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It's okay to feel jealous of someone once in a while. But when you are so blind to jealousy that you wish all day long to have what other people own and cannot stop thinking about your situation, you have a problem. If you want to overcome jealousy and live your life, read on.

Steps

Method 1 of 4: Understand your jealousy

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   Realize that you are in trouble. Before you start tackling your jealousy, you need to admit that it's a real problem; it is dominating your life and preventing you from loving yourself. True jealousy can weaken you, hinder you from reaching your goals and perfecting yourself. Here are some signs that jealousy has invaded your life:
   • If all day long you crave what others have instead of appreciating what you have.
   • If you constantly compare yourself to friends, family members, and co-workers and find yourself consistently failing.
   • If you are so jealous of someone that you cannot go out with her for five minutes without thinking that your clothes price, beauty, and style are the same as hers.
   • If you are jealous of all your friends' relationships and expect your relationship to be half the same.
   • If you are in love and can't stand it when the most important person in your life is with anyone of the opposite sex. You think that every girl has only one goal - to get rid of your guy.
   • If you are so obsessed that you constantly follow your boyfriend's Facebook, or even his phone and email, for signs of cheating.
   • If you can't live for a few minutes without comparing your relationship, career or family with those of everyone you meet.
   • If you're incredibly jealous every time one of your friends goes out with a new friend. If this makes you wonder, "What am I going to do?"

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   Reflect on your jealousy. Once you acknowledge that you have a real problem with jealousy and want to tame that monster in your heart, next you have to understand why you feel jealous. If you feel like you are missing out on what others have, then you may have something missing in your life. You can understand where that feeling comes from through the following suggestions:
   • Are you only jealous of one aspect of your friends' lives? For example, if you are just jealous of your friend's romantic feelings because your relationship is not, then you should improve your relationship, or terminate the relationship if it's not worth it. you maintain. Or are you jealous of your best friend because she pursues an artistic career, and are you afraid to do so? This may be a sign that you must rethink your career path.
   • Are you jealous of everything that other people have? If you think you don't have anything other people should want, then you are feeling insecure and insecure. Make an effort to improve your self-image before you get over your jealousy to move on.
   • Are you jealous of your friends' looks? Do you feel that if you look like them your life will be much better? Then try to create your own style, spend a lot of time practicing and dieting with a healthy menu, then just look in the mirror, practice your beauty and remind yourself of what. you like about yourself.
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Method 2 of 4: Improve your situation

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   Complete myseft. If you have inherent jealousy, then you are likely to feel that you are not an admirable person because it is not exciting, interesting, and inactive. It's time to make the effort to transform into someone who has no reason to be jealous, because how happy you are with yourself. Here's what you need to do:
   • Cultivate confidence. Write down everything you love about who you are and make a list of your shortcomings. Find all the flaws you can think of, and you will begin to love who you are. Once you feel satisfied with yourself, you probably won't be jealous anymore.
   • Matter is one of the most common causes of jealousy. If you are jealous of a friend because they have a lot of money, or their family is rich and you are not, you should accept that you cannot buy everything like her. Instead, save money. When you have the money to buy some important items for your wardrobe or apartment, you will feel satisfied with what you have.
   • Take care of your body. If you are jealous of your "six pack" abs, go to the gym more often. Remember that even though each person has a different body, you can still control your appearance. However, if you think that everyone around you is prettier than you and there is nothing you can do about it, then you may have a physical disorder and should seek help from your doctor. .
   • Remember to be yourself. You can't overcome your jealousy if you keep obsessing about what your friends do, their looks and their relationships, and compare with yourself. There is no one in this world, and you will only feel worse if you try to compete with others. Although others can inspire us in many different ways, don't forget that you are a unique and unique individual, and never compare yourself to others.

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   Improve what you do. You may be jealous of other people for not being able to handle what you have to do every day. To avoid this feeling, you should be proud of your hard work, and excitedly pursue your goals and interests you. If you are busy with your goals and interests, you will have no time to be jealous of what other people do.
   • Spend more time doing the things you love. If you spend a lot of time wishing you were like you, it is probably because you rarely do the things you are proud of. Increase your understanding by reading more poetry, drama, and novels, or practicing skills like knitting or fixing furniture. The more you perfect yourself, the happier you will be to be yourself.
   • Interested in your career. If you are jealous of a friend chasing her dreams, or jealous of someone advancing at work, try harder at your job, or consider turning directions. else to do what you really desire.
   • Set goals for yourself to reach. You should start slowly. If you've never run before, practice by walking 5 km without a break. If you succeed with this goal, you will be proud of your abilities and will try to set other goals as well.

