Knowing who you are

Video: Do You Know who You Are? | Bob Proctor

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Part 1 of 3: Taking a closer look at yourself
Part 2 of 3: Asking yourself the important questions
Part 3 of 3: Explore how you connect with others
Tips
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Beyoncé once said, "Knowing who you are is the greatest wisdom a person can possess. Know what your goals are, what you love, what your moral values are, your needs, your standards, what you will not tolerate and where. you want to die for. This defines who you are. " That's right. However, also keep in mind that who you are, as you age and deal with different types of people and experiences, develops over time. If you have trouble defining who you are, use self-reflection to discover your truest self.

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Part 1 of 3: Taking a closer look at yourself

Decide what you like and don't like. People often concentrate most on what they love. While it is important to determine what brings you pleasure or joy, it is also helpful to find out what is causing you to feel unhappy or dissatisfied. One of the first steps to self-reflection is to sit down to list all the things you love and hate.
- What you like or dislike is often part of the way you describe yourself to others. These are things that may set us apart from others or create a relationship with those around us. By understanding these things you will know where you want to work towards in your life, and where you want to stay far from. Knowing your likes and dislikes can help you make career choices, where you want to live, your hobbies, and what kind of people you gather around you.
- Use this to see if your likes and dislikes are too rigid. Do you limit yourself too much? Is there something you would like to do or try out that doesn't fit with how you see yourself on paper? Grab your courage to try something that is completely new to you. Who knows, you might reveal another side of yourself.
Examine your strengths and those sides of yourself that need to be worked on. Just as your preferences can give you a particularly good insight into who you are, this also applies to being aware of those things that you are good at or not very good at. List your strengths and weaknesses on another piece of paper.
- For most people, strengths or talents can overlap with preferences, and weaker points overlap with aversions. Suppose you love cakes, cookies and patties, and baking is one of your strong points - the two go together. On the other hand, you may not like sports and have trouble with body coordination or stamina.
- In many cases, your weaknesses will become things you hate because by nature you're not really good at them. This tells you why you like or dislike something.
- Simply knowing these things is meaningful in itself. But you can dig even deeper and decide if you want to work on improving one of the things you find difficult, or if you want to put your energy into things you are already good at.
Consider what makes you feel comfortable. We can learn a lot about ourselves when we feel our best, but we can also build a lot of understanding through those times when we don't feel so great. Think carefully about the last time (or times) you felt down or tense. What kind of reassurance were you looking for at such a time? What made you feel better?
- Knowing what calms you down tells you a lot about yourself as a person. You may always enlist the help of a certain person to boost your mind or to change your mind. You may be watching your favorite movies or escaping the pages of your favorite book. Eating can be your source of reassurance, a common reason for people who process their emotions by eating.
Record your thoughts and emotions in a journal. A great way to learn more about yourself is to observe your own thoughts and feelings. Do this for a week or more to get a broader picture of the topics that constantly come to mind, or signal mood states that you experience regularly. Are your thoughts positive? Negative?
- Going through your journal can reveal several subtle statements about a direction you would like to take in your life but are not immediately aware of. Who knows, you may be constantly writing about your need to travel, about a particular person you like or a new hobby you want to start.
- After discovering recurring themes in your journal, take a moment to think about what these thoughts and feelings mean - and whether you want to act on them.
Take a personality test. Another method to learn more about yourself is to take a personality test online. Some people hate to be pigeonholed, while for others, labeling themselves and their own behavior creates order in their lives. If you are a person who likes to understand themselves better by examining how much you look like (or differ from them), then taking a free online personality test can be helpful.
- Websites like HumanMetrics.com ask you to answer a series of questions about your preferences and how you view the world or yourself. This tool then analyzes your answers to provide you with a personality type that can help you understand which areas of interest or jobs you would thrive in, as well as how you communicate with those around you.
- Keep in mind that free online tests cannot be considered fully valid. These tests can give you a general idea of who you are. However, if you want an in-depth analysis of your personality, you will need to make an appointment with a clinical psychologist.

