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Keeping the conversation going takes some skill, but once you know what to do, it becomes very easy. WikiHow today will give you some tips on how to maintain a conversation.

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Method 1 of 2: Understand the basics

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   Keep track of what others are saying by listening attentively. A dialogue is the flow of ideas. However, these ideas should be related. If you listen attentively to what the other person has to say, you can keep in mind important sources of information to keep the conversation going.

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   Feel what other people are trying to say. Different people love to talk about different things. Finding a topic the person likes to talk about will make the difference between an excited conversation and a forced conversation.
   • Consider what you know about the person. People love to talk about what they know. If you know one of the following facts about them then this is a good place to start:
     • Their occupation / career
     • Their interests / passions
     • Their family / friends
     • Their background / background
   • Use what you know about the other person to lead the conversation. For example, if you know the person works in education, ask them about school violence or upcoming reforms, about their first time standing on the podium.

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   Pay attention to what's going on in the world. When you start to run out of ideas, you can talk about what's going on in the world.
   • For example, you could say, "Hey, did you know that even eggs can be counterfeited? I just read the newspaper this morning and worry about the things we eat every day. What do you think?" This is a great way to draw attention and continue the conversation.

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   Make sure your body language reflects the right things. People follow your words and body language when you talk to them. In fact, according to the 7% -38% -55% principle studied by Dr. Albert Mehrabian, what we say determines only 7% of whether we are liked or not, while our body language up to 55%. {fact}} Here are some tips to improve your body language:
   • Don't cross arms - or legs. This makes the other person feel a bit arrogant.
   • Maintain moderate eye contact without staring. It's good to meet and smile at someone; But looking at them for too long can make them uncomfortable.
   • Relax your shoulders. Stress on the body can show through the shoulders. If other people notice that your shoulders are bulging, they'll feel a little apprehensive.
   • Nod frequently and lean toward them. Hunching shows attentiveness to the story, while leaning forward indicates that you have feelings for them.
   • Face the person and don't be restless. Focus entirely on them by standing across from them. Show them that you are engaged in the conversation by not fidgeting.

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   Show confidence. It is not difficult to understand that we are naturally attracted to confident people. It sounds a bit unfair, but the truth in life is: people will judge who you are through your subjective confidence. If you have high confidence and an interesting person, people will sympathize with you when the conversation lags or they will work harder to fill the gaps in the story.

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   Be prepared for times when communication doesn't work. This still happens in even the smoothest of conversations.You will unintentionally say something you shouldn't, or simply run out of ideas. This is very normal; don't blame yourself for that.
   • If that happens, smile and look them in the eye. Reassure them through body language to let them know that a story is "off topic" doesn't mean you don't like them or don't want to continue. Please wait for things to naturally return.
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Method 2 of 2: Catching the rhythm

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   Ask good questions. Everyone likes to talk about themselves. If you can find a topic that people are interested in, just one simple question can make them talk for a while. Never underestimate another person's desire to talk about themselves.
   • This is really the stage where listening plays a key role. If you do not grasp the main points of what they said, it will be very difficult to use the information collected previously as a topic for reference and questioning.

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   Limit the use of "yes / no" questions. A yes / no question kills conversation because it allows the respondent to answer very quickly and gives a minimal amount of information when answering. Ask questions that allow the other person to talk more.
   • Instead of asking "So you went to study abroad in 2016, right?" Ask "How did you feel about studying abroad in 2016?" The second question will give the person more problems to answer.
   • But if you suddenly ask "Did you go study abroad in 2016?" And they say, "Right," you can smile and go on, "Really? How's everything going?" Do not forget that almost everyone stumbles, but the repair is not too difficult. Limiting your usage doesn't mean you should never ask a yes / no question (the type of question is incredibly simple), but you should be prepared to develop content and keep the conversation going.

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   Never answer with just one word. In addition to being aware that asking a yes / no question is a good way to keep a conversation going, you also need to know that a simple answer with a single "yes" or "yes" will kill the sentence. talk immediately. Instead, give the person more information if they ask you a simple question.

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   Blow enthusiasm into questions posed to others. It's not fake excitement if you have to brace yourself when asking a question. It's not that difficult, and it will make the person feel more valued.

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   Distract attention about the clumsy situation by making a joke to clear it up. Sometimes conversation sags and silence begins to take over. Use humorous talk to comment on it. The embarrassment will be discussed; suddenly it will become something that neither of you are afraid of.
   • Say something like: "I have no intention of talking about the weather, I know we all get bored of it. I prefer to talk about you." Then ask them "What turning point in the last few years has made you so much change?"

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   Don't be afraid to dig deep. Although this is a bit difficult, many people still like to deepen the conversation because that will make them more comfortable and satisfied. If you feel that the other person wants more than just distracting, don't be afraid to move on with questions delving into the matter.
   • Only go in-depth after you've completed the steps. We do not encourage you to dig into your hands when you just say hello. A conversation is like a meal: if you want to eat the main course or dessert, you must first finish the appetizer.
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