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Whether you go to school away from home, move to another place, or travel, you can experience what is called a "homesickness". Homesickness differs from person to person, but in general, homesickness can make you feel sad, sad, isolated, or lonely. You may also feel homesick and miss small things like the old pillow or the scent of your house. Homesickness can occur at any age and in any situation; So don't be ashamed if you're homesick. On the other hand, you can still use a variety of ways to cope with homesickness and learn to love your new environment.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Find ways to cope with homesickness

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   Understand the cause of homesickness. Homesickness stems from people's need to be connected, loved and protected. Regardless of its name, the feeling of "homesickness" you feel may be unrelated to your home. Every element of familiarity, comfort, comfort, and positivity can make you feel nostalgic when you are away from home. Research has even shown that homesickness is a form of loss grief similar to sadness when breaking up or when someone dies.
   • You may even experience "money" homesickness. This is when you feel anxiety, loss, or obsession with your home before have to leave, because you anticipate the separation you are about to face.
   • Young children and children under teens often feel homesick more than adults, even though almost all ages experience it.

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   Recognize the symptoms of homesickness. Homesickness isn't just about remembering your home. This is a condition that leads to many different types of emotions and affects your daily life. Identifying these symptoms can help you better understand your emotions and come up with the right solutions.
   • recall. Nostalgia arises when you constantly think about your family or acquaintances through idealistic lenses. You can indulge in family thoughts, or often compare your new environment with your old one from a single point of view.
   • Depressed feeling. People who are homesick often feel discouraged because they lack the support in life the way they usually do back home. You may also feel like you lose control of your life, leading to worse depression. Common signs of homesickness include feeling sad, disoriented or feeling like you “don't belong here”, avoiding social activities, having difficulty at work, or learning, feeling helpless or abandoned, low self-esteem and some changes in sleep habits. Not wanting or liking what you used to do is also a sign of depression.
   • Feeling of anxiety. Anxiety is also a sign of homesickness. Anxiety caused by homesickness can also lead to obsessive thoughts, especially about family or people you miss. You may have difficulty concentrating or feel extremely stressed without being able to pinpoint the reason. Besides, you also easily become annoyed or "angry" with the people you meet in the new environment. In severe cases, anxiety can cause another psychological reaction, such as fear of spaces (fear of open spaces) or claustrophobia (fear of confined spaces).
   • Unusual behavior. Being homesick can make you give up your routine and change the way you react to things. For example, if you are usually not an easily angry person but now find that you are more likely to get upset or shout at others more often than before, this could be a sign that you are feeling homesick. You can also eat more or less than usual. Other symptoms include frequent headaches, or getting sick or aching more than usual.

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   Homesickness often happens with young people. Although everyone can homesick, it is more common for young people. Some of the reasons are as follows:
   • Children and adolescents are still mentally unstable. 7-year-olds generally still do not have a strong mentality to leave home like a 17-year-old.
   • Young people often do not have much experience with the new environment. If you've never moved, or haven't camped away from home or go somewhere alone, you'll have a harder time than people who have had the experience. For young people, this can be a whole new experience compared to older people.

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   Keep familiar items with you. Familiar objects that carry the word "home" can help ease the feeling of homesickness because you have something "clingy". Items that contain a variety of spiritual or cultural values, such as family photos or objects attached to your culture, can help you feel connected to your home country even when you are go far.
   • Balance the old and the new. To adapt to a new environment, most importantly, you should appreciate the changes you are going through. Of course, you can still keep some things that are comfortable at home, but remember that you cannot and should not focus on the familiar things before.
   • You don't have to keep tangible things. In the Internet age, for example, you can watch a lot of things from your home country online.

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   Do the things you love to do while at home. Research shows that doing things that are reminiscent of home can make you feel better. Traditions and rituals can help you cultivate a sense of connection with your home country even when you are away from home.
   • Eat your favorite foods back home. The phrase "food for pleasure" doesn't come naturally. Food associated with your childhood or culture can help you feel happier and more secure in your new environment. You can recommend your favorite food to a new friend to reinforce the bond between comforting familiar things and new things for emotional support.
   • Participate in your religious traditions, if applicable. Research has shown that people who follow a certain religion or belief are less likely to feel homesick when they participate in these traditions in a new place. Finding a place of worship or meditation in a new environment, or even finding a group of friends with similar traditions will help you adjust to life there.
   • Participate in familiar activities. If you've ever joined your home basketball team or book club, don't hesitate to research and find out if you can find a similar activity in your new environment.You will have a chance to do something you enjoy and meet new people during this time.

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   Talk to someone. People often assume that talking about homesickness can make or make homesickness worse. Research has shown that this is not true at all. In fact, talking about your feelings and experiences can help you cope with homesickness. On the contrary, work are not Recognizing your feelings can make the situation worse.
   • Share with people you trust. Student support workers, instructors, parents or friends, or a mental health professional can sympathetically listen to you and often give you advice on how to deal with a cold. contact by yourself.
   • Remember that looking for help from others doesn't make you "weak" or "crazy." Acknowledge strongly that you need help is a sign of courage and take care of yourself, not embarrassing.

