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• Steps
• Advice
• Warning

There are times when you talk and talk will ruin the moment, whether it's a phone call, a relaxing moment, or an appointment. This kind of continuous conversation becomes overwhelming, and makes many people feel uncomfortable. Taking a few simple steps before, during, and after face to face chat can help reconcile any potential conflict, and reduce sibling chatter.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Immediate treatment

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   Ignore them. Sometimes, if someone teases or annoys you, they're just looking for attention. Simply ignoring it sends a powerful message. You don't care about teasing and don't want to argue.
   • Remember that you are a person of dignity. If your siblings look down on you or try to make you feel bad, the problem is with them, not with you.
   • Lowering yourself to your standards will not help solve the problem. Do not defame them when you are slandered. You just need to ignore the intruder.
   • Do your best not to let your siblings know that you are hurting. Even if it's okay to feel sad when someone treats you badly, if they try to offend you, they'll want you to feel sad. Ignoring them is a more effective solution.

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   Leave it. Go to your own room. If they do, ask them to leave your room. If you have a private room, parents will support you when you need their help asking the sibling to leave your room. Sometimes, avoiding confrontation is the best course of action. You could also be somewhere in the house, where they wouldn't normally be.

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   Find a job to do. Run errands to avoid your face. If your parents don't trust you to go out alone, go with a friend. Wear headphones to ignore them. This will help you to become indifferent. With that said, the less you respond, the less likely they are to keep bothering you. Working to distract you will help you ignore the situation and keep them quiet.

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   Assert yourself. If ignoring or avoiding doesn't work, you will need to assert yourself. Becoming strong when you are teased or bullied will stop your siblings.
   • Remember that you have a right to be respected in your home. Your teasing is violating that right. You should be strong and stand up for yourself.
   • With that said, you should not humble yourself by your standards and defame them. However, it is appropriate to respond to protect yourself from insults. If they keep arguing, forcefully tell them why their words were wrong. For example, if they make fun of you for the shirt you are wearing, reply like, "This is my shirt and I like it. That's what matters. You taunting will also Can't change the way you dress ".

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   Use a sense of humor to turn things around. You can also use humor to combat teasing. Humor conveys a sense of comfort to oneself. You will find this confidence alarming.
   • Accept their words in a humorous way. This shows that you can accept your own flaws. Your siblings may tease you for their own insecurity, and they'll be shocked when you get comfortable with yourself.
   • Let's continue with the example of the shirt. If your sibling keeps chattering that ugly clothes, you can say, "I think I only like bad things. Bad fashion is not the worst thing in the world!"

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   Listen for as long as you can. You don't always want your sibling to shut up because they upset you. Maybe they talk too much. If that's the case, try to listen for as long as you can. As you listen, make an effort to understand what your brother or sister is trying to say and why. Did they behave badly to you, make fun of you? Why do they want to? Are they trying to express something but having trouble saying it? Is there something you can do to make it easier for them to express themselves? advertisement

Method 2 of 3: Solve the problem

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   Present the problem. If you keep arguing with your sibling, you will need to be clear. Let's start by telling the obvious. You need to say what is upsetting you and why. Express your point of view and give you the opportunity to respond. After they chatter for a while, you can say, "I don't like the way you are talking to me right now" or "I feel you are overwhelming this conversation." You should stay as calm as possible. Becoming antagonistic and trying to yell at someone will only increase the tension.

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   Use sentences that begin with "I". When talking about an issue, use "Me" statements. These are sentences that present things based on feelings instead of facts. This helps to face it because they will find that you are expressing yourself and your feelings instead of trying to criticize the problem.
   • Start with "I feel". After saying "I feel" you describe your feelings and explain why the behavior made you feel that way. Using "I" statements will help in arguing because they will feel less criticized. You do not give broad criticism about the incident or blame anyone. Instead, just make it clear how it makes you feel.
   • For example, don't say, "You are thoughtless teaching your life and despise you for not doing your homework." Repeat this sentence by starting with "Me". Say, "I get upset when you scold me for my homework because it makes me more stressful."

