer texting, but a call is lovely on special occasions like a birthday or when you ask how the other person hasn't been to school these days.

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   Followed by invitation. Once you find a common hobby, ask them if they would like to hang out at some time after school. Pick an activity that you both think would like.
   • Ask her if she knows any good restaurants around, and if he or she likes going to lunch or dinner with you.
   • If you both love art, you will probably find a gallery, museum, play, or a band you can go to.
   • Invite the other friend to the movie. If you crave to see a certain movie, ask if she would like to go with you. Arrange a time to hang out together after watching the movie so that you guys have a chance to chat. The coffee shop is a great place to sit and chat about movies and anything you can think of.
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Part 4 of 5: Showing a friendly attitude

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   Smile. A smile is a cordial invitation to everyone. Respond to your eyes with a smile, for who doesn't want to be with happy people. A simple gesture of a smile can also attract others to talk to you.

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   Show an easygoing attitude. Examine your performance and ask yourself if your looks keep people away from you. Dressed and well-mannered can indicate a willingness to communicate.
   • Pay attention to your body language. Looking down or looking away, and even crossing your arms and legs are all gestures that make you appear closed, and people will be afraid to talk to you.
   • Wear clothes with a close style.If you wear dark clothes or bold Gothic style, you may attract Gothic friends. Others, however, may look at your dark outfit and assume you just want to be alone. Consider wearing brighter colors. Not only will this make you seem closer, but it can actually affect your mood and make you happier.

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   Make a good friend. Friends must make us feel good. To have a real friend, you have to give away what you want to receive. This golden rule is the key to fostering a passionate and lasting friendship.
   • Stay with your friends when they need you. Friendship should never be inclined to one side, friendship must be mutually beneficial. You need to give your friend the same amount as you received from her.
   • Encourage your friends. Show that you trust your friends and support their achievements in school and in life.

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   Give your friends some space. Don't be too clingy or expect them to spend a lot of time and attention on you. Stay by your friend's side when they need it and offer to continue supporting them, but don't get frustrated if they refuse because they're busy or want time alone.

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   Actively talk. Many people may also be afraid to approach and get to know strangers. If you see someone new to or seem shy, take the initiative to talk or take him to see places. advertisement

Part 5 of 5: Understanding obstacles

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   Find time to make friends. Some people are too busy to spend time with others. Make a schedule with your friends like you schedule things to do. Don't rely on last-minute invitations. Instead, you should plan ahead and stick to it. This way you will make sure you have a priority time for the friendship.

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   Overcome the fear of rejection. One of the biggest obstacles when you socialize and make friends is unacceptable fear. Try not to be offended by someone who doesn't accept your invitation. You also don't want to be friends with everyone you meet. Have the courage to go out and meet people, and eventually you will meet someone who really suits you.
   • Think that the other person may be struggling and not ready to make new friends at this time.
   • Understand that the rejection can be the other person's problem, not your own.

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   Build self-esteem. Low self-esteem often manifests itself in withdrawn, anti-social and poor communication attitudes. Social situations can be terrifying if you think people don't like you or you feel clumsy and awkward. Resist the negative voice in your head and understand that you may be being too harsh on you.
   • Others may be just as worried about themselves as you are. They may not think about you and judge you as much as you think, because they are preoccupied with themselves.
   • Don't aim for perfection. You don't have to be perfect, you just have to be good enough.
   • Focus on your own achievements instead of comparing yourself to others.
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Advice

• Believe in yourself, smile, laugh with your friends and be a good friend. If things don't work out as expected, just ignore them and keep on working.
• Understand that you cannot be friends with everyone. If your friendship doesn't seem smooth, don't force it. Let things happen naturally. Even if you don't succeed, you will make other friends.
• True friends are people you feel safe and secure with. If you are a good friend, you can trust your friend and they will trust you too. Build mutual trust, keep their secrets and believe they will keep yours.
• Treat your friends well and enthusiastically. Never lie to your friends, as this will ruin your friendship.
• Don't be in a hurry, a good friendship takes time to build.
• Follow the golden rule of "what you don't want to happen to yourself, don't do it to others".
• Find similarities in the person you want to make friends with. If you find that they have hobbies like me, don't hesitate to talk about it!

Warning

• Don't give up on old friends if they are good people. Try to keep both. If your old friends have problems with your new friends, try to deal as best as you can.
• Don't gossip about your friends behind them.
• Don't ignore your friends while you are talking to another person you are trying to make friends with. You can say "wait a minute" and get back to them later.