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   Write diary. Journaling is a way to help you connect with your own thoughts and see what's going on in your new environment. Whether it's studying abroad, going to college away from home, attending summer camp, or just moving to another city, you'll experience many new and unfamiliar feelings, and journaling helps. you follow your own thoughts. Research has shown that through journaling, you get a chance look back related experiences and feelings to alleviate homesickness.
   • Try to focus on positivity. While feeling lonely and homesick is obvious, you should also see the positive side of the new experience. Think about the happy things you are doing, or think about how new things remind you of the great things back home. If you just write about the sadness you are experiencing, you will make homesickness worse.
   • Make sure your diary is not just a series of negative emotions and events. As you write about your negative experiences, take a moment to reflect and write about why you feel that way. This is called "seeing the thing over" and is effective.

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   Do exercise. Research has shown that exercise releases endorphins, the natural chemicals that bring comfort to the body. Endorphins can help you fight off the anxiety and depression that often occur with homesickness. Exercise with as many others as you can. This is an opportunity to socialize and meet new people.
   • Exercise also helps boost the immune system. Homesickness can also make you more sick (for example, frequent headaches or colds).

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   Chat with friends and family back home. This is a way to help you feel supported and engaged - very important in adjusting to a new place.
   • You need to develop self-confidence and independence in order to effectively cope with homesickness. Don't let yourself focus so much on your loved one elsewhere that you won't be able to learn to manage your new life.
   • Talking to friends and family can make homesickness worse for young children or for people who have been away from home for a short time.
   • You could also spend some time on social media to keep in touch with your friends and keep up with their status. This can help you feel like they are very close. However, you shouldn't focus so much on old friends that you won't have time to meet new friends.

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    Avoid becoming obsessed with home. While communicating with loved ones back home can be a great soothing technique, it can also make you dependent. Don't let homesickness invade your life. If you find yourself hanging out in the house to chat with your mom for the third time a day instead of going out for coffee with new friends, consider adjusting the amount of time you spend connecting with new people. The line between keeping in touch with loved ones at home and not adjusting to a new life is very small.
    • Schedule a phone call home. Set a limit on the number and time you spend chatting with friends and family back home. You can even write "handwritten letters" in the traditional way. These are great ways to stay in touch with people back home without letting nostalgia in your past prevent you from enjoying the present.
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Method 2 of 3: Connect with others

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   Make a list of things you remember about your home country. When you're away from home, it's normal to miss loved ones. Make a list of the people you remember and what they bring to your life. What memories do you cherish? What did you do with that person? What personality do you like about them? Finding new friends with similar personalities as people you know back home can give you emotional support. In addition, this is also a way to help you adapt to a new place or situation.
   • Look for similarities between the new environment and the place where you are longing. Homesick research has shown that, when you can look for familiar aspects of a new situation, you feel less homesick because you focus on the positive.

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   Roll over. It is easy for others to advise you on building new relationships, but in reality it can be difficult in your new environment. The best way to develop a strong support network is to put yourself in situations where you'll meet new people, especially people with similar interests. Participating in a new activity will help you forget about homesickness.
   • For example, if you study away from home, you can join a variety of clubs, sports groups, activities, and student unions. This is how you can interact with others; Many of them may be feeling homesick just like you!
   • When starting a new job or moving to another city, it becomes more difficult to make friends. Research has shown that you may find it harder to make friends after college. Consistency is the key to success: joining a regular gathering group such as a book club or seminar is a way to make friends because you see members often again. group.

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   Share what you love about your home country with others. One of the most important things you can do to deal with homesickness is to make friends. Having a strong support network will make it less difficult for you to cope with homesickness, even if you feel it. Sharing good memories about home is a way to help you mentally and feel more comfortable talking about your home country.
   • Organize a party so you can share your cuisine and customs with friends or new acquaintances. Whether you're studying abroad or just going to school in another city, sharing your favorite food at home with someone else can help you feel better. You can organize a session to teach your friends how to cook your favorite food, or invite a few friends over to enjoy home specialties.
   • Share the music you love with everyone. If you come from an area that loves country music, you can have a small get-together where people can play games, get to know each other, and listen to your favorite tunes. If you enjoy listening to jazz while you are at home, you can play jazz. The type of music you choose doesn't have to be directly related to your home town, just the kind of music that makes you feel at home.
   • Tell jokes about the time you lived in the old house. Even if you're not in the mood to laugh, try to share a few funny stories about what you enjoyed most about living back home. Sharing happy memories can help strengthen your bond with home and new friends.
   • If you live in an area where another language is spoken, you can teach people some common phrases in your language.This action is both fun and makes you forget homesickness and helps your friends to broaden their knowledge.

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   Brave. Being shy, awkward, or vulnerable is a common response to homesickness. If you don't take risks, you'll miss out on experiences that can help you adapt to your new environment. You should accept the invitation when invited, even if you do not know many people at any event you attend. You don't have to be the party hub! Just being there and listening to others is a good place to start.
   • If you are a bit shy, do you have a good set of goals such as meeting and talking to a new person. Over time, you will feel more comfortable with communication. Focusing on listening to others is the easiest way to bond.
   • Even if you can't make friends with anyone at an event or party, prove to yourself that you can do new, unfamiliar things, and it can. bolster your confidence.