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   End the conversation when needed. Sometimes, even if you speak as respectfully as possible, your siblings won't stop chattering. They may even become hostile, regardless of your best efforts to resolve the issue. If they keep teaching life and don't respect you, it's best to end the conversation. Say, "I don't think I can do anything about it and I feel annoyed right now." Then leave. advertisement

Method 3 of 3: Identify more serious problems

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   Write down your feelings. The problem will be more serious if siblings keep criticizing and bothering you. An effective way to deal with this type of problem is to sit down and discuss it with each other. Before you do, take a moment to write down your feelings so that you can express them correctly in conversation.
   • List recent times when you two have quarreled and / or when siblings just kept chattering. Make a long list, then cross out the trivialities.
   • Focus on big issues, such as when a sibling is giving you a headache, or interrupting an important appointment by chattering.
   • In addition, think about your purpose through talking with your siblings. What do you hope to achieve after a conversation? What would you like your brothers and sisters to give up after the discussion? What would you like your siblings to change from the conversation?

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   Try to understand your point of view. In addition to writing down your point of view, consider their point of view before making a conversation. Why are they messing with you? What caused them to behave like that? Are you overdoing it? When it comes to arguing, it is very rare for a person's flaw to cause an issue. Try to understand why you sometimes don't behave properly to your siblings and what you can do to change the situation.

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   Face to face with siblings. Sit next to them in a comfortable place. You need to make sure they know you are going to take something serious.
   • Turn off the television, and make sure you are not using your phone or computer. Technology can distract you and make you forget what to say.
   • Use a comfortable place, like your bedroom, or the living room. These will help because there are comfortable seats, and help relieve conversation stress.
   • Choose a chat time that is right for you both. Don't make an appointment to talk if your sibling only has 1 hour before work. Choose an unlimited time, such as right after dinner on a day of the week.

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   Take turns talking. It is important to respect each other when talking. Take turns expressing your feelings. Don't interrupt while you're talking. If they interrupt you, politely interrupt like, "Sorry, but I haven't finished yet."
   • Don't interrupt while you're talking. Whether they say something that you disagree with or hurts you, respect them and let them express themselves freely.
   • Don't look down on or slander. You need to maintain the most respect possible to resolve the situation. Calling each other by name can ruin an active conversation.

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   Compromise. The purpose of the conversation is to resolve the problem between you and the sibling. You need to be willing to compromise and see the problem from their point of view. Once the two of you have expressed yourself, work hard to solve the problem together. You can find areas where the two of you can change a little bit. Let's say you argue a lot because siblings don't like spending time in your room. You can give them space after school and before bed. They may agree to be willing to spend time with you on the weekends or before dinner and allow you to play in their bed.
   • Respect differences. Since conflicts sometimes arise due to personal differences, learn to respect your own personality. Stop arguing about a few specific topics. You can also view disagreement as an opportunity to get to know someone else's opinion. Pay sincere attention to their cause and purpose.

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   Stop the unpleasant thing. Regardless of your best efforts, unpleasant events will happen in the future. It is normal for siblings to quarrel, especially as they mature and experiment with the limits of a family relationship. Sometimes, it is easier to end a conversation before starting. If you feel that you and your siblings become hostile, leave and leave the room. advertisement

Advice

• If they are younger than you, ask them to keep quiet in a calmer / more moderate voice.
• Don't argue with your siblings as this can increase stress and they will talk more.
• Buy a lock for your bedroom door so they can't get in and bother you.
• Ask yourself what your role was in the incident and if you caused the problem.
• You may need to leave the sibling alone for about 5 minutes to breathe and relax.
• Walk away or tell an adult to ask them to stop chattering.
• Only turn to an adult if you cannot handle it yourself and cannot stop arguing or talking a lot. Ask a parent or guardian.
• Never hurt you physically or mentally.
• It is most effective if you ask a parent to intervene with the right explanation. Then, they will support you.
• Just leave your siblings alone, if you leave them alone, they won't bother you.

Warning

• Finding solutions can lead to stress or negative thoughts with more risks.
• Always remember that what you say can be life threatening, so make sure there are no emergencies.
• Even if they say they won't bother you, they probably do. So, continue to remind them to keep quiet. Follow your plan for when and where you should be when your siblings are near and coming.