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You will feel powerless to watch your friend go through a painful breakup, but you need to understand that changing or saving this situation is not easy. Instead, try to comfort her through her crushing grief by patiently listening to her complaints, distracting her in a sensible and enjoyable way, and advising her to stay away from her choices. making mistakes like drinking a lot of alcohol or rushing into a new relationship.

Steps

Method 1 of 2: Help you in the short term

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   Listen. Immediately after breaking up — whether the relationship lasted six months or six years — your friend will be in a confused and sad mood. She will want to talk to her troubles immediately, and sincere listening is one of the first and most meaningful steps you can take to show your interest.
   • Regardless of what the other person said was the reason for the breakup, we always ask the questions— "Shouldn't we have done it differently?" or "Can I save this?" It makes perfect sense that people feel confused when rejected, especially when they didn't expect to be rejected.

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   Be patient. It's usually easier to maintain friendships during sweet moments, so difficult times like breaking up can put a relationship in a relationship stressful and frustrating. As a friend, keep reminding yourself of her understanding and concern, even if you have to hear similar issues or stories about her grief over and over again. Be patient from start to finish.
   • If it works, remind yourself of a similar time when she helped you through the period of disappointment or unemployment. Think objectively about how she patiently with you during difficult times like that.

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   Help your friend feel sympathy. Obviously, she doesn't want to feel like you're talking to a wall, so make sure you really pay attention to the stories and issues that have been talked about to help them feel sympathy. . Try to avoid responding with cliché and meaningless statements about the breakup. At this point, she doesn't want to hear the consolation that there are still a lot of good guys out there, as it won't help her get past her current emotional state.
   • In general, say things that are both reassuring and admitting that her feelings are sensible. Avoid telling her how to look at it, such as telling her to be optimistic and not giving advice immediately unless asked.
   • For example, instead of telling her to be more optimistic, admit that the situation isn't fair.
   • This is not an opportunity to advise friends. Just repeat what they tell you to let them see you're really listening. You can acknowledge their feelings by asserting that there's nothing wrong with them.

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   Avoid repeating your breakup. Even though you want to compare her breakup situation with your previous one, don't do it right after their breakup. You might think this has something to do with your friend, but you might accidentally go over the line in the eyes of a loveless, making you seem like you're stealing their word and only interested in your own business. Give her some time to vent.

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   Preventing her from contacting her ex. Many people who are both broken in love often refuse to admit that the relationship is over. In the early stages, she may want to reach out to your ex in ways that you don't think are very effective.While it's a good idea to stop this action, don't overdo it with the outcome of the situation.
   • Chances are, she decided to contact the "ex" as soon as the incident happened, so don't be disappointed if she doesn't follow your advice.
   • Breaking up will awaken the irrational part of all of us. Prohibiting her from contacting her ex is similar to a parent's banning teenage children from doing something. She could do this just to oppose her voice.

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   Distract your friend in moderation. The emotional effects of a breakup are expressed through grief. Grief is not only a natural state, but is also essential for those who want to get through it in a healthy way. You may want to pull your friend out of the house right away to help her get rid of her crushing grief, but allow her to grieve instead of constantly pushing them to forget about the love affair. Therefore, only limit and moderately distract your friend.
   • Taking a friend out to shop or play sports from time to time is also a great way to get her out of her depression, but constantly exposing your friend to outside influences will only pull you off. prolonging a traumatic episode or may even suppress her feelings of need for relief.
   • Don't try to schedule a new date or push her into dating activities. Finding a new audience right away may not be a good thing for them.
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Method 2 of 2: Helping your friend in the long run

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   Let her find her own path. Everyone has a completely different way and time to grieve. Don't rely on length of the relationship or anything like that to determine how long the grieving state should last. Accept that she will need to find her way in her own time.
   • This may continue to test your patience level, but you absolutely cannot force it to end. Everything will be successful when the friend is ready.

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   Help your friend with everyday little tasks. Sadness often spreads in a way that can keep your friend from bothering to go shopping or keep up with other little chores we would hate to do even if we haven't had a bad breakup. While you shouldn't be taking care of your friend too well, asking for some essentials or even helping her do the laundry will be more meaningful to her than you might think.
   • By offering to help your friend with everyday small things, you will help him in a way that no one has probably asked for.

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   Have fun together. Even though you need to let your friend get through your grief for a short time, don't feel like you can't be happy with her after the breakup time. Especially for those who have been in a long relationship and have lived together, returning to the single period can cause them to feel a loss of some part or their personal worth. If you plan to have dinner together every week or have other common habits, stick to it as soon as she is ready.
   • These actions can restore normal life and help your friend get back up.
   • Remember that forgetting someone is not a straightforward process. Even when he returns to his favorite habits, he will still have good times and sad times. So avoid urging or persuading them to get back to where they were. Your friend is always looking for you for a safe, nonjudgmental friendship.
   • This might be an ideal time for the two of you to try on a new adventure. Sign up for new experiences, like a hot air balloon trip or a weekend out of town.

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   Keep track of your friend's alcohol consumption. Though discouraged, it's normal to let her get as drunk as she wants for the first night or two after falling in love. However, when it comes to the rebounding phase of the breakup, make sure she doesn't turn to drugs or alcohol to relieve her depression.
   • In addition to the dangers of addiction, a healthy body quickly produces a clear mind, and no one has enough time to sleep, eat or exercise when they party too much.

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   Focus on the things that make your ex feel better. While it is not advisable to avoid or suppress the pain of falling in love, these feelings will usually subside in the days that follow. The transition of negative emotions into positive activities is seen as a way of purification. Find out what activities she is engaged in to clear emotional hurts and encourage her.
   • Your friend can increase his exercise, take part in painting or play an instrument, or even double his productivity to get promoted. Always be willing to support your friends with positive actions along with effective ways to manage the situation.

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   Let her be angry. During a painful breakup, anger often comes after times of confusion, denial, and sadness. Anger means that the friend has accepted to be rejected and overcame his current loss. Even though she shouldn't be angry for negative behavior or violence, being angry alone is not a sign of going back down.
   • Even so, don't let her think that all women or men are evil or have a change of heart. Not everyone is a bad guy when only one person hurts you.

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   Prevent her from jumping into another relationship. If she hadn't been loved and pampered by her ex-boyfriend in the past, she may look for this in another false relationship. Just like creating too many distractions for your friend, these are all bad ideas — because distractions are often the opposite of behavior.
   • Try to prevent her from "jumping" into another relationship if things go that way, but remember to approach this in the same way you would approach someone who is trying to get in touch. Old love. In other words, don't intervene so deeply that it annoys you if your friend is still doing this and shouldn't be stubbornly forbidding, making them do it just to purposefully provoke you.
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Advice

• Make her smile every time you get a chance. Make her smile happily.
• Let your friend know that you are there for her; Sometimes small things mean a lot to her in the present moment.
• Don't force your friend to tell them what happened. She will let you know when she is ready.
• Give your friend some space if they need / want to give them time to think more clearly.
• Hold your friend when she cries, and tell her that you will always love and be with her.
• Avoid letting a lot of friends "help" together, as that can seem overwhelming. A friend or two is the most sensible.