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One of the scariest things in a relationship that can happen even before it starts: it's inviting a girl out for the first time. This is really difficult for young people if they have not experienced dating. While inviting someone out is stressful, there are many super-simple ways to invite an acquaintance or stranger.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Ask a friend or acquaintance to hang out

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   Find ideas for a place and time for your appointment. Don't ask her like you want to "go out someday". Please directly invite and include specific information. Have some ideas on hand in case she doesn't like a certain food or gets too busy one day.
   • If she keeps turning down the offers without making another date, she probably isn't interested. Many girlfriends find it difficult to directly "decline" an invitation or not want to upset you.
   • Eating dinner at a restaurant that isn't too chic is a perfect first date idea.

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   Invite her directly. Whether you tend to want to invite her out over the phone, text, or over the internet, this will interfere with non-verbal communication. These indirect approaches can lead to ambiguous communication and lose your chances in a relationship. Instead, the next time you meet her, make an invitation directly.
   • When you have private moments, invite her like this: "I'm thinking if you are free this Friday night? I want to invite you to come with me. How do you feel?"
   • If you rarely see her in person, call or text her. You can send a message like this: "Hi, I'm in. You seem like a very cool person and I want to know more about you. I'm wondering if you want to eat with me. Are you staying this Friday night at 6 o'clock? "

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   Ask a mutual friend for help. If you're still having trouble opening an invitation to her, try asking a mutual friend for help. This friend might give you a few suggestions or opinions about the things she loves. They may also be willing to help "give you the opportunity" or assist you in asking her out in some way. While a mutual friend will make things easier, don't expect them to ask her out for you.
   • To get it up, you can try saying something like: "Hey, you know? I want to ask her out. Did she say anything about me? Do you think she would agree? ? "

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   Clarify your intentions. You don't have to tell her "this is a date" directly, but don't hide your feelings. If she asks questions about "going out - dating" or your feelings for her, tell the truth. Trying to "price" by pretending not to love her would result in the opposite of expectations. advertisement

Method 2 of 3: Invite a stranger to hang out

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   Avoid doing anything that makes her feel pressured or unsafe. Do not approach a girl walking alone on a deserted street at night. Likewise, don't ask a girl out if she is "stuck" with you somewhere, like the elevator or a corner of the room. One effective way to make her feel safe is to talk to her when other people are nearby.
   • Don't make any physical contact unless you take the initiative first. Trespassing into her private space will immediately make her feel threatened.

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   Introduce yourself politely. You can try making eye contact before greeting her. Introduce your name and give her a cute compliment. If she responds to her name and also compliments you or shows her appreciation, say you want to get to know her.
   • You might start like this: "Hi, your shirt is so beautiful. So cute!" After that, wait for her response. Please continue to introduce yourself: "You are."
   • If she ignores your greeting, it's best to withdraw.
   • If she seems responsive and neither of you are busy, chat for a while.

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   Give her your contact information. Even though most guys think they're "default" so asking for a girl's number, it's best to give your information away first. This will relieve her of any pressure and will open up your offer more openly. Write your information on a piece of paper instead of asking her to keep it on her phone so she won't feel scared and manipulated.
   • If she likes, she will take the initiative to give you the phone number or email you.
   • When you send her your contact information, you can say something like this: "I'm glad to meet you, but I have to go. I really enjoy talking to you and want to know more about you. I feel like you too, here's your phone number ".

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   Call, text, or email her the next day to schedule an appointment. If she gives you the contact information, don't play tricks or wait for her to take the first step. Invite her to dinner at a restaurant with a specific date and time. You should have a few back-up options available in case she is really busy or doesn't like certain foods.
   • You can text or say something like: "Hi, I met you yesterday. I'm wondering if you are free Friday night at 7:00? There is a specialized restaurant called. I always wanted to go there, I hope you will go out to eat with me? If you want to go somewhere else or you are busy, please let me know what you like. Thank you! .
   • If she doesn't answer the first call or repeatedly decline the invitation without suggesting another appointment, she may not be interested in hanging out with you. Even though it seems she took the initiative to get to know you first, people are always changing their minds. Respect her decision and move forward.

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   Remember that the worst that can happen is that she will "say no". While this is common, be prepared for the possibility of being rejected when inviting a strange girl out. Being rejected by someone you know can create awkward moments in your life. The advantage of inviting a cute girl you just met at a coffee shop out is that you won't be under pressure from public opinion. Keep this in mind to boost your confidence. advertisement

Method 3 of 3: Read body language

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   At the very least, always observe her actions and words. Understanding correct body language will help you successfully invite a girl out, whether she is a stranger or a friend. This will help you guess if she likes you, before you start talking.
   • Although researchers disagree on exactly how body language plays a role in human communication, most of them agree that it's very important.

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   Look into her eyes. Look at her face and see if she looks back at you. If she doesn't look you in the eye for a long time or keeps looking away, chances are she isn't interested in dating you.
   • Remember that there are a few reasons she might not make eye contact even if she may have feelings for you. Perhaps she has a vision problem, social phobia, an autism spectrum disorder, or something else that makes it difficult to communicate without words.

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   Observe her posture. If she has feelings for you, she will look towards you and won't fold her arms across her chest.
   • Signs that she doesn't like you include crossed arms over her chest and hunched over.
   • Pay attention to context. If it's cold, don't infer for yourself that the act of crossing her arms shows that she doesn't like talking. Likewise, if you are standing at the only exit of the room, do not mistake her gaze in that direction as a sign that she likes you.
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Advice

• If a girl seems busy or in a hurry, that is not the right time to invite her out.
• Don't let another friend or two accompany you on your date. This will quickly change the situation from a "first date" to "a fun gathering with friends". If she asks about asking someone to come along, emphasize that you want to go out alone. If she insisted, perhaps she did not want to see this as an opportunity to "date". When you fall in love, there's plenty of time for the two of you to get together with your friends. Perhaps she would ask something like this: "Can I invite you?" You should reply like: "Actually, I just wanted to go out with you that night".
• The most important thing is that you need to be confident and straightforward when asking her out.