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   Improve your relationship. If you are jealous of someone because they have a lot of friends or a great relationship, then you are probably missing something in your relationship. Try to spend more time talking and participating in meaningful activities with your friends, making an effort to create open and sincere relationships.
   • If you are happy with your friends or with your “half”, then there is no reason to dream about the relationships that other people have. If your love affair is solid, you will feel valued and secure.
     • If you have a friendship based on jealousy, it may be time to end that "friendship".If you feel your friend is constantly bragging about what she has to try to make you jealous, then maybe it's time to leave.
   • Improve relationships in the family. If you don't spend enough time with your family, you may be jealous of other people's strong feelings of family. Try to call or meet more with family members, and you will feel more satisfied with your relationship.
   • Improve your love life. If you are in a serious relationship, maintain sincere and open communication so you can resolve any problems. If you are single, be happy for your "freedom", and get excited about finding your "partner" instead of always jealous of people for their good relationship.
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Method 3 of 4: Change your perception

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   Remind yourself how lucky you are. When people are blinded by jealousy, one cannot objectively realize how fortunate they are in fact. Tell yourself that you are fortunate to have tap water to use, have rice to eat, be in good health, and even have access to a computer. Here are a few suggestions for you:
   • Please understand that you have been very lucky compared to so many people in the world. Tell yourself how many people don't even have the basics that you take for granted. Surely you have never had to deal with persistent hunger, you are healthy and if you get sick, it is easy to go to the doctor, you have enough clothes to stay warm during the winter. And you don't feel overwhelmed where you are. Things like this are endless.
   • Understand that you have many things that many people envy. Make a list of at least twenty things you have that many people should wish for. It can be as basic things as "tap water" or more subtle things like "ability to talk humorous".
   • Understand that the people you are jealous of don't have a perfect life either. Take a more realistic view of them. Make a list of everything they have made you jealous of, and then see for yourself if you have anything they want. For example, you might be jealous of your friend's great love story, but she might wish for a loving and pampering parent like yours. You might be jealous of your friend's advancement, but maybe she wants to have artistic talent like you.

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   Be a more generous person. If you spend more time helping others, you will not only feel more satisfied with yourself because of your kindness, but you will also know more about what you have.
   • Join the community volunteering. To see how lucky you are, you can volunteer to help people in your community such as teaching letters, teaching English or participating in charity kitchens. Meeting people who lack even basic needs will remind you of how lucky your life is.
   • Help those you know. Please console her when she is in emotional trouble, and encourage a classmate to overcome difficulties to complete her studies. Understanding the struggles of others can help you realize that everyone's struggles, and you're not the only one looking to improve your life.
   • Do little things for the people you love. Help a friend wash clothes in difficult times, let a friend hitchhike when his or her car breaks down. You will feel like a helpful person and will appreciate what you have.
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Method 4 of 4: Be active

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   Determine who you are. Reflecting on your jealousy and striving to be a better person can help you handle your problems. However, you still have to understand that, no matter what you do, you will never be perfect, and there will always be things that you must want.
   • Understand that life is not fair. You can't get everything you want no matter how hard you try, and there are people who are truly luckier than you. But once you accept this fact, you can let go and not try to have everything.
   • Enjoy being yourself. You may not be as perfect as everyone else, but take time to enjoy your habits and love the feeling of being yourself. Take time to sit by yourself and cherish private moments.
   • Focus on good qualities. While you may have a lot of flaws, focus on the aspects of your life that you enjoy, such as your relationships or your exciting career. Emphasize on the things you have and love instead of thinking about the things you want.

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   Watch out for the jealousy return. As you work hard to overcome the jealousy that dominates your life, you still need to make sure that the bad habit doesn't return in the future. Here are a few things you can do:
   • Don't take anything for granted. Every morning you wake up, find at least ten things that make you feel good. Making a habit like this will help reinforce the perception that you are someone who doesn't need to be jealous.
   • Avoid situations that can spark jealousy. If you can't help but be jealous of being someone's girlfriend, then don't date guys who hang out with girls. If you have a girl who seems to have everything and you can't stop being jealous of her, try to refrain from seeing her if it makes you feel self-pity.
   • Recognize your jealousy. As soon as you realize that you are jealous of someone again, go home and think. Why are you jealous of this person? How do you stop being jealous before it gets out of control?
   • Remember that jealousy is okay sometimes. Don't accuse yourself if you can't stop being jealous of one thing or another. If a friend has just bought a new car and you wish you could afford it, or if a friend announces that she is getting married while you still want a boyfriend, then feel a little jealous. it also doesn't matter. Only when jealousy gnats your life and shows up in all your actions, then are you in real trouble.
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Advice

• Avoid telling people that they are lucky. This can create an uncomfortable situation and only embarrass those around you.
• Jealousy is an unattractive personality. If you are in a lover, always tell yourself that there is nothing more boring than a jealous person. Jealousy proves that you are not confident in what you have to show, and that you will be less attractive in the eyes of your lover.

Warning

• If you have tried everything and still find that there is nothing in your life that appeals to others and feel there is nothing you can do to improve your situation, then you probably have depression and should seek help .