Part 2 of 3: Asking yourself the important questions

Dig even deeper to find out what your core values are. Your values are basic standards to which you are attached and which influence your decisions, behavior and attitude. These are beliefs or principles that you stand for or want to fight for: family, equality, justice, peace, gratitude, reliability, honesty, integrity, etc. If you do not know what your core values are, you cannot verify whether your choices are makes them consistent with them. You can recognize your own core values by:
- Think about two people you admire. What qualities do you admire in these people?
- Think about a time when you were really proud of yourself. How did that happen? Did you help someone? Achieved a goal? Were you standing up for your rights or those of others?
- Think about which topics you are most involved with in your society or the world. These can include but are not limited to government, the environment, education, feminism, crime, etc.
- Consider which three items you would save if your house were on fire (assuming all living things have already been brought to safety). Why do you want to save those three things?
Ask yourself whether or not you are living a life that you are proud of. In the famous words of F. Scott Fitzgerald, "I hope you live a life that you are proud of. When you find yourself not being proud, I hope you can find the strength to start over." If you were to die today, do you think you left a legacy you hoped for?
Ask yourself what you'd love to do if money wasn't an issue. As children, we often have particularly ambitious dreams for ourselves. As we get older, we change those dreams, under pressure from society. Go back in time when you had an unmistakable dream of doing something, a dream you put aside because it wasn't the right time or because you didn't have enough money. Write down how you'd like to spend your days if you didn't have to think about your financial condition. How would you live your life?
Determine what your life would be like if you were not afraid of failure. We often miss out on great opportunities or do not dare to seize opportunities because we are afraid of falling on our nose. Self-doubt can rule your entire life if you don't work to overcome it. Unfortunately, it can also have a strong impact on the number of "what if" moments you have as you get older. Here are a few ways to overcome your performance anxiety if you think it's keeping you from becoming the person you want to be:
- Failure is necessary. When we make mistakes, we can evaluate our actions and refine our methods. We grow and learn through failure.
- Visualize your success. One way to get rid of performance anxiety is to constantly introduce yourself while achieving your goals.
- Continue to persevere. Keep going toward your goals despite setbacks. It is often the case that we reach our wildest dreams just when we want to give up. Don't let small failures lose sight of the bigger picture.
Ask others what their interpretation is of you as a person. Once you've asked yourself these other questions, ask a few people who mean a lot to you who they think you are. Their assessment can be a list of traits or an example of certain moments that, in their opinion, sum up you as a person.
- After asking the opinions of several family members or friends, consider their answers. How did they describe you? Were you surprised at their comments? Did it make you angry? Do these views match the person you want to be, or how you view yourself?
- If you care about the opinions of these people, then you may ask yourself what you need to do to make the way they view you more consistent with how you view yourself. You may have a distorted view of yourself and will need to reassess your action.

Part 3 of 3: Explore how you connect with others

Find out if you are an introvert or an extrovert. If you took a personality test online, it may be that introversion extraversion was one of the factors you answered questions about. These are terms used by Carl Jung that describe what you draw energy from in your life - either from the internal or external world.
- Introvert describes a person who gets energy from exploring the inner world of thoughts, ideas, memories and reactions. These people enjoy seclusion and may prefer to spend time with one or two people with whom they have a relationship. They can be reflective or reserved. Extrovert describes a person who derives energy through interaction with the outside world. They enjoy being involved in a variety of activities and interacting with all kinds of people. They become enthusiastic when they have people around them. They may take action before they have fully thought through a decision.
- Many popular interpretations describe introverts as shy and withdrawn, while extroverts are said to be sociable and open. These interpretations are incorrect because most researchers have found that these properties span a certain spectrum. No one is 100% introverted or outgoing, but most of the time people, under certain circumstances, lean to one side or the other.
Determine what kind of friend you are. Knowing who you are also includes knowing your expectations, feelings, and actions regarding friendship. Think about old friendships.Do you like to talk to your friends every day or a Blue Monday? Do you often organize drinks or are you just the person who is invited? Do you appreciate having a good time with friends? Do you share intimate details about yourself with your friends or are you very reticent about what you say? Do you try to cheer / encourage your friends when they are feeling down? Are you dropping everything for a friend in need? Do you have reasonable demands on friendships (i.e. don't expect your friends to always be there for you or just your friends)?
- Once you have asked yourself these questions, determine if you are satisfied with the kind of friend you are. If not, talk to your friends and ask for advice on how to be a better friend in the future.
Evaluate the people around you. It is said that you are the average of the five people closest to you. The idea is based on the law of the mean: the outcome of a given event will be based on the mean of all possible outcomes. Relationships are no exception to this rule. The people you spend the most time with will have a strong influence on you - whether you want to or not. Take a good look at your closest relationships, because these people also define who you are.
- Of course you are who you are, capable of making your own choices and forming your own conclusions. Still, the people around you will affect your life in countless ways. They can introduce you to new food, fashion, books and music. They can point you to jobs. They can stay up late to party with you. They can cry on your shoulder after a breakup.
- Can you recognize something about yourself based on the people in your immediate environment? Are you happy with what stuck? Simply put, when you are surrounded by positive, optimistic people, you will feel and behave that way. If you are mainly surrounded by negative, pessimistic people, such attitudes can also darken your life. If you want to know who you are, look around for the answer.
Think about the things you do when you are alone. What you do with others says a lot about you, but what you do when you are alone also. Often times we are very strongly influenced by our social groups to think, do and feel in a certain way. However, when we are all alone, we come closest to our true selves - largely untouched by society.
- When you are alone, how do you spend your time? Are you sad when you are alone? Are you satisfied? Are you quietly reading somewhere? Do you play loud music and dance in front of the mirror? Do you fantasize about your wildest dreams?
- Think about these things and what they say about you.

Tips

Take several days or weeks to think extensively about each of these exercises so that you can discover your true self. Don't do all of these exercises at once.
Embrace who you are, no matter what anyone says. Only you can be yourself!