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   Step out of your comfort zone. Doing the same activities can help you feel comfortable, but most importantly push yourself out of your comfort zone so you can grow and change. Research has shown that moderate anxiety, such as learning a new skill, can help you improve your performance in mental activities or interactions with others. . Feeling too comfortable can prevent you from adjusting to your new environment.
   • Start with small steps. Trying to face your greatest fear at the same time can backfire. When you put yourself in a completely unfamiliar situation, you can feel overwhelmed. So, set small, easy-to-implement goals that give yourself a little challenge.
   • Try eating at a new restaurant in the new city. Excuse me to sit with a stranger at the cafeteria. Invite someone in your class to join a study group with you. Invite a colleague to eat and drink after work.
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Method 3 of 3: Engage in a new environment

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   Enjoy the unique side of the new environment. Finding ways to meet your needs in a new environment can be challenging, but can be helpful in dealing with homesickness. Connecting to new and exciting things in your new environment is a way to help you feel more attached to the place.
   • For example, if you study abroad or live abroad, you can visit all the local museums, palaces, and restaurants, and learn about the unique cultural traditions of that country. Find a travel guide right away and aim to discover something culturally at least once a week.
   • Cultural experience. Even if you move to a different part of your home country, you may find that the local culture is somewhat different from home. Learn the local language, try new dishes, and go to bars and cafes. Join a cooking class that specializes in using local ingredients. Join a local dance club. Enhancing your intercultural communication skills is a way to help you feel at home in an unfamiliar place.
   • Ask the locals about their favorite activities. You'll be presented with the best burrito (Mexican cakes) you've ever enjoyed in your life, or get directions to a beautiful lake on no map.

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   Learn languages. If you move to another country, not being able to converse in the local language can be a huge barrier to your integration. Learn the language as quickly as possible by taking classes, chatting with locals, and practicing your new skills. You will feel more confident and stable when you can communicate with people in your new environment.

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   Get out more. When you pick out, you've won half the battle against homesickness. Of course, you will feel homesick if you spend 8 hours a day watching the movie Dat Phuong Nam alone. Instead, aim to spend time out of the house, whether it's just going to a sunny park to read a book you're planning to read at home, or taking a walk with a good friend instead. do push ups in the room.
   • Work or study outside. Visit a coffee shop or park to do the work you plan to do from home. By being around others, your feelings of loneliness will also decrease.

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   Pick a new hobby. Find something new to do that can help you find your passion. This is a way to give you active, effective activities so you can focus your energy and help yourself forget your feelings of sadness or loneliness. Learning a new skill can also help you step out of your comfort zone.
   • Try to find interests that are relevant to your new environment. You can find a cycling or hiking club where you live. Take part in a local art class. Find a symposium organized by a writer's association. If you are able to communicate while developing new skills, you will feel more connected to your new environment.

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   Give yourself time to adapt. Don't be disappointed with yourself if you can't fall in love with your new environment right away. Many people will love the new environment faster than you, but that doesn't mean you're out of the ordinary; In fact, some people may seem like they are having a great time but the truth is they are feeling homesick. Be patient and understand that with perseverance, you will overcome all difficulties. advertisement

Advice

• People of any age can feel homesick. Don't feel bad if you've grown up and are still homesick when you take on a new job in a new city. This is completely normal.
• Soothe yourself. Try not to focus on the distance between you and the people you know back home.
• Tell yourself that you are fine and that you will see your family soon. Even if you can't meet, you can still call them via FaceTime or Skype.
• Breath. Sometimes you try so hard you forget to breathe. Take a deep breath through your nose and out through your mouth until you feel more comfortable.
• Connect with others! Especially when you are a new student at school, you will feel like you are the only one who misses home. However, if you chat with your classmates, you may find that they feel the same way. Sharing your feelings will help people adapt.
• Do not be too obsessed with your homeland, you should think about the great things you did during the day.
• Try coloring to relax your mind and help you focus on something. Adult coloring book is always perfect.
• Try to solve the problem. If you feel sad and can't pinpoint why, reflect on your feelings from time to time. Do you feel worse when you think about your friends back home? Do you feel sad watching an old movie? Try to identify what triggers your homesickness.
• If you move to another country, learn the language of that country as quickly as possible. When you can communicate with people in your new environment, you will feel stable in all situations and connected with people.
• Focus on the positive things in a new environment whenever possible. For example, think about a new cuisine that you can only experience in a new place, not in your home country.
• Imagine you are in a favorite place at home. It could be your room, a cafe, a library. Let's start by thinking about the big details. The image will gradually appear in your mind and you can feel at home.

Warning

• When feelings of depression and anxiety become severe, you may experience depression. If you are unable to function properly - for example, when you find it difficult to get out of bed in the morning, you are not interested in doing activities you used to enjoy - seek help from mental health specialist.
• In some serious cases, homesickness can trigger suicidal feelings or thoughts. If you are having this thought or feeling, get help right away. You can call 112 (or the local emergency service number) or call 1088.